SG, I went back to work when DS was 5.5 months, 2 days from home, 2 in the office. If I could have done mainly from home, I would have been happier, especially after having had DD and 13 months off with her. I found tha tonce ds was 18 months, he bacame more demanding, and so went to nursery during the mornings as not so easy when you have to work "core hours", as I also had to take phonecalls etc (current job, though, is a lot more flexible, i wouldn't have needed nursery). so I think if you don't have tight deadlines, can prepare your reports etc when he's sleeping with the occasional meeting, then it's fine. if you have to be "on call" 9-5, it'd be more difficult (not easy to have a phone convo when you have a 12 mo tantruming in the background).
sput, I never really thought about the pointing, I can't really remember DS doing it, DD definetly more, boh. and he was a bit slower i guess with his speech, though that improved dramatically with nursery, and I just put it down to the 2 languages thing and then I know my DB was very slow in that respect too.
gio, I'm on FB too, if you check on buch/pippi/rosa - I'm a precious stone .