is it odd for MIL to share bath with 4.5 yo daughter?

[elizaregina]

my daughter suddenly said the other day that sometimes grandma shares a bath with her!!!I have to admit my first reaction is WTF. I dont share a bath with her anymore, not for a long time, nothing agaisnt it for me but just prefer showers!
I dont like my MIL but if this was also something I had found out about my own mother i wouldnt be comfy with that either? has anyone else had this or think its odd or ok!!!

Stuff the 'tricky people'. Your DD comes first. You don't have to see someone who is unpleasant, just because it makes them happy, even if you get a quiet life. As far as I can work out, they screwed up big style, and if you take DD round to keep them happy, then how can it be good for any of you. And think carefully about what message you are sending DD. Preserve your own sanity first, and respect what your DD is telling you. She is only little, and needs you to stand up for her, and to see you doing so, if she is going to learn to stand up firmly but politely for herself in the future. She needs to know that if she has a good reason for not wanting to visit someone, then she doesn't have to go.

DD had one crappy GP, now dead, but I do not believe DD missed out by not having her in her life (when she was alive that is). I did not believe it benefitted DD to go round and see me being treated appallingly, and her father being sidelined in front of his siblings. When there isn't a grandparent, often other people step into and are welcomed into a child's life. Encourage close relationships with 'appropriate' people - they do not necessarily have to be blood relatives.

changeforthebetter

not sure what MH issues are. My MIL loathes me, and I dont like the way i feel in thier home, but they do love thier gc, they are warmer to her than me or DH.
whether they are more relaxed with her in the house i dont know, but if she doesnt want to go - she doesnt want to go. You also have to give allowances for cultrual diff - the germans are known for thier cleaning, but even MIL sister and mother are slighty more relaxed than her!

We took DD to see Great GM in Germany, she was lovely smiling old lady, but DD didnt take to her. We went to the MIL sister house with the Great GM too, she was better with her and we popped out for an hour. We thought if we werent there maybe she would warm to Great Gm more, however they said they tried to brush her hair and had to leave it.
The one thing my daughter hates and screams over is her hair being brushed, they saw us doing it and her crying, so why they chose to bond over that......I did say to DH there is nothing we can do, they just dont seem to have a clue and if you suggest anything they take it very offensivley...like you are trying to tell them how to bring up children.
I have a very large family, I have lots of aunts and uncles who do all sorts of diff things, I have 29 cousins in all sorts of professions and have been out and about pre child and i can honestly say I have never encountered anything like these people or even heard of it.