is 33 too late for a second baby?

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Hi, I have a seven years old DD from my first marriage. i am now happily married second time and my husband loves my little girl. we are thinking of trying for a baby next year sometime but i also want to study for a second degree and i will be 29 this year!
I don't know which one to do first? And my DD keeps asking when she will have a sister or brother? Another degree will be 3 years more so will i be too old at the age of 33?

Hiya,

Too old in what way? Do you mean energy levels? Health? Fertility?

I'm 33 and thinking of trying for a third baby so I obviously don't think it's too old! What are your concerns specifically?

Of course not...

Too old at 33?? Absolutely NOT. I had my DS1 at 34 and DS2 at 36. I dont feel too old to be a parent. And many of the parents at DS1 school are about my age and even older. So no. definately not! The hardest thing I expect will be getting used to having a bay around the house after so many years - I reckon you'd kind of forget what it was like....all those sleepless nights

Too old for a baby at 33? Most people I know didn't have kids until they were at least this old so I'm not sure why you think it would be too old. I guess you also have to think about the age your daughter will be when you have your baby as well and what sort of relationship they will have with a ten year age gap?

No of course not. But I guess you also need to consider the age gap - it will be at least 10 years between children rather than 7 years.

I had my 2nd about 5 weeks before my 40th birthday.

Too old?!! You are young!
I had my first at 29 and my last at 40. I have never felt too old as their mother. I t is very common.

Can you not do OU for your degree while trying/having/rearing a baby??
And to answer your question-NO it`s not too old to be having a baby!!

hhahahahaah

i had my first at 33, my third at 39.

I was 33 having my first and am having my second at 34... I don't think.33 is too old at all!

Good grief. Too old at 33!?

can you not do both? you can suspend your studies for a year once the baby is born.

I don't think 33 is too old but I don't really see why you would put it off if you've decided it's what you both want, not for the reason given anyway. You can do a degree and have a baby, harder to do something like, have a baby and save for a deposit or clear debt. It just doesn't sound like a big enough reason to put it off for me

I had my first at 34 and second at 36. I'm more tired this time round but that's because two is more than twice the work.

33 is a pretty good age for dc2 I reckon. That would have been my choice if ds1 hadn't taken so long to be conceived.

None of the first-time mums I met at NCT were under 35, so a 2nd at 33 seems quite young to me. I had my first at 39 and am sort of maybe trying for a second at 42.

4th at 33, 5th at 36 (almost 37). My oldest was 11 when the youngest was born.
My mum had us at 31, 33, 35 and that was back when most women had babies a lot younger.

If the degree is important for your career, get it out of the way first.

33is certainly not too old!

However my mum had 10yrs between her and her brother, she remembers playing with him a little but he moved on to other interests very quickly and they had really no relationship. Im not saying thats how its going to be, but if the age gap is important in your decision perhaps you need to hear more advice from people who have been there :).

Ps im just finishing my degree with a 6mo, you could always start then take a year out for baby, least then when you do get some free time (when they decide to sleep in tge evenings?!) you can use tgat time to swot up for the next bit :) x

I'm 40 and only just thinking about a second child.

Hold the phone! I had DS at 34 and DD at 36 and I am coping. A girl in my NCT group was 45ish and had twins; she's doing great.

I think 33 is well in the 'normal' zone these days.

Hope not. Just had my first at 36!

I had my 2nd at 33 and then my 3rd at 36. My friend just had her 1st at 35.

Gosh, i was only a month off being 33 when i had my first baby. Second one was 3 years later (3 weeks off being 36).

I found being pregnant the second time very tiring but i think that had more to do with having a lively toddler to cope with rather than my age.

So no - 33 isn't too old to have a baby.

Err no.

I had mine at 34.

Technically no but how will you feel if you wait until then and then can't deliver a live baby? You need to decided what you really can't live without.

Odd question really.

YouAREworthIt what a fricking insensitive and weird thing to say!