Do you go in and kiss your children goodnight when you go to bed?

[Hulababy]

I always go into 3yo DD's bedroom before I go to bed to check on her and to kiss her goodnight.

I can't imagine if they will stop, or when.

I know even as teenagers my parents would come and say goodnight (if we were awake) when they went to bed. And my mum says that even if we were asleep she'd come and kiss our foreheads - right until we left home.

sometimes but not always!

always, every night without fail. when i DO sleep i wake up a few times and have to check them aswell and have a silly ritual that if i kiss one i have to go and kiss the other.

I always do ... without fail.
I go to DS and tuck him in, kiss his head and say, "I Love You"
I go to DD ... put her round the right way, make sure she has all her dummies near her and stroke her head (can't reach to kiss her as I may fall in the cot and that wouldn't be a good thing )

I have this terrible slushy book called Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul (American book that someone gave me when DS was born). In it is a gorgeous anecdote from a lady who had had her first baby and went to stay with her parents for a few days for the first time after she had the baby. She went to bed earlier than her parents but was still awake when her parents went to bed. She heard her mother say to her father "Go and check on the baby" ... so the young mum closed her eyes and pretended to be asleep to see what her dad did. The dad walked into her room, walked straight past the baby's moses basket, tucked in the young mum, gave her a kiss goodnight and walked out again, without even looking at the baby ...
I thought that was so sweet!

When I was visiting my parents this year in the UK my mum checked on me and my children without fail before she went to bed ...

Yep I check on all 3 before I go to bed, If I forget and get into bed I have to get back out again.

Always. DS (3) cuddles me until he goes to sleep and I am giving him little kisses all the time and DP likes me to tuck her in and kiss her 5 times cos she's five and then we have to say "love you for ever"!

Sound quite sickening when its wrote down, but if gets them to sleep its a must!!!

God NO! never! I don't even look!

Ghosty

That is lovely.

I also check DS, first thing in the morning to make sure he is still with us. If he is lying particularly still , then I will touch him to make sure he is still alive.

How ghoulish is that.???

I used to do that all the time, especially as I used to have nightmares that it actually happened!!!! I used to be always poking DS and DD to make sure they were still breathing, I think all Mums do it.

I used to do that all the time, especially as I used to have nightmares that it actually happened!!!! I used to be always poking DS and DD to make sure they were still breathing, I think all Mums do it.

am I really the only one?

DS1 everynight without fail, sometimes I spend a good 10 minutes talking to him and holding his hand (it's the only time of the day when he'll sit still and listen )

DS2 still wakes several times during the evening so I get prompted opportunities to see he is ok. Although I don't kiss him because i'd also fall in the cot.

Well I waited 9 years for him (on and off and that was just the sex !!!) and that coupled with the fact that I can not have anymore makes me paranoid.

ninah, I do sometimes but not always and I'll tell you why - it stems from when he was younger and a horrendously bad sleeper. He's still a lightish sleeper now (3.10) and I'm always paranoid about waking him up. OFten if we go in and give him a kiss he can be fast asleep but then stir and wake up. Would rather he slept!

yeah, I'm not that mean, I do kiss him and tell him I love him at bedtime!

No I don't either ninah, dd sleeps with her door closed tight, and squeeky heavy thing that it is - just opening it would wake her up!
So just kisses at bedtime for us

Yes I do every night put her blanket back on check she's still breathing (she's 13 mo) stroke her hair, tell her I love her etc

Also do it if I get up for the loo in the night.

I also give peanut (the bump) a little stroke too and say nite nite!

same here. He was horrendous as a baby and even now will be incorrigibly wide awake at the most inappropriate hour! (5.20 start this am, last night it was howls at 3am cos 'I don't like your car'?! the night before it was 'owl noises') Really full of energy and ready to go at the least provocation. We have a story, a chat and a cuddle etc and then it's curtains!
On the other hand, I don't remember parents doing this for us, either. Bedtime was bedtime, finito.

and as for the bump (mine's called Goldilocks, courtesy of ds, btw) it NEVER occured to me! looks like the little blighter has his/her brother's nocturnal proclivities by the way I get battered in the evenings!

LOL ninah, sounds like we have the same child!

And for the past three years I thought I was the only sad mother kissing them goodninght!! And tucking them up, and talking to them, and blowing them a kiss as I leave.... !

Let sleeping children lie, I say

mo2 we DO kiss them goodnight! just no peeping later!