polygamy

[Mytwopenceworth]

ahould marriage to more than one person be legal here?

freedom of choice? family instability?

Topic for debate?

no.
we should all just live in a huge commune and have sex with everyone

Well polygamy is just multiple wives isn't it?

Polyandy is more than one husband?

No.

Shouldn't be legal here I think

hmb, polygamy is more than one of either. Polyandry is more than one husband, polygyny is more than one wife.

Knew someone would know!

Still no anyway

no - if having multiple wives is legal, it gives men too much power.

The Kenya Luo word for 'co-wife' is almost the same as the word for 'jealousy'. Nuff said.

What about if multiple husbands were allowed too though, tigermoth?

am i the only one reminded of monty python!! polly polly!! this parrot is dead

or the equivalent for women seeing latest messages - no!

and think of the complications if the same wife had two husbands and those husbance in turn had more then one wife each.

Family units are not necessarily undermined by the addition of extra parental figures. Rather, more providers can make great contributions to the home. Preconceived ideas about jealousy are defeated by the happy existence often developed by members of families at ease with one another in the routine and love of everyday life in stable polygamous homes. Polygamy presents heterosexual people with the opportunity to have partners in life of their own sex, within the family home, with whom they work and to whom they are bound by something even closer than friendship. Many bad things happen in monogamous marriages. Hierarchies exist in monogamous families - between husband and wife, between siblings. That they similarly have the capacity to exist in polygamous marriages isn?t a true argument against such unions, capable as they are of producing stable homes, just as monogamous marriages do. Some marriages are good, some bad - that?s true of both monogamy and polygamy: and for those involved - partners, children, society - a good polygamous marriage is better than a bad monogamous one.

oooooooooooooooooops thanks

Mytwopenceworth, do you really believe that, or have you cut and pasted just for the sake of a discussion?

ok now?

I spent 19 months in a Kenyan village, doing research on gender, livelihoods and poverty. I met very few women who thought that polygyny was a good idea. They few who did thought that they had been very lucky in their co-wives.

'Polygamy presents heterosexual people with the opportunity to have partners in life of their own sex, within the family home, with whom they work and to whom they are bound by something even closer than friendship.'

Righty-o. I am heterosexual and one had to live with my mother and sister, to whom I was bound by something closer than friendship, w/i the family home.

It sucked. I couldn't get out of there quickly enough.

I don't WANT partners of the same sex 'sharing' my home and shagging my husband, thank you.

I have been reading lots of comments about how people are bored of endless lists and how long it has been since there has been a debate! If people can ask what colour is your underwear and are you a swinger, I thought I could invite people to debate a couple of topics!!

wwb thanks!! omg!! i looked up pics os kayak [spelt right] on wanadoo pics you dont wanna see what i saw going to change my name back ,,arggggggggh

No problem with that - just wondered what you thought though.

and yes, i did cut and paste a starter point to kick off a debate!!

me? i think that there are pros and cons! how on the fence is that! i find that in debating a topic, you can come to realise where you stand even if you werent sure to begin with!!

I would hazard a guess that the numbers of women who would realy like to be in a polygamous relationship is about the same as women happy to be in an 'open' monogamous one.

I wouldnt mind having a wife, not for sex though. just to do the cooking cleaning and housework