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Any other Mums of girls out there who do not crave a boy?

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Easywriter · 24/09/2010 20:08

I know lots of Mums of girls who do - there have been so many threads on here about it.
But I just don't. I am so happy with my girls and feel that if I did have a boy it would upset the balance somewhat and affect my relationship with them. So much so that if I was to go for a third child (I most likely will not) I would actually prefer a girl. Nothing against boys, of course, but I just don't crave one. Obviously if I had had a boy along the way I would have been delighted, but now I have my girls I am elated and want for nothing more.
Am I in the minority?

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geisha · 24/09/2010 20:17

No. I have 2 dd's and expecting number 3. Don't plan to find out sex. We are often asked if we're trying for a boy, but we're not at all. Would be equally happy with girl or boy and in many ways we're set up for girls and I can understand what you mean about upsetting the balance.

TheProfiteroleThief · 24/09/2010 20:19

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Brasso4 · 24/09/2010 21:08

I have a girl and will be trying for another baby soon, would prefer to have another girl.

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Whitethorn · 24/09/2010 22:36

Am expecting and have one DD. Am not going to find out but secretly want a girl

teacherspet33 · 24/09/2010 23:18

I have two girls and have no yearning to have a boy. I love having two girls. We aren't having more and I feel very at peace with what I have!

gibbberish · 24/09/2010 23:23

I have 4 dds and never did yearn to have a boy and still don't. After the first 2 it was just easier to carry on having girls I suppose!

Beside, dh and I could never agree on a boy's name. Poor thing would have felt a bit silly being called Emily or whatever.

Didn't particularly yearn to have 4 dds either though...

serafinacat · 24/09/2010 23:27

I'm really, really hoping for a girl this time (9 weeks with dc2), I have a 9 yr old dd and have always seen myself with 3 girls. Will be gutted if I'm having a boy...

adoptionnamechanger · 24/09/2010 23:36

but isn't it a bit pointless? Craving one (a boy I mean) or feeling you will be gutted if you get one. Its not like you have any choice in teh matter and presumably you went ahead knowing that? Not wanting to put a damper on it but personally I'd have been happy with a live kicking baby with or without genitals that stick out!

serafinacat · 24/09/2010 23:51

You are of course right it is totally pointless to care one way or the other... however I do, and I feel better for admitting it. I'm just not a fan of boys and have nephews and godsons galore so am surrounded by them and would adore more girls to complete my family. Unreasonable? Yes. Truthful? Also yes. Shoot me!

adoptionnamechanger · 25/09/2010 00:09

"I'm just not a fan of boys" Shock

Aren't you married to one?

And other peoples boys are not the same as your own. The same your girls are not as fantastic to anyone else. I think you're deluded (or insane) if you really think you will be presented with a new life in your arms, a while new human being that you made and grew and wouldn;t exist wihtout you and you'd really think "oh shit" if its a boy.

adoptionnamechanger · 25/09/2010 00:13

[baffled emoticon] - I must hide threads I really don;t uderstand and stop dabbling in them!

NotanOtter · 25/09/2010 00:31
Gateau · 25/09/2010 00:32

"I will be gutted if I'm having a boy."
Shame on you.

NotanOtter · 25/09/2010 00:36

they've scuttled away now the light's turned on

NotanOtter · 25/09/2010 00:37

(sorry wrong thread)

itmustbewineoclock · 25/09/2010 00:46

3 DDs and very happy - not that anyone seems to believe me. I'm often asked if (aged 41) I'm going to try for a boy.
A 'friend' recently advised me of a mutual acquaintance's new baby boy ( she already had 2 DDs) saying 'at last she got her boy'. I replied ' Oh, did she especially want a boy?' her resonse: " Well I just assumed she would as she already has 2 girls!" All this while I was standing next to her holding my gorgeous, perfect, much loved DD3 . Some people!
I agree though there is too much emphasis on the sex of one's baby - after 2 premmies and 1 term but growth restricted baby I'm just happy to have 3 healthy ones. Having said that I did want a second DD after DD1 so that DD1 would have a sister - so it was for my perception of her benefit rather than my own craving. I certainly don't feel I'm missing out on anything by not having a boy. My 3 DDs are so different in personality and that's what makes it interesting.

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pippibluestocking · 25/09/2010 07:18

I have 2 girls and love it. Have never even thought for a second that I wished I had a boy too. Not having any more but if I did, I wouldnt mind what sex it was. However if I didn't have a girl already, I am sure I would have longed for one

fizzpops · 25/09/2010 07:56

I only have one DD but when I was pregnant with her I would have loved to have had a boy and was a bit nervous about having a girl because of my relationship with my mother and sister.

Now I have a girl I absolutely adore her and would love to have another.

Had she been a boy I would never have known what I was missing. Just goes to show, in my case at least, that whatever I get is the right thing for me. I know without a doubt that girl or boy I will love them absolutely. Would not be a disaster just to be a Mum to girls though.

ProfYaffle · 25/09/2010 08:09

I have girls and don't want a boy Smile

I agree it's pointless 'wanting' one gender or the other, you get what you're given. And I'm happy with what we were given.

sweetkitty · 25/09/2010 08:19

I had 3 DDs and wanted a fourth I thought another DD would be fab and just fit in to our family. We had chosen her name and went for a scan at 25 weeks just to check, of course it was a DS who is now 4 months and utterly gorgeous. He's just such a BOY and I am so enjoying the differences.

NothingButTheTeuch · 25/09/2010 08:26

Sometimes I really wish babies came in more varieties than 'boys' and 'girls' so that we could really explore this topic more fully Hmm

I mean, it is not like there are any other differences...

serafinacat · 25/09/2010 10:28

'Scuttled away'.... 'Shame on you' Nice. Sort of wish I'd not been honest, and that it wouldn't really matter to me what responses I got to admitting my thoughts, but I was a bit wrong and reading that has upset me enormously. That'll teach me..

I am married to one of course, and in truth he's one of the only decent males I've met, which may have a bearing on my feelings and how confident I am at being a mum to one. I'm also one of three girls and my dd would also love a sister, which I suppose are factors too. I guess I feel like I know what I'm doing with a girl, boys are an unknown.

I know it's ridiculous, and I have been worried loads that I will be upset if it's a boy, adoptionnamechanger, what you said did help actually. I don't want to feel like this, and given that there is a 50% chance of me getting one, I've really got to get my head round it. I'm hoping that biology will make sure that I don't feel like this in reality. At the moment it's a genuine fear that I would be disappointed.

sweetkitty · 25/09/2010 10:36

serafina - I felt a bit like you, when we found out DS was a DS part of me was upset, I had so got it in my head he was a she. I adore my girls and I "know" girls, boys were alien to me (apart from DH of course) but now he is here he is wonderful and I adore his boyness, he looks like a boy and I am loving the wee boy clothes too.

Babies are babies and are all adorable, they all grow into such different little people, in some ways it's irrelevant what between their legs.

sophieandbelly · 25/09/2010 10:40

u cant help how u feel serfiacat- dont listen, u were being honest,i hope u get what u wish for, but like the rest of us 'it' will just kick in and if u have a boy u will iam sure say 'iam so glad i ended up with a boy!' xx