Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies

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For gorgeous, frolicking and fabulous 40-somethings to share the joys of becoming a Mummy, just a little bit later than most!! . Park your zimmer-frame next to your baby buggy, put your feet up, and come and join us in the snug.

Hello ladies, just popping in to reassure myself there is life after pg! Ages to go for me yet!

Just need to get through stupid Tribunal before LO born..... Do not want it hanging over my head ruining everything as it has done for last 5 years...

bbd DD was really funny when we first moved back...she would say things like 'I did do it' 'I did say it' for je l'ai fait or je l'ai dit', and make infinitives from English verbs like French ones...

Still not really met any nice mums-to-be around here...it's hard work meeting people. Hoping when I go to NCT classes I will....

You all sound like you're doing amazingly...I can't wait!

Having the freakiest dreams....last night, dreamt I had a little girl (who told me she wanted to be called Maelys!)... will hopefully find out tomorrow, as I have scan!

BadMiss, my niece is called Maelys, beautiful in French but in English, can sound strange ! Good luck for the scan tomorrow

Hello!

C-section set for 4th April so am officially lurking. Hello bbd, Valium queen, littleredmonkey, bytheseaside - are knotty hair and fjord about? These ladies helped me through that awful first three months.

Hello to all those Ive not met.

Eagle bbd so soothed by your posts esp those small (epic) sleep triumphs. Just need to hear the voices of those on the other side as starting to get the fear!

Xxx

And midgetm! You used to make me laugh

Xx

I lost you all I've found you again (thanks LRM). Will catch up properly later x

Hello Midget, what have you baked lately ? Make us hungry ! :)
Somewhere, 4th April, less than a month ! Looking forward to having you and LO.
Goat, Seaside, VQ, hope your LO started to behave sleepwise. My little A has definitively forgotten how to fall asleep by herself. I have not got the strenght to train her again.... LRM, I need your strong will on this.
Eagle, how was sightseeing this afternoon ?

Bbd. Hey honey. Ah little Anastasia bless her. I have not be to great last week but back with a vengeance. Bloody fecking hv. When I went to weigh Dylan I said struggling with day naps and feeding before naps. Not now changed to after she was oh you shouldn't be doing that. No solution so got quite down but ok now. I feed him after now and have taken a chill pill and when he wants to nap we go at Dylan's pace if it takes ages so be it. I still cuddle do routine and put him down awake he grumbles I only pick up on crys then settle then put down takes on average one or two. He is half asleep when he goes down so he is learning slowly. Bbd she will find her way again twinkle just get a large glass of wine at the end of the day
Went to a baby group yesterday in the village very good. Got pictures and a scrap book to fill in. Thumbs up council they can do stuff well. Staff fab. So going to cut out robot shapes today to use as a theme.
Hi to all. Glad you found the way midget.
Eagle. Sounds like baby e is coming on a treat. All those stressful first few weeks have melted away.
Lost 2 stone ladies oh and a pound so quite chuffed. More still to go but super focused on my size 12 goal

Badmiss. Oh how exciting scan day. Let us know how you get on. Waddle back and share! !! The fear I remember it but dont let it spoil things for you. I use to wake for hours at night worrying thinking back u should have chilled more. You will get looked after in your mat ward. Yes you will shit yourself but they have done it millions of times relax and get that blue /pink blanket ready. Baby m is coming very soon. Summer walk with your pram proud of your little one looking up at mummy and you can say I did that thats my little baby.

good luck with the scan BadmissM

welcome Somewhere - great to see you here. Won't be long til you are officially on board this thread!

BBD - sightseeing didn't happen in the end as once we had had lunch in a cafe, I felt I had done enough! We will go another day though (finding a daily outing great for fitness and sanity)

LRM - well done on the 2 stone weight loss! Sorry you felt down after speaking to HV - do whatever works for you

Midget - looking forward to hearing your updates and baking stories!

We had quite a bad night last night - lots of waking/feeding, but I did manage to sleep long enough to have a horrible dream where I boarded a bus with both my boobs out

We walked into town today and I met a friend for coffee, then did a bit of shopping. Got home to find the front door open - luckily hadn't been burgled... Also the cake I bought for lunch had fallen out of the pram - more upset about that than I am about the door being open. Maybe it was meant to be - stuffing one's self with baked goods is not condusive to weight loss apparently.

Hello all. I have been lurking for ages thanks to horrendous nights. Three hours per night has been a good night but two of the last three nights have not been bad at all, despite resorting to cosleeping, so vague humanness is back on the horizon.
Six weeks into weaning and Kid has finally realised that he can pick up his own food and put it in his mouth. If he can't get it there however, he just squishes it all over his hand and licks it off! He is also determined to spoon feed himself so there are some interesting moments as we co-manoeuvre various purees into his mouth via something resembling a mutant face pack. Current finger food favourites are pear and toast. Current purée favourites - well, anything, really, though mango and banana, and sweet potato mixed with chicken stock seem to disappear fairly rapidly.
So unfortunately Kid has been really unwell for a little while, hence the bad nights I guess. His eczema is driving him nuts, thiugh the Aveeno lotion the hospital pharmacy finally got in today seems to wt least soothe it, and he has had D&V pretty thoroughly. Still has the D bit actually, and we are suspecting a dairy intolerance. As formula currently seems to exit as rapidly as it enters (sorry tmi!). Also wheezy all the time and really stuffed up at night poor thing. All a bit of a worry, especially a whole week of diarrhoea. Went to see the HV today, who was just crap - lrm I am so anti at the moment that I would probably automatically suggest doing the opposite of any advice! (Don't feed to sleep? Why bloody not? We sometimes do and sometimes don't. Much less than we did. Didn't cause a reliance at all.) we have an appointment next week (though not with Kid's lovely paediatrician) so will see what happens there. I had to cancel a KIT day on Monday as couldn't leave him with childminder. It was supposed to be his trial day. Oh well. He still seems pretty happy during the day, and is full on practising rocking on all fours prior to crawling. Also loves standing up! So plenty of energy there I think!
bbd oh my, are BG and Anastasia in consultation on how to make our nights a misery? I hope things are improving for you!
bad missm hope you enjoyed your scan. Tell us all!
somehwere welcome! On the big countdown now.
eagle is young Eaglet named?
Hello to midget seaside vq scarecrow and anyone else I have forgotten in my addled state.
Oh yes and a meet up would be lovely! Somewhere that it doesn't matter that BG is incapable of sitting still for longer than two seconds would be good...

I offer white chocolate and peanut butter cookies. Hope to make a cherry pie tomorrow to use up the kirsch soaked cherries currently languishing in the fridge.

Just to say, scan all brilliant, somographer great and looked at EVERYTHING and explained EVERYTHING.

I'm having a little baby boy!!!

badmissm hooray! Lovely news now for all the exciting planning!

Might have to rethink that name though!

Wow BadMiss how amazing!! Just so filled with thanks and relief for you. What an adventure. And you can always call your lovely DD your special girl now :) Enjoy the relief and joy with family. Sleep tight x

Genial BadMiss ! So happy for you ! And so happy you had a wonderful sonographer, at last one brilliant appointment for you ! Have you thought about boy's name yet ? There is no male version for Maelys as fas as I know :)
Goat, sorry to hear that you had such stressful time, I think our kids have agreed silently last time we met to make our nights difficult ! But hey, they will get bored soon, keep our fingers crossed ! Your cherry pie sounds delicious. I might move in with you too. A few days with Midget, a few days with you.
We had 2 not too bad nights, with A waking up only once around 11.30pm and sleeping then until 7/7.30am, DS has been feverish, so my nights are still quite broken but I am confident we will get there soon.
LRM don't let hv put you down, you are doing brilliantly, D looks so grown up, sitting so straight in his highchair, he and A have the same haircut :) thanks for your support re naps. I will try to get out of the house around her nap time, she does now fall asleep in the buggy, as Scarecrow said, doing so at least I won't feed nor rock her to sleep but I'd rather have her in her cot which I think is much more comfortable... And I could sleep too.
My neighbours are very noisy tonight, if one of my kids wakes up, there will be murder, I can tell you ....
Sleep tight cute LOs and wonderful Mums

Badmiss. Lovely news honey. A little man. name ideas please? Oh the decorating the clothes. Lots of exciting mummy stuff to do. Right chuffed for ya. Thats me up North chat.
Goat. Big hug and fairy sleep dust for you all. Poor Mathew bless him but lord lady he is eating and wow trying to walk very impressed. Hope his exema clears up I have it so I know how annoying it is for me. Big hugs to him
Bbd. Hope Anastasia is ready to let you have a good night and ds is feeling better
Need midget to set up the snug with some baked goods. I am shite at cooking so will pop to Selfridges and get something for us all. Shall we redecorate the snug I am thinking a tropical beach theme. Mini tents for little ones no sun just a warm breeze.

Baby monkey last night in his Moses basket. His head is hitting the top now. Big boys cot. He is 5 months today. Any tips ladies

Ooh yes to the tropical beach, can we have some Caribbean Sea to swim in please?
Learned to make supersonic mojitos in Cuba. Also perhaps pavlova is good warm weather material? Naturally being Antipodean I am a pavlova queen!

LRM - will babyM be in same room? If crib not yet in cot, maybe do that for 2 or 3 nights. Then important he feels snug still - if you don't swaddle him put in sleep bag and ten maybe put a sheet or cellular blanket over him, across ways, so you can tuck in tight under mattress. I moved DD for her best nap first. And if cot is in a diff room spent some extra time in there playing etc.
ime this often easier than you fear, and if he needs resettling a couple of times in first nights don't worry, as long as he gets no "treats" like cuddles and songs (just retuck, han on tummy maybe) he'll soon get used to it.
Bless your big little boy. (And do get a pic of his first night in big cot - then when he moves into a proper bed (!) you can compare!!)
Good luck x

We have no boys names at all. DH arguing for Beowulf.... I'd better get thinking :-)

Beowulf
How about Thor?...

Yes, warrior name for little boy, mark, darius, alexander....

scarecrow what amazing parenting advice! I've been using the 'positive instructions' thing since you said it - it does work. I always wondered why when I said 'find something else to do' he always would obey! But never 'stop that'.

I have no newborn parenting advice as a) so long ago (ds now 4) and b) he was the most awful sleeper -woke 5 or six times a night till he was 9 months then a sort of two steps forward one step back controlled crying stumble towards improvement which culminated in... Cosleeping! Which was the best sleep ever.

eagle so gorgeous to hear about baby eagle's first smiles. How are you feeling now? That wrap almost sounds like a person it's such a big part of your life would you recommend it?

bbd wow 11-7.30 at seven months? Any secrets or just that's how it panned out?

goatbongos your situation actually reminds me of me. I hope you are getting support and I do think if cosleepibg works and nothing else does do it do it do it. What is the story behind your extraordinary name?

I am out tonight! Without BG!!!!
I feel as if I have forgotten something.

somewhere my name arises from me playing the bodhran... My sister calls it Irish bongos and my DH calls it goat whacking, so a mix of the two!

BG is now definitely mobile. His crawling tactic consists of legs forward - flop on tummy - arms forward - resume all fours position - repeat ad infinitum. Slow but effective! I am reminded of Dr Nefario in Despicable Me...

Hey scarecrow. Thanks. Have washed all new bedding ready. Just put him to sleep in his basket at night for the final time. Head stuck on the top. His crib is in his room. No space in our bedroom. He has been sleeping in his basket in his crib for a few weeks so he knows the smell of the room. Dropped the basket in the crib so he can see the bars this last week. Sleeps very well. Bed at 7ish then wakes once or twice for a feed and rise and shine at 6:30 ish so not to bad for a five month old. I have been putting him in his sleeping bag for months so very use to it. I have cellular blanket ready and top blanket. Will tuck him in tight. Not swaddled since week 3.
I have everything crossed. Early night as he was shite at naps today. Had to take him out three times so thats about 3 hours of walking with him in his carry cot. Plus he has not had a poo since Saturday. Lord it is going to be a monster!!! Went to the chemist and got some drops to help things move on abit.

LRM - what a pro! Hope it goes well - really sounds like you will not have a problem.

Somewhere - glad we are migrating here about the same time Happy birthday, btw (for today or yesterday, in case you are now having a wild celebration...or better still asleep).

Goat - lots of sympathy for lack of sleep. How you are staying sane I have no idea. I have half a memory that prem babies are harder to get into "good" (from mummy's pov) sleep patterns - am I right? Is that part of the problem do you think. Somewhere's son sounds lovely so I'd be inclined to listen to her. Though much as I love the idea if co- sleeping the reality with my DD is ghastly restlessness, punctuated with her trying to strike up conversation every few hours. Girls: chatter-bloomin-boxes.

Waves to you all and your amazing sounding babies (and culinary skills) x