relatives disciplining my child

[bunniesmum]

To cut a long story short, I have 2 very boyish boys, 11 and 5. Family get together at weekend. 5 year old son called his 7 year old cousin a baby and she started crying. My brother intervened (I am in another room while this is going on). My 5 year old kicked cousin in shin and kicked his uncle. Next thing I know, my brother is leading my crying son to naughty step and telling him off. I flew off handle and said it was not his place to punish my child and that he should have told me what had happened and I could then discipline him. We had a big argument and are now barely speaking. Having put it down in black and white it sounds like I may have overeacted ? Just wanted an opinion really.

bunniesmum Can we have an update?

Have you managed to speak to your brother?

Can I ask - just for balance - What way would you have dealt with your 5yo namecalling and kicking both a child and an adult?

Very good point, Madam.
I don't have family nearby and even poor DH is often missing a lot for work so I feel a huge burden of responsibility for disciplining/teaching/guiding my children in every way.
I loooooove when somebody else helps out, because that is genuinely how I see it.
Activate also made a very valid point.. We are teaching our children to follow the guidelines of society, not just ours.

Hang on a sec, your ds kicked his cousin and his uncle? And you are upset with your BiL?

Perhaps your family are generally unimpressed with your line in disciplining your son's 'boyish' behaviour?