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If you were a childminder/friend would you change someone elses 6 year olds nappy?

109 replies

Fio2 · 14/07/2005 08:16

whilst you were looking after them?

Honest opinions please, as my family are so useless I am going to have to ask someone else to watch my dd for the day and that is the only thing I am worried about, ok not the only thing but one of the things

promise I wont be offended if you say no, i need to know where I stand

OP posts:
PiccadillyCircus · 14/07/2005 12:48

I would definitely change the nappies of a 6 year old.

milward · 14/07/2005 12:51

Would be fine with me - meeting the childs needs is what is important

Blu · 14/07/2005 12:53

Dahlia - exactly - you took a moment to think, and realised the issue even though you don't know Fio's circumstances

I didn't mean to 'jjump' on Jamboure - but just say 'take that minute'.

That's all it takes, and, honestly, in many many circumstances, would save parents of SN kids a lot of upset.

Ellbell · 14/07/2005 12:58

Fio

Glad you are reassured by this thread. Very and indeed that some people would have a problem with it. Like other people have said... if it needs doing it has to be done. I certainly wouldn't have a problem with this and I am sure most childminders would take it in their stride. I had a 2nd cousin (much older than me - my mum's generation) who had DS and I have certainly taken him to the toilet and wiped his bum for him. No big deal. Hope you find a lovely reliable person to look after your dd.

jamboure · 14/07/2005 13:01

Ladies get off your bandwagon!!!!!

I mearly asked a question wasnt insinuating anything!!!!!!!

I AM an WILL not be a parent as you so stated Mandm who will not speak to a child because they are in nappies at 6 yrs old.

How dare you all get on at me for this, yes I mearly didnt think prior to posting about special needs but what right does that give you lot to go off on one at me.

Oh yes you are perfect mumsnetters arent you and never make a mistake, thanks for making me feel like shite folks. I did put excuse my ignorance on my post for that reason, i wasnot totally understanding and would kindly thank you if you get of my case.

You come to things like this to make friends and unless you are just PERFECT or in the clique you are an outcast.

Kwikate thanks hun for your nice reply to my comment and I agree there are mums out there that dont bother and expect their children to be self taught.

Fio sorry if i offended you with my question but it was just that a question nothing meant in any malice like i am being made to feel

Thanks all for making me feel this way and i will remind myself never to post on here again as i dont want to be associated with a bunch of numbskulls who may not have understood why i asked

QueenOfQuotes · 14/07/2005 13:02

jamboure - I suggest you read ALL the posts relating to yours - you'll see that several people "backed you up"...............

HappyMumof2 · 14/07/2005 13:03

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Thomcat · 14/07/2005 13:10

I don't think anyone meant to nake you feel like shit Jambourne, but you've certainly taken it that way and tbh I think you may be overreacting a bit yourself now, but hey ho, that's your choice and it's your choice to never use mumsnet again as well. Sorry that a few people saying that perhaps there was a good reason and so on was taken at people having a huge go at you, I certainly didn't mean it in a nasty way, just thought it might have been a little insensitive. It's a shame it turned into this.

jamboure · 14/07/2005 13:10

Maybe it does in fact take a bit to work out for me happymum, maybe you should also think before you post eh!!!!!!

And I did say thanx for "backing me up" as you so put it qoq

Aero · 14/07/2005 13:11

Getting back to the question in Fio's first post - no problem - wouldn't bat an eyelid and tbh my 5yo still needs assistance with wiping and even my 7yo occasionally!

jamboure · 14/07/2005 13:11

I do not come here to fight or get into heated discussions, i came here originally as I wanted to make friends but now may have to rethink about that.

Will post to nice people

HappyMumof2 · 14/07/2005 13:13

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rickman · 14/07/2005 13:14

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Thomcat · 14/07/2005 13:14

oh jamboure, I think this is all a bit out of control now. i really don't think anbyone has been nasty to you, and I don't think anyone here is not a nice person. If something like this makes you want to leave mumsnet then well, then maybe chat rooms aren't for you??? I mean no offence, I just think it's all gone a bit mad and npot sue why you are so very, very angry tbh.

Hausfrau · 14/07/2005 13:15

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hunkermunker · 14/07/2005 13:16

Fio, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Jambourne, take a deep breath - welcome to MN

HappyMumof2 · 14/07/2005 13:16

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ScummyMummy · 14/07/2005 13:18

Fio is a lovely person, jamboure. I think many of us were very worried that your comments might be hurtful to her and to other parents with children with special needs. I am sorry if my post to you was harsh but I was genuinely concerned that Fio would be upset and wanted to show her my support.

MandM · 14/07/2005 13:19

Jamboure - reread my first post. Yes I put a shocked emoticon after your name, because I would have thought that most people seeing the title of this thread would have realised its implication.

However, I in no way directed the rest of my comments at you. They were generalisations about the public as a whole.

I also did not insinuate that other mothers would not speak to my daughter because of her disabilities. If that was the case I really would have a problem with them.

Littlefish · 14/07/2005 13:22

Fio - not a problem for me either.

kcemum · 14/07/2005 13:22

Fio2 back to your question for childminders about special needs. I haven't looked after other children with special need except for a hearing impaired child (my own). However I feel that providing you were to give a full detailed explanation of to the childs needs then the childminder would be able to make an informed choice as to whether she would be able to give the correct care for your child, we are able to go on courses about special needs and many many childminders that i know are more than willing to look after these children- it's just that we are not asked.I don't think that we would need any extra insurance.

Aero · 14/07/2005 13:22

I think we should just keep to the point on this one tbh - in answer to jamboure's first post (which yes, might seem ignorant, but she both said sorry if reading it wrongly and asked for her ignorance to be excused), yes, it's not at all uncommon for some six year-olds (and older) to still use nappies/pads. Usually they have special needs.
I think the response to your post was quite harsh, but in turn, you did retaliate to it in quite harsh words yourself. You were clearly ignorant about this issue, but I hope now you are more aware of why a six year old might be wearing a nappy.

Aero · 14/07/2005 13:24

ps Welcome to mn.

lunavix · 14/07/2005 13:25

In response to the original question, I am a childminder and if I took on a child with special needs I would DEFINATELY change their nappy - it's part of the responsibility you take on isn't it.

The only time I see it being a problem with friends is it being a man (lots of men are wary of the intimate 'needs' of girls above toddler age) and people not understanding her needs. But I'm sure you'd choose wisely!

lunavix · 14/07/2005 13:27

Sure start and councils help with training for childminders for working with children with additional needs

also you can get funding to help eg a childminder I know had funding to fit her house with that hearing aid thing (sorry I don't know what's it's called!!!