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If you were a childminder/friend would you change someone elses 6 year olds nappy?

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Fio2 · 14/07/2005 08:16

whilst you were looking after them?

Honest opinions please, as my family are so useless I am going to have to ask someone else to watch my dd for the day and that is the only thing I am worried about, ok not the only thing but one of the things

promise I wont be offended if you say no, i need to know where I stand

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jamboure · 14/07/2005 13:30

thanx all and also thanx for the welcome

I will try to understand more but please be patient with me isall i ask

Caligula · 14/07/2005 13:31

Haven't read the thread but yes of course I would. It's part of the job. And if I'm not prepared to do it, I wouldn't accept the child in the first place. (But I'm a miserable old bat looking for an easy life, so i'd never want to look after anyone else's child anyway, nappies or not.)

MandM · 14/07/2005 13:34

Jamboure

MandM · 14/07/2005 13:34

Jamboure

Aero · 14/07/2005 13:35
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Thomcat · 14/07/2005 13:41

Oh phew, glad it's all blown over and welcome to MN Jamboure

misdee · 14/07/2005 13:43

i wouldnt mind, but i'd probably end up ordering your dd some specially made cloth nappies i cant help it, i am addicted!!

dinosaur · 14/07/2005 13:44

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Lonelymum · 14/07/2005 13:48

Just to put a spanner in the works and take the heat of jamboure who I think has just been subjected to quite a lot of nastiness, no Fio, I wouldn't want to change your dd's nappy. Well you did ask for honest answers and I am not aure the no brigade has dared to come out yet. It has nothing to do with the age of your dd, but I am not a very natural mother and although I have changed my own children's nappies every day for the last nine years, the thought of changing another childs' nappy does not appeal. I suppose if it was just wet that would be OK, but you couldn't care for a child and tell them only to wee and not to poo while they were in your care could you? So I think I would have to say no. Dh wouldn't mind though.

Lonelymum · 14/07/2005 13:49

Apologies for all the mistakes in that post. I hope it is understandable and inoffensive. It really is HOT today!

misdee · 14/07/2005 13:52

i would hold my nose tho, or use a safety device, ie a peg!!

my neice did a stinker the other day, i couldnt face doing it so my mum did it. but then he was being looked after by my mum so it wasnt my responsibility. if i was being paid for the care of an older child (with or wiothout SN) who was still in nappies then i think that you are being 'emplyed' by someone to change nappies then you should do it. you cant leave older kids in stinky nappies, becuase well they stink! breastfed baby nappies are just mildly offensive.

Ellbell · 14/07/2005 14:02

Lonelymum... I have a good friend who is the Head Teacher of a nursery school. She doesn't have kids of her own, but obviously spends her whole life surrounded by 0-5 year olds (it's a Sure Start place too, so they take babies as well as the normal 3-5s). However, she WILL NOT change nappies. It's the one thing she draws the line at. I totally respect that - it's her choice. I would try not to leave a child in nappies in her sole care, so that she didn't have to do it. It's a sign of how great she is that she did come round to look after my dd1 when I went into labour in the middle of the night (no family nearby) AND changed her nappy in the morning (according to staff at day nursery it was hanging off a bit... she had to ask my dd - then 22 months - how to do it!!), but she made it very clear that it was a one-off!

What I meant in my original post was that, if someone agreed to look after a child (of any age) knowing that they used nappies, then they should view changing the nappy as a normal part of the process of looking after that child.

Misdee... LOL at peg! I know that SleepyJess burns incense sticks when changing her ds2.

Lonelymum · 14/07/2005 14:05

Ellbell, I totally agree. I wouldn't volunteer to look after a child if nappy changing was part of it, that's all.

Actually, the more I think about it, if I was being paid to look after a child, of course I would change his/her nappy if required. It is not as if I don't know how or haven't changed enough in my time! But I wouldn't want to do it and I wouldn't offer my services to a friend.

Catsmother · 14/07/2005 14:07

If you accept the responsibility of looking after any child, then you take on all that needs to be done during the time you're looking after them (....even if you wouldn't choose to do it). After all any child of any age can have an accident, or be sick, and you don't just leave them dirty do you ? If you did, that'd be incredibly cruel ...... the thing is Fio, if someone was reluctant to deal with the "nasties" that could crop up, they shouldn't accept responsibility in the first place. I'm sorry your family are so useless.

Lonelymum · 14/07/2005 14:08

Just a thought: I have worked out that based on 365 days in a year, 9 years of having children, and an average of 5 nappies a day, I have changed somewhere in the region of 16,425 nappies! (Or dh has!)

Dingle · 14/07/2005 14:10

Fio, I am sure you would guess, but it would be absolutely no problem for me either!! But whatever the child's "needs" were. I wouldn't take on the responsibility unless I was completely prepared. By that I mean; I would need to know, what to make for lunch, where her favourite toy was, where the nappy changing stuff was kept......If that was all explained, then there really wouldn't be an issue.

God I sound such a stick in the mud! But you know I am a born worrier!

clary · 14/07/2005 14:10

Fio2 of course I would have no problem.
Never been bothered about changign anyone's nappies, tbh. Seen one, seen 'em all.
dino makes a good point, I still wipe my 6yo and 4 yo bottoms!

Jimjams · 14/07/2005 14:28

well obvioudly I would fio as ds1 wasn't toilet trained until 5, but to answer your question about childminders- the mumsnetter childminder he goes to for respite does change the nappies of children with SN. I don't think its a problem.

TBH I always used the response to nappies as a way of categorising people. If they couldn't cope with nappies or looked obviously horrified when they found out he was in then (not that I broadcasted it) then I knew there wasn't much point in continuing with anything more than a superficial hello. Pooing in nappies was about the least offensive thing he did. The majority of people are fine about it.

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Fio2 · 14/07/2005 14:28

gosh this thread has taken on a life of its own!

Jambourne I am not offended by you at all, i did say so. i should have explained better. i am not upset either by anything

Lonelymum, fwiw I am a squiffy nappy changer too. Its a bit different when it is your own child and that is why i asked the question. i wanted people to be honest so that I 6sort6 6of6 knew what to expect if I ring round childminders asking for 'support' in any way shape or form.

Sorry i can not remember who posted saying they got 'extra funding' if they had an SN child to mind, as a childminder. Where does this 'extra' funding come from? do you know if I would have to apply for it or the childminder in question?

and rickman I am scared you would raid my stash of wine

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Fio2 · 14/07/2005 14:31

yes ikwym jimjams

and I have no idea where those 6's came from i think they were supposed to be ^^^

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Dingle · 14/07/2005 14:32

He he he....you have just reminded me to phone up about dd's nappies!!!! For the likes of my local services!!! Some children with SN get free nappies from the age of 3. My area (Fio too!!) doesn't give them until 4. The reaon they gave me was because there are too many lazy mums out there, that can't be bothered to potty train their children!!!FFS!!!!

HV gave me a supplier of "cheap nappies" and I have just rung them. Their nappies only go up to 16lb, Amelia is about 34lb!! The only other thing they could offer was continence pads at nearly 80p each!! Oh dear, I'll suppose I am just lazy then! BTW, for those of you that don't know, my dd (3.8)has SN too!!

sorry, rant over.

Jimjams · 14/07/2005 14:35

Fio- I pay the childminder more, money comes from social services (direct payments)

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Fio2 · 14/07/2005 14:35

Dingle if you want some nappies I am overflowing with them atm

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Dingle · 14/07/2005 14:35

Fio, don't know much, but I know there is a child minder at the school I have chatted to in the past. I know she was doing added units of an NVQ to cover varoius aspect of caring for children with SN.

We have a local phone number in Medway that dealswith child care, do you have similar where you are? They would surely have details of this, wouldn't they?

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Fio2 · 14/07/2005 14:36

so answer is ask for direct payments then, i must. I dont know why i havent already. i have just pout a form in for a 25% discount on council tax aswell. Boy have I been busy

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