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Would you do this?

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CountessDracula · 06/06/2005 20:36

Am going away to stay in a hotel. Have a 300m range listening device (dd aged 2.8 is coming with us). There is a beach bar 50 yds away from the hotel. If we checked that the monitor worked and left a radio on in the room on low vol. to ensure that we hadn't lost connection, could we go down to beach bar in the evening or is that really bad? She almost never wakes up in the evening.

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misdee · 06/06/2005 20:37

u're gonna get people saying bout fires etc.

charleepeters · 06/06/2005 20:38

i personally wouldnt im afraid, i wouldnt leave the hotel.

nikcola · 06/06/2005 20:38

i personally wouldnt but its up to you hun

KBear · 06/06/2005 20:39

no, I would'nt.

marne · 06/06/2005 20:40

I wouldnt (no way), what if your child was ill, if there was a fire or if he was choking?

womba1 · 06/06/2005 20:40

I don't think it's bad at all! You're only 50 yards away so if there were any problems, you could make it back to the room in no time at all. I'd probably insist though that my dh and i took it in turns to pop back and check on the little one every half an hour or so.
Enjoys your hols!!

helsi · 06/06/2005 20:40

mmm - you could get advice either way on this one. I suppose that 50 yds is not far especially if you have connection. Additionally a fire could break out anywhere in a hotel even if you are only downstairs so IMO this is your call. Maybe see how you feel when you get there? We have been i large hotle with baby listening on and compared to where our room was and where the bar downstairs was you could say that was 50 yards.

LIZS · 06/06/2005 20:41

Don't think that is much different to what we have done occasonally in past - such as eaten in lakeside restaurant in hotel grounds with baby listeneing by reception. You do need ot be careful though and funnily now they are older I'm less comfortable with it, as they can roam around the room and in case of fire - to lock the door or not ?

LGJ · 06/06/2005 20:42

I would, but I would also employ the hotel to listen in as well.

She is your child, you are a very sorted lady, please oh please do seek the views of MN on this.

You will get the yes's

The No's

The how dare you's

I could go on but I am in danger of becoming too narky and picky..............

SenoraPostrophe · 06/06/2005 20:44

God, CD, I do that quite frequently with my two (3 yrs and 16 months) while I pop next door for a chat.

So I say no problem. Just don't get too pissed and lose the listening thingy.

NB where is the hotel? depending on the thickness of the walls a 300m device might not go that far. We use walky talkies with the talk button elasticed down.

flashingnose · 06/06/2005 20:45

I would have no qualms about doing this abroad, combined with regular checks up to the room and the door locked .

ladymuck · 06/06/2005 20:46

Ho hum
Possibly .

I guess that I would see how easy it would be for dd to get out of the room if she did wake and wander. (2yo ds2 doscovered how to open our hotel room ont he last day of our holiday, after we had been leaving him in the evenings.

I would probably also pop back occasionally to check in person.

I guess my main difficulty in this scenario is that I would generally explain to the hotel reception what I was doing (ie I am leaving a child asleep in Room XX whilst I go to the bar) - potentially it is more difficult if you are going to someone else's bar.

I wouldn't rule it out though.

But I am a bad mother!

WideWebWitch · 06/06/2005 20:46

I would. I can't see how being 50yds away is any different to being in the hotel on a different floor/downstairs in a large house. As long as you can hear, I don't see the prob. I'd do it. If there was a fire fire regs dictate that an alarm will go off and you will hear it. IF and it's a big if. Unless you're planning on leaving her with some fags and a box of matches.

Gobbledigook · 06/06/2005 20:47

I wouldn't. Tbh, I wouldn't use hotel baby listening services either. I couldn't relax.

I'd rather take the baby/child out in the buggy and hopefully they'd sleep in that while we had a drink.

But no way, no how would I leave my baby unattended while I went out.

Pinotmum · 06/06/2005 20:49

Yes but I would definitely check out the situation more when I got there such as where our room was and entry/exit etc. Great if it can work for you or the alternative is the toddler in the buggy with you which isn't so great Have a lovely time!

WideWebWitch · 06/06/2005 20:50

2.8yo in buggy = not a good night out with dh imo. I'd rather not bother than do that!

PinkFluffPudding · 06/06/2005 20:50

Does the hotel offer a babysitting service? The extra expense would be worth it IMO as then i could truly relax.

BarbaraX · 06/06/2005 20:51

no way!!!!!
if something goes very wrong (a fire, stop breating for any reason, throwing up and chocking) you will not be there with her in that exact moment that could save her life. It counts like leaving you child at home alone? sone one could report you to authorities and rightly so.

I would consider taking a buggy that reclines a lot and let her fall asleep there at the beach bar. I have seen people abroad having their child with them this way asleep late in restaurants etc, it is acceptable on holiday I think

kama · 06/06/2005 20:52

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flashingnose · 06/06/2005 20:52

But that could happen upstairs in your own home barbaraX (not the fire, obviously).

Pinotmum · 06/06/2005 20:53

Yes I've done the buggy but 50 yds is like being at the end of your garden and with a listening device glued to your ear I can't see it being like abandonment/home alone situation.

Polgara2 · 06/06/2005 20:54

I agree with gdg on this one - couldn't possibly leave child on own anywhere. Have never used baby listening either. Each to their own but I just couldn't do it under any circumstances.

GaylordFocker · 06/06/2005 20:55

no I wouldn't. All the hols we've had we had to be with the baby. Just imagine if something went wrong you would feel bad, am being serious. Please don't leave her alone, she is so young. What if she stop making noise and you thought she was okay, but had chocked on her own vomit because was ill or stopped breathing. Please don't slate me. Can you not do shifts or maybe have a few in your room, is their a balcony? Please don't think am being mean btw.

Surfermum · 06/06/2005 20:57

I think I probably wouldn't feel comfortable in another building. Would she fall asleep in the buggy if you went for a walk before going in the bar? Or my other suggestion is what I did when I was on hols at Easter - leave dh behind and go on my own. My favourite Cornish pub, a very large glass of wine and an hour of peace to read the paper. Bliss!

SenoraPostrophe · 06/06/2005 20:57

barbarax - but what would happen if your child were to stop breathing while you were watching telly? You wouldn't hear it. throwing up/choking etc you'd hear on the intercom and could dash 50 yards pretty quickly. And there'd be an alarm if there was a fire. In some ways it's safer than leaving your child asleep while sitting in the garden.