Feel terrible Poor kid

[mandieb]

On Monday it was a party day at my sons school (6 years old ) and they could all wear their own clothes .One child ,David ) not his real name ) came in uniform . I was doing my usual volunteer 20 minutes reading session . And you could see he was getting upset even I was getting a bit choked at this point so I said come and talk to me and I said I would try and sort some thing out . So off we went to reception and asked the lady to telephone mum to see if she could bring some clothes in . No reply so I said " may be shes gone shopping " David says " nah shes in bed ,shes always in bed " I had some spare clothes in my car so I gave them to him to use (boy did he smile) At the end of the day he said he would bring them back tomorrow .Ok no problem I didnt expect to get them back anyway and I wasnt too concerned they were my boys play clothes only from Tescos and not expensive . This morning he gave them back to me in a carrier bag I said thankyou so much . When I felt them they were still wet I couldnt help it I thought lazy bitch she couldnt be bothered to dry them . Then I said to David I really appreciate you giving me the clothes back did mummy wash them or did you do it he said " oh I did it " well I said that was very kind of you. When he had gone I promptly and quietly cried ,that poor little 6 year old if I had known I would have said dont worry about washing them darling I can do it . He is 6 FGS I bet she dosnt bother to get out of bed and get hes breakfast either .

yes, they do HM... what's that got to do with it?

you really dont have a life do you if all you can do is try and stir things up on mums net . Yes people have been to her house ,yes my best friend does know her ,and been round his house . Merry christmas.

well i am just going on what you've already said.

how is this stirring things? saying that people shouldn't jump to conclusions?

if you were that worried you'd have called social services.... wouldn't you?

mandieb is just expressing concern for a child, dont shoot her down for it. She might be wrong, but it is better than turing a blind eye surely??

Didn't mean anything by it - was just saying that it wasn't necessarily relevant - yes, children tell lies, but to automatically assume that it is a lie is quite sad in itself, isn't it?

i didn't automatically assume he was lying hunkermunker.

i said that it was a possibility.... i have no idea whether this child is being neglected, if he is then that's really sad and something needs to be done

but i wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he was based on mandieb's first post either.

Mandieb, ask the teacher whether she knows about his circumstances, and what policy the school has in place to deal with children who may be being abused or neglected.

But be careful. It would be so easy to get this child taken into care, not necessarily helping his confidence or emotional stability.

I need MSN. It's on my old plooter, how do I get it on this one?

Perhaps I'm too gullible then - but I'd rather that than immediately assume a child with a possibly tall-sounding story is a liar.

b99 www.msn.com look there under messenger

It does sound as if this boy is being neglected if he's telling the truth about everything, but why haven't the school done anything? Why haven't the school investigated his home environment, especially with things like his mum not coming to collect him. Perhaps she is physically ill or has mental health issue's (alcholic e.g). Sadly some parents can't look after a child properly and it' snot always their fault. The school should be doing something IMO

I am going to report it to SS tomorrow ,I thought SS wouldnt be interested as its only one incident I can truly report but on speaking to sons teacher on a one to one basis she told me a few things as well ,obviously these wont get gossiped about as that wouldnt help the situation at all . And as an adult I can say I am 99.9 % sure he is being neglected

i think that if there was something seriously wrong at home the teachers would have picked up on it (i'd hope so anyway)

yes, of course it is always better to err on the side of caution... but a bunch of us sitting here arguing over it isn't helping anyone is it?

if mandieb is that concerned then she ought to call social services

does he have a dad? i mean, his mum could be ill and spend all day in bed, she could have drink problem... but that doesn't mean there isn't a responsible adult caring for him

i really don't think the wet clothes thing is a cause for concern, not everyone has a drier... and at least they were washed!

Also i am sure the school have reported things to SS as they are very good at things like this .

Also i am sure the school have reported things to SS as they are very good at things like this .

Done it again

Social services cannot be relied upon. I remembre calling social services about a child with a baby I met on the underground, begging. I chatted for a while and they told me that their mother was always drinking, they lived in a caravan (told me where) and that they weren't allowed to go to school but had to beg to get money for their mum. She was about nine/ten he was about two (I am guessing here as I didn't have kids myself at the time). I called the relevant social services...who told me I was racist as these were gipsy children and I didn't understand their culture. There's always someone to defend the bloody awful parents and who suffers? The children.

mandieb
Yes possibly it has been reported to ss by school, as a volunteer you may not be eligble to this info, the school will keep it under wraps if an investigation is going on.[

Yes he does have a dad (obviously ) but he isnt around .The clothes were wet but they didnt have any smell to them of detergent at all so I presume they were done in just water .This is probably why his clothes are grubby if there is not soap powder sometimes.

i thought that too lockets..

At least Mandieb actually cares about him!