How much do you 'ignore' your children?

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Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

I'm worried that so many people on this thread think that it's acceptable to gang up against someone for fun. It's bullying.

Vaunda may not be telling the truth. So what?
She may be an attention seeker. There are far worse things to be.
How anyone can justify the absolute crusifying she's got on this thread is beyond me.

Piggy from Lord of the Flies comes to mind.

I said Lord of the Flies hours ago, spidermama - do keep up

You are rightfully re-installed as my mentor MM.
Great minds blah blah.

Or possibly fools seldom differ...

Oh for goodness sake, crucifying indeed. And piggy.

This implies that a) she gives a shit and b) we have some kind of real impact on her emotionally. There is simply no evidence of either of these, anywhere.

I think she's a troll. I don't mind - this is the world wide web - it happens. But Jeez, let's not make Che Guevara out of every entertaining troll who comes along.

Bullied? people don't hang around for long if they're being bullied.

Vaunda hasn't enjoyed herself so much for years.

eh we were having a chat about language aquisition in children Vaunda didn't come into it.

Caligula, shoot me down but actually I find posting on mumsnet a fairly emotional experience, whether you are getting support, or getting savaged.

There is no doubt that having everyone ganging up on you can be upsetting. it is a little extreme to compare mumsnet to Lord of the Flies though.

I believe most of what V has posted, but it still really annoys me that someone can be so wrong and so sure of herself, without really bringing any logical reasons for it.

Vaunda's feelings aside, I'm just baffled that people seem to enjoy ganging up on her. If it's believed a poster is lying or attention seeking, why contribute to the thread. People really enjoyued 'getting' her because they felt safe in numbers. It really reminded me of playground bullying.

I have to agree and on a much smaller scale was subject to being ganged up on a few weeks ago, which had me blubbering within 10 posts

Well I contributed to it because at first I was a bit amazed and sceptical and afterwards I just thought it was ludicrous and wondered when she was going to come out and declare herself.

And also, because I agree that posting on Mumsnet can be emotional and it is quite irritating to see a troll leading people on and getting a kick out of people getting upset on her behalf. I haven't been around quite long enough to witness that and not care at all, although I am getting there!

Tomorrow morning, I guess my first post will be: 4!

OK I have tried to ignore the postings and have read them but not replied. Now Nightynight, My logic is...

I do not Dispute the fact that i parent my son in a way that most parents wouldn't dream of. he is allowed his opinion on the majority of things we as a family do. He is included when we decorate after all he has to live here to and I like him to feel comfortable in his environment. He Is included in the shopping budget etc as i feel this not only helps his maths but also makes him realise that money does not grow on trees. His knowledge of hurricaines etc assist him in his science and topic work. He does excel at reading, maybe because i have always spoken to him and read to him from the day he was born or maybe he is just a natural. i have never used baby talk with him a dog was a dog not a woof woof. a horse was a horse not a gee gee, i think you get the idea. Now i know many parents prefer to use simpler terms but that was not my way of doing things. He was around adults from birth not only family but freinds. he attended his first gig at the age of 3 weeks when his father played at a friends wedding, again not everyones idea of what to do but it is what we chose to do. He went to his first restaurant on his first xmas at the age of 5 months and continued to regularly go sometimes 3-5 times a week depending on how often we were invited.

I do not criticise anyones way of raising their children after all we are all individuals and so are children and whilst as parents we must guide them we should allow them to grow into their own person. I have always allowed him to make his own decisions or have an input into any decision made. Again this is just my way of raising my son not how i would expect anyone else to raise their child.

Now please (and I know many of you have already) can this subject just be dropped and get back to the original question....

I personally don't ignore my DS, unless of course he is in bed but I am mum to one child. If i had more who knows whether i would or wouldn't.

Night night vaunda, you brave woman.

Spidermama, just getting back to the original question..........
anyways night night spider x

Have a good day..

only up because the door went for dd2 to get a mattress

Vaunda, I really don't know how you have managed to stay on here without telling everyone to F*@k Off You have shown so much restraint and maturity. Pity others can't do the same!

Have a nice anniversary tomorrow

"a dog was a dog not a woof woof"

well last time I checked dogs said "woof woof" (or do they say mieow round here?)

Magnolia,
Thankyou. I am showing in myself what I am also trying to make sure my son has. Maybe it will work and maybe not time will tell.
As for having a nice day tomorrow, it is our anniversary and hubby is workign ffs

QoQ - you know nothing. Dogs say Bow-wow, not woof-woof.

QoQ, lolol ok ok I see the silliness of how i worded it ok. But i did not use woof woof to describe a dog.

Caligula,
actually you are all wrong cos dogs growl first and then bark so maybe they should be described as grrrrrrrrrrrrr grrrrrrrrrrrrr's

Vaunda, you've said on another thread that you hope this thread dies - seems odd that you're still posting on it, then.

satine,
no animosity now though just general chat. about bow wows/woof woofs/ or grrrrrrrrrrr grrrrrrrrrr's

Fair enough.

I don't think I know anyone that's taught their children "woof woof" for dog! (maybe I'm just posh ).