If you were a childminder/friend would you change someone elses 6 year olds nappy?

[Fio2]

whilst you were looking after them?

Honest opinions please, as my family are so useless I am going to have to ask someone else to watch my dd for the day and that is the only thing I am worried about, ok not the only thing but one of the things

promise I wont be offended if you say no, i need to know where I stand

I have saids in my later post she has special needs, i thought people would just 'know' i apologise but I am also idle, that for one is true

I'm just a bit sad that anyone would read 'child in nappies at 6' and not think that there would be a special reason for that.

I know your child has special needs because I've read your other posts and lurk alot but newer people don't know and read things at face value and it's not really fair to leap on them cos they don't know. Not that you did Fio, but others can be very snappy about it.

I am MN peackeeping envoy today.

Sure, I see your point, KBear, but still ... I'm really forgetful, I didn't know Fio2's DD had SN. But I guessed.

It's hardly like someone is going to have a 6-year-old in nappies and not know that's a bit old (for an NT kid). Is Fio2 going to suddenly go "Doh! She's 6! I should toilet train her! I knew I forgot something!"

Jamboure

Are there really people out there that think 'ah, a six year old still in nappies! Her mother must be damn lazy if she hasn't toilet trained her yet.'?

DD is 4yrs 3mths and still in nappies and probably still will be when she's 6. She's going to school in September. Am I interpreting this right, that there are mothers who will stand in that playground and not realise that the child that can't speak or walk properly, is actually in nappies for a REASON?

Have done for a friend's 8yo who has CP. I wanted to see it done by an expert a few times before getting stuck in myself though, so I could judge to what extent he could co-operate for himself, or whether we were going to have the 'mad-flailing-legs-and-feet-in-the-poo' syndrome that I know and love from my babies.

But he was good as gold. Frankly if you've seen one disgusting pooey nappy, you've seen them all.

And I really don't think anyone has been 'lept' on or been 'snapped' at. Certainly not how I was coming across. i just think that's it's sad that people wouldn't guess that there must be a reason a child of 6 would wear nappies and that it would need explaining. It makes me realise that there will be some people who will think that I've been a bad parent or something when they notice my non-toddler in nappies.

I had, obviously, realised that Fio was talking about an SN child.

But in fairness, there was a (completely NT) child who turned up to my dd1's Reception class still in nappies. The mother refused to do anything about it, so the school called in Social Services.

Tbh TC, just to reassure you, I dont think that many people do notice as they are quite slim on a bigger body iykwim

I should have explained better sorry, i dont think its worth anyone getting angry about

I'm certainly not angry, and thanks for the reassurance Fio xx

It would be a privilege to be entrusted with your daughter, fio2. Changing nappies is just part of the deal.

jamboure- I can just about excuse your ignorance as I can only imagine that you are now feeling ashamed and mortified at your ridiculous post. Maybe you should think about apologizing to Fio?

what time shall i drop her off scummy?

Anytime babe. i wish i lived nearer. Have a couple of weeks off at the mo and would be glad to help.

Exactly.

Fio, in answer to the original question, I wouldn't hesitate for a moment to do this for a child I was asked to look after. As a mother of an SN child I would fully appreciate that you have to be extra careful in choosing who you will trust to look after your child, and I would feel honoured to be asked and trusted to do the job. A bit of a whiffy nappy certainly wouldn't spoil that feeling!

I will bow out of this as I seem to have made it worse instead of better. Sorry.

Oops - looked like Scummy beat me to it!

The server connection here always hits a blip at 12pm when everyone logs on to the net at lunchtime (I just stay logged on all day )

Aren't people being slightly harsh on Jambourne? I have to say when I saw the title of this thread, I wondered what it was all about for a minute, then realised what it would be about. But it took me a moment, partly because I don't know Fio2's history, and partly because I am not attuned to children with special needs.

To be fair to Jamboure, I have (actually had) a friend who didn't bother to toilet train her (perfectly normal) kid. At 5.5yo she was still in nappies. I was mortified when my (now ex-) friend yelled at the daughter and said "if you would just learn to use the toilet I wouldn't have to change your stinky nappies!" (unbelievable, but true)

But this is all off topic.

Fio2 anyone who could not be bothered to change your DD's nappies is probably not special enough to look after her. It is a real privilege when someone entrusts you with their child. Changing a nappy is the LEAST they should do. This should not even be a question. If they can't be bothered to change her then you must really be worrying about how else they might neglect her. If you can find someone else who adores her to help out, then you'd probably have better peace of mind.

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oh scummy, you are a star. i wished you lived nearer too

anyway whilst this thread has been going my Mother (!!!!) has agreed to come down and watch her for the day and I am going to poay her petrol. But I am going to have to rely on other people in the future and this thread has really helped, thanks x

of course i would

gosh it took me ages to post that

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