is 33 too late for a second baby?

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Hi, I have a seven years old DD from my first marriage. i am now happily married second time and my husband loves my little girl. we are thinking of trying for a baby next year sometime but i also want to study for a second degree and i will be 29 this year!
I don't know which one to do first? And my DD keeps asking when she will have a sister or brother? Another degree will be 3 years more so will i be too old at the age of 33?

It's not 'brave' to have a baby in your 30s.... It's ridiculously common to have a baby in your 30s. I'm really confused as to why you would even think 33 is too old.

Absolutely not x

Personally I'd go for it now
I can't see the point of doing the degree ,getting pregnant halfway through, etc etc
Have the baby then establish your career

EH? Do yo mean 43? i am 34 and expecting my 4th.

Brave? I've just had my second at 40. I'm not ready for the Old Gimmers' Home yet y'know. It isn't that bloody old. People even have sex when they're 40!

Brave? How about 'normal'?

Had first DC @ 41 and second at 42 - I don't like to rush these things. I think it'll be more about considering the age gap and the family dynamics rather than you being too old!

I'm sure she meant 'brave' as in fertility starts dropping at 30 and it's risky to not start trying for a baby before then if you know you will want one.

LOL!!!

DS at 37
DD three weeks before 41

Normal not brave. Duh!

Risky? Brave? Seriously?! What the flip?!

I have a 7 year age gap between my first and my 3rd and my first and I'm 32 dd is only 4 months, the pregnancy, our financial situation and the baby herself I find so much easier than with the first and second and 7yo dream is a massive help and adores the baby.

Where do you live OP, I'd hardly call it brave, normal for society today.

I had DD at 34 and DS at 38. Both conceived within two months of TTC.

HTH.

The odd ones,sadly,in my area are the young mums. Late 30s and early 40s are common.

I'm 43 and still wondering about having a 3rd despite having had 2 miserable pregnancies (at 36 and 39) and being overweight and having plenty of other factors that should warn me off!

I think at 33 these days you'll be considered a normal age to be having a baby, certainly not old!

Go for it and enjoy your family :o

I'm not sure what you mean by "brave" OP, but in response to your original question, 33 is not too late for a second baby.

The social work degree programme is very practice centred so you would be on placement a lot. This would mean working half eight until five in quite intense settings then doing coursework in the evenings/ at weekends. It's hard, but other parents do manage it. In addition to the academic requirements you also need recent and relevant experience which you should perhaps bear in mind for working out timescales.

Why is it sad exoticfruits?

NO! Of course it isn't. Good grief.

i meant brave as in after 30 pregnancy carries more risks and also i don't think i have the same level of energy as when i had my DD at 22! I live in london and i know that many women have babies in their 30s and 40s but i always thought that will be done giving birth by 30!
i want both degree and a baby! just have to decide which one first.....reckon baby will be first after reading all your posts....thanks

Yes, the risks are statistically greater as you get older but are you really worried about not having enough energy at 33 ?

Is there something else you're worried about as well, I've never met anyone who would give a second thought to having a baby at 33.

Not read entire thread, apologies.

Just to say in answer to your OP.....NO! I bloody hope not anyway.

I'm 34 this year. Have an 8 year old DD and am single.

I am desperate for more children. I need to a) find a man b) keep hold of him c)get pregnant.

If I met somebody tomorrow then, getting to know each other and then leaving it a reasonable time (not into marriage so not fussed about that) so I'm looking at another 12 months - I'll be coming up to 35.

So, no, 33 is not too old for a baby.

Don't be daft, lass

Most people I know didn't even get started till they were 35. I just had my 3rd at 40, and a dear friend will be 42 when she has her third.

Just do it when it feels right for you. Planning this stuff isn't really possible...

Yes, planning things really doesn't help.

I was 25, in line for a Management position and looking to buy my own place.

Then fell for DD and within 2 years was living on benefits in a council house!

Luckily things have gone up and up since then (bar a couple of blips).

So, planning really isn't the best way to do things arf!

Actually, wish I could find the article from the Guardian not long ago, the risks to mother and child do not dramatically increase after 30. The main issue for older mothers is with potential decline in fertility after 35.

That's interesting.