What "bad" behaviour do you let your children get away with ?

[sparkle1977]

Just out of interest I am wondering what "bad" behaviour you let your children get away with ??

What I mean is that my MIL thinks its very terrible that sometimes my boys (2.5yo and 4yo) sometimes resort to silly language between themselves and start saying "willy, poohead etc etc" to each other and us all. MIL is very prudish in the extreme and regards any talk mentioning genital parts etc as inappropriate. Whereas I on the other hand am not particularly bothered by this sort of thing and think its just a stage and there are bigger battles to be fought than that sort of thing.

What doesn't bother you in terms of behaviour that may bother others ?

DS is only 2 so is allowed to do pretty much whatever he wants within reason. I drew the line at him using the book case as a ladder though, as it's full of my first editions.

Over the next few years he'll get away with making poo/bum/willy jokes, finding his bodily emissions amusing, bouncing on sofas and beds, rolling in mud, weeing in the garden and running around naked. He certainly won't get away with not saying please and thank you or with having crap table manners when a bit older.

whatagradeA - my children tend to drink milk out of their cereal bowl, don't see much wrong with it - at least they drink the 1/4 pint of milk rather than pooring it down the sink.

Agree with Ormirion about the talking back discussion. I hope my kids can talk with me about pretty much anything.

In fact I encourage talking in general, rather than silent kids.

my dd (4.5) cut my ds (2) hair the other day! we had been saying he needed a hair cut and she did a pretty good job. I was just cross she didn't do it in the bathroom but my bed!

Seems that Ormirion's post has been deleted, but I wonder if it was to do with what I said about 'interrupting/obliterating adult communication'? It may have sounded as though I expect my children to sit silently while we chat, (hmmm, I think possibly dh did expect this!) but it's more to do with e.g. DH to me: "So what time do I need to pick up dc?" DS: "MUUUUUUUM! POOOOOOOO! YOUR BIG FAT BUUUUUM! LAAAA LAAA LAAA!" etc. That's what we can't tolerate! Always trying to encourage proper conversation but sometimes just finishing a sentence about something really important is just...really important!

Jumping on furniture (in their own house) - I gave up on that fight.

Toilet talk.

Let them fight it out a bit themselves, sometimes worse if I interfere, they get over it quicker.

Leave their dinner if they ate well all day. I think you have to gauge what they have eaten all day especially if it was a healthy day anyway.

Can't tolerate rudeness to other people, hitting or grabbing from others.

OK, have found that post now. Was an 'a' not an 'o'. Thought maybe you had said something really rude as I know you often call people a tw*t!

Another thing I have noticed lately and am a bit to admit is that I don't make my children wash their hands after the loo or before mealtimes. I have noticed that a lot of friends seem obsessed with the whole hand washing thing.

DS1 who is 4 sometimes washes his hands after using the loo and sometimes not (same with flushing) and I can't say as it really bothers me that much.

I must admit to not always washing mine and its never done me any harm as yet.

This is based on using the loo in our own (clean) home tho and not a public loo, then he pretty much always washes hands.

Lots of people thought I was bang out of order by not "telling off" DD when she wrote BOOBS on the car window condensation.
Then she drew a pair. Even funnier.