Okay so everyone with a nearly 3 year old plus who is nowhere near potty trained please let me know I am not alone.

[bobbybob]

Ds will be 3 at the end of Feb 06 and deep down I know that it is fine that he has no concept of what is required. But when everyone I know in RL has done it, I just want to know that in the much more sensible and probably more honest world of mumsnet that I am not alone.

A lot of it is that I just can't be arsed and am waiting for ds to decide to do it himself. We go out a lot to places like the zoo with 2 toilets about 2km apart, and I bike or walk to places rather than take the car.

I am rather tempted to send him to preschool for the whole week and let them sort it out.

my dd1 who was 3 in october is still in nappies i just cant get her out of them

Apprently Santa is taking all the nappies away and leaving presents.

The Santa thing worked - hurrah!

Bob has to be absolutely alone to go. We discovered this after he held his wee in for 5 hours rather than go in front of us. Eventually I just put him in his room with the potty and said - oh sort it out yourself. 10 seconds later a little voice said "I've done a wee".

On Wednesday he discovered a nappy that we hadn't sent to Santa and he wouldn't go to the potty because he didn't need to because he had a nappy, also we ran out of chocolates (we had another box but I didn't mention that) so I think he just thought he didn't have to bother any more. So I explained he has to use his potty all the time from now on.

Today he was dry all day at nursery - but wouldn't let anyone else in the toilet room at the same time.

It's been a great week and because we gave the nappies to Santa we can't chicken out either!

Important note ; Santa says we can still have pull ups for bedtime and trips out.

Smelly greetings everyone

Saw the HV for ds' 3 yr check last week and unfortunately she agreed with my theory. She said ds has exceptional speech, diction and understanding for his age. She feels it's because he's too smart that he cannot be arsed (I'm sure she used a different word...) to use the toilet.

He knows fine well, and has told me loads of times that he doesn't want/need to go because mummy will clean his pants if he wees or poos in them. He told me today (with wagging finger) "Don't you tell me what to do!"

I'm am close to really losing it with him now and i'm so tempted to give up my "gentle" parenting crap and just smack him for downright disobedience. Tell me what to do now??????

look, if he doesnt want to sit on the potty, then leave him in his nappies,
but if you find it that awful to have him in nappies, then lose them all. stay at home for a week, and deal with it. he'll pee and pooh everywhere for the first couple of days, but once he knows you mean business, he'll be trained pretty quick.

when you first started this thread, my dd was in nappies coz she likes them. now she is dry during the day, but i still put her in a nappy at night, coz i want to, once she realised that mummy meant it, she started weeing in the toilet or potty. havent had an accident for over a week now. [touch wood] 9th december that was.

my dd is three in feb

oops, sorry, didnt check who it was startedthis thread.
well done bobby! congratulations to both of you.

Will start another thread.

Congrats Bobbybob (were you bobthebaby a long time ago? cos I'm no longer bobsmum although in RL obviuosly I am)

yes I was that bob - but felt as ds got older I needed a slight change.

Ds only did it when we threw all his nappies away (well gave them to Santa and so they are in the North Pole somewhere).

Did I feel cruel - yes. But now I feel relieved.

Oh and we still go out. First few times I offered a pull up and was accepted, now it's undies all the way.

Is that night-time aswell bobby?

I have just found out that Waitrose (or Ocado if you do your shopping on the internet like me) are going to be stocking pullups made by Naty from the start of November 2006.

Naty make the Nature Boy/Girl biodegradable, no nasty chemical nappies that are currently stocked by Waitrose/Ocado.

I love these as they are ecological and better for baby, as no chemicals, but have been struggling with the ever increasing wriggles at nappy change time.

If you want to use these I would recommend contating your local waitrose/ocado to ask if they are going to stock them, as otherwise they might not be in your local store.

Ocado are pretty good, if a few people ask for a product they do their best to add it to their product list.

hello everyone, my DS is about to start nursery school next week,(he is 2.9) and can wee and poo on the potty, but we have never got to the stage of removing the nappies.However this is all very haphazard as everytime he has said no i have backed off and left it for a few weeks. Am now confused as to continue the training or wait again until nursery starts (only 2 mornings a week).

I tried mine at just over 2, gave it up as a bad job then did it again when DS was about 2.9 or so - def before 3, def after 2.5 - somewhere around there.

We just binned the nappies one day (not night time ones - those were pullups that we called bedtime pants, definitely NOT nappies, they were just to keep his willy warm) and every wee on the potty or toilet was rewarded with a choc button and every poo with a choc lollipop. All accidents we said oh dear an accident and made no real fuss, but the chocolate incentive worked a treat, and we left off with the chocolate after we were 100% sorted, which was really only a few days, one week max.

Nursery are used to potty training kids, and it was nice to have a day off the potty patrol while he was in nursery.

If you tell them what stage you are at, then they will help you I am sure.

Good luck!

I tried mine at just over 2, gave it up as a bad job then did it again when DS was about 2.9 or so - def before 3, def after 2.5 - somewhere around there.

We just binned the nappies one day (not night time ones - those were pullups that we called bedtime pants, definitely NOT nappies, they were just to keep his willy warm) and every wee on the potty or toilet was rewarded with a choc button and every poo with a choc lollipop. All accidents we said oh dear an accident and made no real fuss, but the chocolate incentive worked a treat, and we left off with the chocolate after we were 100% sorted, which was really only a few days, one week max.

Nursery are used to potty training kids, and it was nice to have a day off the potty patrol while he was in nursery.

If you tell them what stage you are at, then they will help you I am sure.

Good luck!

Ok, here's a variation for you. My little girl is just 3 and we are having our 2nd serious go at getting out of nappies. She likes the idea that Mummy and lots of her friends wear big girl pants, is happy to sit on the potty or the loo for 5 or 10 minutes with a story or a song but won't produce anything. She can defo control the necessary muscles because she holds on for hours and she gets upset when her pants are wet but she just won't do it in the potty. I've tried praise, bribery and rewarding dry pants every hour with a timer and stickers. We have potty trained every teddy in the house together and she loves that. She also gets up in the morning, puts her night nappy in the bin and gets her pants out to put on but still nothing in the potty. We've been going for a week now with no sucess at all. Any suggestions?

DD1 is 3.4 and shows no interest at all.

She's been referred back to the paed.

She doesn't seem to get it at all, and as she's had motor skills delays, they're concerned.

DS 3.2 and is pretty much pottytrained. We only really got him going over the summer (VERY WET) and even now he is a bit dodgy. He will sometimes just wee on the carpet for no reason, even if he is wearing his night time paper pants. This was particularly bad when staying with childless sister in law in lovely flat. It has definitely not been easy and was not one of those 2 day events. He is quite advanced verbally etc and so does know what is going on but really can't be bothered. It is also a pain at bed time because he will decide he needs a wee and so needs the loo light on - "I'm a big boy and dont use a potty mummy" aargh! Itis improving though - you will get there!
Have found some good eco friendly paper pants (ie pullups) at beamingbaby.com. Can't remember the make though. A tip - make sure a boy's willy is pointing down in paper pants!! If it makes you feel better my health visitor said that it was fine that he was still in nappies at 3 - just a bit humiliating when my niece of 20 months is totally dry!! good luck!

I feel so much better after reading this. My son is 3 in Jan 07 and will not sit on any potty or toilet with his pants off. We have a wide selection of potties and toilet seats that he chose! He also went through a phase of wearing his postman pat pants but wants to take them off and have his nappy on as soon as he wants a wee/poo! I am quite stressed about it. Stickers/bribery/threatening to take away his favourite toys to get him to use the potty/toilet do not work. He is very articulate and says "no, not at all" to do you want to use the potty or toilet. When asked when he will use the toilet he answers "never". He is quite happy that all his friends are potty trained and he isn't. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!

Max is 3 - he turned 3 in October - I spent most of yesterday cleaning up poo from the floor and mopping up wee.

Felix is 5 - turned five in July, spent most of today washing sheets and piss-wet pyjamas.

I know this is an old thread but dd is 3 next week and nowhere near ready imo.

Another 3 year old ds - will sit on potty till kingdom come then poo in his nappy.

It does make me feel better that there are other people out there with children who wee/poo on the floor and who will happily stand there and wee in front of all relatives (in the sitting room) because he is watching tv and doesn't want to move...a word of warning - he started weeing on the carpet (ie pulling down his trousers and weeing not just a complete accident) whilst we were staying with people. He seemed a little upset so i said "don't worry - isn't it funny it looks like a dragon" - cue weeks of him weeing on the carpet and saying "look mummy a dragon/dinosaur/elephant"etc. So much for making him feel better. I have sometimes felt that I am surrounded by people whose children are potty trained v quickly and then don't have accidents even though I know this is not the case!

hi

so like you DoubleH

DS is 3 in 2 days. He knows exactly what he wants in life and that includes his nappies. He does not want to use a potty or toilet. He has only ever gone near one for the promise of a lollipop. He has never done a wee or poo on one. We have tried sticker charts, praise and major bribery. He tells us quite happily that he will get chocolate buttons if he does a wee ot poo on toilet - he just wont do it. He tore off the sticker we used to start him on his sticker chart.

His 9 month old sister is weeing and pooing away on her potty -she loves it and will happily sit on it like a seat.

EVen the praise she gets hasnt moved him, I havent given her chocolate buttons tho -altho tempted as I dont want to give her sweets just to annoy him.

I did put him on a potty at 10 months but he would never sit -always ran off.

SO not sure what to do. Am a bit fed up with 2 sets of nappies but he is showing no signs and is so determined not to use the tolilet.

Any suggestions very welcome

I am now trying a new approach with my almost 3 year old. I have told him that Santa will not know if he is a baby or a big boy because he is still using his nappies. So he might get baby presents instead of boys presents. This has inspired him to sit on the potty with his trousers on, then his nappy and now with no nappy!!!!!!!!!!! He still has no intention of weeing/pooing yet but he is quite happy to sing a christmas carol whilst sitting on the potty. I am taking it slowly. I am determined to have him potty trained by 4!

My dd is 3 next week and we are trying potty training again seriously for the second time. She is fine with wees - happily tells us she needs the toilet and then wees on queue but poos are completely different. The last time we gave up and put her back in nappies she promptly sat on the potty herself and did poo (it is as if at times she is sticking 2 fingers up at us!) She also has toddler diarrhoea and her poos are always sloppy so i am never sure if failure to tell us in time is behavioural or physical, however, she never poos when she has no pants on at all. We are now using bribery (little toys) if she can manage a poo on the toilet. We know she wants the little toys but today she has pooed in her pants twice and then laughed when she announced she had pooed! I am adamant she is not going back in nappies so i have bought some lovley trainer pants from Bright Bots which hold in the mess quite well. She is starting nursery for the first time next week so hopefully she will want to copy the other children. Kids eh?

bobbybob,
sorry haven't read all the posts inbetween. Just wanted to reassure you with story of my ds. he was 3 feb 06 and at that time had not started toilet training at all. We did method i'm not allowed to name (sorry - don't know how else to describe it) over may bank holiday. He had two accidents first day, one second and third day and has barely had an accident since - day or night. It just seemed to totally click for him.
Now, i'm really glad I waited and did it as we did; some of his peers who came out of daytime nappies much sooner are still sleeping in nappies even now.