Feel terrible Poor kid

[mandieb]

On Monday it was a party day at my sons school (6 years old ) and they could all wear their own clothes .One child ,David ) not his real name ) came in uniform . I was doing my usual volunteer 20 minutes reading session . And you could see he was getting upset even I was getting a bit choked at this point so I said come and talk to me and I said I would try and sort some thing out . So off we went to reception and asked the lady to telephone mum to see if she could bring some clothes in . No reply so I said " may be shes gone shopping " David says " nah shes in bed ,shes always in bed " I had some spare clothes in my car so I gave them to him to use (boy did he smile) At the end of the day he said he would bring them back tomorrow .Ok no problem I didnt expect to get them back anyway and I wasnt too concerned they were my boys play clothes only from Tescos and not expensive . This morning he gave them back to me in a carrier bag I said thankyou so much . When I felt them they were still wet I couldnt help it I thought lazy bitch she couldnt be bothered to dry them . Then I said to David I really appreciate you giving me the clothes back did mummy wash them or did you do it he said " oh I did it " well I said that was very kind of you. When he had gone I promptly and quietly cried ,that poor little 6 year old if I had known I would have said dont worry about washing them darling I can do it . He is 6 FGS I bet she dosnt bother to get out of bed and get hes breakfast either .

A story to break your heart.
That sort of thing kills me.
Does he seem well enough cared for???

Poor kid. No wonder you cried. Does anything else seem out of place with him?

Poor Little Bugger

sounds really sad... but could be explainable!

kids don't always tell the truth! just because he says she's always in bed doesn't mean she is.
bringing back wet clothes doesn't mean she couldn't be bothreed to dry them... not everyone has a drier!!!!

If I had one wish, it would be to have a lie in, not had one for months and am knackered..............but I am a mother, so tough titty I have to get up and care for my kids, It's part of motherhood.................SELFISH COW!!!!! and poor boy

Can you ask anyone at the school about him? Not right that a 6-year-old's mum is in bed all day and he does the washing He needs someone at home to ask him about his day and cook his tea and help him with his homework and cuddle him

oh for goodness sake... i think you're all overreacting a bit!!!

now no-one cooks his tea and asks about his day???

maybe his mum is really ill and that's why she is in bed a lot, perhaps the boy wasn't telling the whole truth

don't jump to conclusions

This isnt the first time there is history ,the schoold had to get involved and say that they would not let David walk home by him self and there had to be someone to collect him from school ,so his sister who is in year 5 collects him . His uniform is always and I mean always dirty .

This isnt the first time there is history ,the schoold had to get involved and say that they would not let David walk home by him self and there had to be someone to collect him from school ,so his sister who is in year 5 collects him . His uniform is always and I mean always dirty .

SL, why do you always play devil's advocate? Always, always, always?

how did that get there twice .

all i am doing is pointing out that none of you know what this child's home life is really like

it's very easy to sit there and say oh poor kid, no-one loves him etc etc etc

but you don't know anything about him!

His mum if you can call her that likes a drink shall we say ,I have seen her maxium three times in three years in being at the school .

This is the sort of thing you are told to look at on child protection courses.
On its own its not an issue. However it may be a good idea to note what has happened so that if his attendance goes down or things dont seem right etc theres a written record not just humming and haing about thinking something wasnt right.

sorry but we've gone from a kid at school who happens not to wear own clothes one day to:

his mum doesn't give him breakfast
she doesn't give him tea
she doesn't ask about his day
she drinks a lot
she doesn't do any washing

have any of you actually met her or been to the house?

On his birthday last year he said he wouldnt get any presents for his birthday and he is not one of those kids who lie to get things he would lie to get himself out of trouble .and yes four of us did get him a few bits for his birthday after all you dont have to have a party to get presents .

But you're jumping to the conclusion that he's a liar, SL.

yeah but i used to work with kids and when i asked the youngest (5 at the time) what she was getting for christmas she told me she was getting nothing because her mum didn't like christmas.

blatant lie!!!! lol

mandieb Just curious, are you new to mnet? I don't recognise your name, but I have a head like a sieve , so you've probably been around for a while. I just wanted to say 'hello' and welcome to mnet, if you're new.

i am saying that kids make things up!

i am not saying that i believe or disbelieve him... but i am saying that there could be more to this than you think!

it's ever so easy to jump to the conclusion that he is being neglected... but none of you actually know!

SL that reminded me of my younger sister, she told my aunt that my parents fed the other 3 and not her!!! of course it was a lie!!

lol SM! my cousin once asked for only bread in his lunchbox, and when he got to school he told the teacher that my aunt doesn't feed him and that was all he was allowed!

And nor do you know that he isn't.

And of course children lie, so do adults!