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I know you will think this is very wrong of me but.....

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CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 08/12/2005 19:16

I am starving my children to teach them a lesson!

The story is that dd, for 3 weeks now, has been refusing her meals. She sits there in front of it, perhaps occasionally picking up a single carrot or eating all the pasta that has not been tainted with sauce of any kind. She will then eat her pudding and ask for more dessert. Ds does the same, although admittedly he has been ill recently, but today he has eaten chocolate, yoghurts and compotes without any objection, yet when given his pasta dish, he threw a wobbly that the pasta was mixed in with the sauce and threw the lot across the table.

Sooooo, we have had enough. They have never had anything different to what we have had. We have tried the approach of just taking it away, giving them their pudding and that's that, but that is what they have been living off for 3 weeks now. They've recently started becoming fussy over their breakfasts too.

I'm not one to make an issue over food, but after watching dd again move her food around her plate with a sulky face, and witness ds throw his food all over the table, we have decided on drastic measures.

They get a drink of milk at supper, a drink of milk at breakfast. Absolutely no snacks of any kind. Dd goes to school with just milk inside her, hopefully she will eat her lunch. At tea-time they do not get any dessert unless they have eaten well, if they have not eaten their lunch they do not get any tea. We are hoping that they will get so hungry they will start eating again.

So you can condemn me now!

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merrySOAPBOXingday · 09/12/2005 23:28

Sounds good so far

Despite my prophet of doom last post, I do hope it works for you all, as worrying about eating must be sh*ite.

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 09/12/2005 23:31

Oh and I always have to make stuff that take time, making stuff from scratch is cheaper than doing anything else, it just takes longer.

Thanks Soapbox!

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CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 10/12/2005 17:14

Ok, update. This morning dh made breakfast for them both, ds ate all his up, dd ate half. They had soup and noodles for lunch, both ate half, so I gave them both a little yoghurt afterwards. They have had no snacks. Dh almost gave ds a piece of cheese at lunchtime as he had pushed his plate away and was moaning at dh's cheese sandwich, but I ordered him not to as that would be seen as an alternative i.e. "I'm not going to eat any more of this as I've seen something I'd rather have and if I moan long enough I'll get it!"

Roast pork for tea, we'll see how that goes!

Now if I could just get them both to stop fighting each other........ another thread methinks!

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magnolianMistletoe · 10/12/2005 20:14

How did tea go??

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 10/12/2005 21:33

Dd ate a good go of hers, ds was going to leave his, but when I pretended to eat it he suddenly got all interested and now he LOVES pork!

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Mercy · 10/12/2005 22:03

Is it ds' birthday tomorrow? If so, Happy Birthday Little Richard

Will you relent?! Bloody well done so far!

NannyL · 10/12/2005 22:37

Just to say sounds like you are doing REALLY well and getting the results! Keep at it!

and rememebr that no hingry child has ever starved them selves due to being too 'stubborn' to eat nice food!

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 11/12/2005 08:34

Yes it IS The Little Demon's birthday today!

He has just eaten all his breakfast and dd looks set to eat all hers! Hurrah!

Sensible party food this afternoon, they all get a bowl of pasta with mini-sausages and birthday cake for afterwards. I don't want a pile of hyped-up kids running round my house!

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collision · 11/12/2005 13:48

Ooh you are so tough RoobyCliff! No fun food for the party then!!!

CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell · 11/12/2005 22:45

Dd did not eat her pasta at dinner, understandable, so I gave it to her again at tea-time where she made a better effort and was rewarded with a chocolate! I'm a hard cow!

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swedishmum · 11/12/2005 23:19

My no.2 daughter (now just 10) is the fussy eater. I've found that a laid back approach means she tries far more stuff. Tonight we had Chorizo sauce with pasta - I knew she wouldn't like it so she can have an alternative sauce. I would never starve her till the next meal. She eats all fruit and veg. Is life long enough to have battles?

swedishmum · 11/12/2005 23:22

Incidentally, mine rarely get pudding as I don't like the idea of food as a reward. Would never use it as an incentive to eat main course - entirely wrong message in my opinion. Also only get sweets on Saturday - hangover from Sweden. All 4 seem to survive ok.

colditz · 12/12/2005 00:57

CRSEIN, I am with you all the way on this one, and with you even more now you have decided to give breakfasts. I would never provide an alternative meal for a child who just didn't fancy it much, in my eyes that is pandering.

EliBeentoSantasGrotto · 12/12/2005 11:23

Happy Birthday (belated) to Cliff's ds! My dd turns 2 next week, might steal your pasta/cake menu

rummum · 12/12/2005 16:20

My daughter was a really fussy eater.. she was really anaemic as a toddler due to her fussy eating, and had to see a dietitian and paediatritian etc. She would not do lumps or anything to crispy.. (still doesn't)
Now aged 9 she is a lot better, she does have her favourite meals and she can choose our family tea one day a week.
I found that by putting the food on the table and letting everyone help them selves was a lot easier than dishing it up for them. She now tries new food, but doesn't have to eat it if she doesn't like it... I often have bread and butter on offer as well.
I am a fussy eater.. I don't like my food to touch.. and have to eat... say.. my chips first.. then the meat.. then the veg.. I NEVER eat it together IYKWIM.. and I've turned out OK [joke]
We recently found out daughter has aspergers tendencies and I think her funny food habits are linked.. thank god I didn't try to make her eat stuff as she could have got a lot worse...

Good luck with getting your kids to eat more..... different tecniques work for different kids

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