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mandieb · 13/12/2005 22:10

On Monday it was a party day at my sons school (6 years old ) and they could all wear their own clothes .One child ,David ) not his real name ) came in uniform . I was doing my usual volunteer 20 minutes reading session . And you could see he was getting upset even I was getting a bit choked at this point so I said come and talk to me and I said I would try and sort some thing out . So off we went to reception and asked the lady to telephone mum to see if she could bring some clothes in . No reply so I said " may be shes gone shopping " David says " nah shes in bed ,shes always in bed " I had some spare clothes in my car so I gave them to him to use (boy did he smile) At the end of the day he said he would bring them back tomorrow .Ok no problem I didnt expect to get them back anyway and I wasnt too concerned they were my boys play clothes only from Tescos and not expensive . This morning he gave them back to me in a carrier bag I said thankyou so much . When I felt them they were still wet I couldnt help it I thought lazy bitch she couldnt be bothered to dry them . Then I said to David I really appreciate you giving me the clothes back did mummy wash them or did you do it he said " oh I did it " well I said that was very kind of you. When he had gone I promptly and quietly cried ,that poor little 6 year old if I had known I would have said dont worry about washing them darling I can do it . He is 6 FGS I bet she dosnt bother to get out of bed and get hes breakfast either .

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followthestarlover · 13/12/2005 23:02

exactly lockets!

hunkermunker · 13/12/2005 23:02

Tricky, Lockets, very, very tricky.

mandieb · 13/12/2005 23:05

Bauble why do you need msn so badly

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bauble99 · 13/12/2005 23:06

I need to talk to munker offline.

bauble99 · 13/12/2005 23:07

But I haven't used it for ages and I've got a new plooter and forgotten how to do it.

mandieb · 13/12/2005 23:07

Sorry that sounded really nosey

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hunkermunker · 13/12/2005 23:08

Email me, you loon

bauble99 · 13/12/2005 23:10

You techies.

I still haven't worked out how to use my 'phone.

thisismychristmasname · 13/12/2005 23:12

dah bless

thisismychristmasname · 13/12/2005 23:14

dont talk to me I cant even work out the blimmin sky tv DH has wired it up so we can have sky in all the rooms that I cant even get itv on the tv

thisismychristmasname · 13/12/2005 23:14

dont talk to me I cant even work out the blimmin sky tv DH has wired it up so we can have sky in all the rooms that I cant even get itv on the tv

calebsmum · 14/12/2005 11:10

mandieb have you reported to SS? I hope you have as it does sound like he's being neglected. Glad someone has took an interest in him.

NannyL · 14/12/2005 18:39

Well it from orginal post it SOUNDS like child is being NEGLECTED

Neglect is a form of ABUSE. therefore actions should be taken to investigate further and PROTECT THE CHILD if necessary.

Sorry but if teachers / staff dont investigate the children in their class, when things dont seem right who will?

omega2 · 14/12/2005 21:09

Not knowing all the facts - but is it possible the little boy washed the clothes as he didn't want his mum to know he had borrowed them.

blueshoes · 14/12/2005 22:10

mandieb, thanks for stepping in for the child. You are doing the right thing and should be commended for it.

mandieb · 15/12/2005 18:36

Thanks for the support ,I was just shocked that this sort of thing goes on I seriously must walk around with blinkers on .I had some fantastic news today ,I got a job Yippe .I was made redundant in July (yes JULY ) and I really wanted to get out of nannying ,the other day a school I had applied for a job at before rang to say they had a temp vacancy for a little one with autism and behavioural problems .She rang today to say I had the job ,I know it is only ten hours a week and temp but its a way in and i need a new challenge so this means when this job finishes I can apply else where now that I will get experience .I do loads of volunteer work at my sons school that the teacher I work for calls me her PA (lol) .I cant wait .

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Happyironchristmasmaiden · 16/12/2005 17:13

Congrats mandi, enjoy!

gggimmesnowsnow · 16/12/2005 17:44

Sometimes it is not neglect, it is poverty or ignorance.

I knew of a family where there were complaints about the children being dirty. On investigation, there was no washing machine and no money for the laundrette and all the dirty clothes were in the bath - so the kids weren't being bathed, and the sink was cracked etc etc etc.

I got bitten by the dog on the way out the house.

With help from a trust the family got a washing machine. It took a teacher to flag it all up in the first place.

hercules · 16/12/2005 17:46

A lot of children in my school look negleted- unwashed, dirty clothes etc and the school does look into it but in nearly all cases it's due to real problems at home and the parent is struggling to cope. It's a difficult one as no child should be negleted but it's rarely a case of intentional abuse.

Perhaps someone could offer to help out or befriend her.

RudiRedNose · 16/12/2005 18:04

Child protection is very important to teachers and every school has a Child Protection Officer to whom these sorts of concerns should be referred. If there is any indication that a teacher has 'led' a child into giving certain information then the whole case (if there is one) falls down at this point. If a teacher had any concern at all they would refer it to CPO immediately. This person would be able to contact the relevant agencies directly.
All these types of concerns need to be investigated by professionals who will hopefully be able to point this family in the direction of the support that they need. It sounds like the boy is not being as well cared for as he deserves, but there may be many reasons for this. Let's not jump to conclusions.

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