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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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sparklymieow · 06/06/2005 23:30

SC someone at Bolton council said that my address sounded nice when I was talking to them the other day

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sparklymieow · 06/06/2005 23:47

and I'm back on the housing list now too!!!!!

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hub2dee · 07/06/2005 08:05

All sounds good sparkly.

Even if you can only see the GP in the afternoon, it will be easier for them to get loads of notice, so they can plan their day too, so do call them this AM to set up your meeting for this evening or tomorrow.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 10:00

having a bad day, kept dd2 at home rather than having to go ad n pick her at lunchtime, phoned the preschool and explained everything, they said they will keep her place open for me.phoned the home call doctor too, waiting for him to phone me.

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spacecadet · 07/06/2005 10:17

sorry to hear that, whats been going on?

LunarSea · 07/06/2005 10:36

Sorry to hear things are so bad today. But.... it's just possible that you could make a positive out of this. Can you call the preschool and see if you can get them to write a letter too saying that because you don't dare to leave the house it's disrupting her early education? The more ammunition/evidence of the effects this is having on you the better.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 11:04

just feel bad today, the buggy and camera just turned up, thanks. My dad found my bins up by the garages. They were standing outside and when the bloke dropped the parcel off they all looked at me, and when my parents left they were looking at us. Feel sick..... had enough......

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hub2dee · 07/06/2005 11:07

Erm.. there's never a good time for me to mention it, sparkly.... But phone your GP. You will benefit from their advice, support and treatment - for your health and for your battle plans !

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 11:29

I have..... just spoke to the council manager and she said that I shouldn't let it get to me...

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spacecadet · 07/06/2005 13:57

its alright for her to say though isnt?, glad the parcel arrived ok, er....GP???

misdee · 07/06/2005 14:07

gp has been out and he has given me AD and is writing to the council

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 14:09

whoops misdee been on my comuter

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champs · 07/06/2005 14:10

grrrrr!! just a thought sparkly, do the pre school have a bus/transport for picking up children? or is there some sort of carpool? not trying to add more worry to you but it may be good for your dd2 to have as normal a time as poss, also will be good for you to have time to yourself. do you feel like having her at home is company? you must feel so isolated at home as you feel you cant go out. I know it prob dont help but I do feel that mr apeman thrives on intimidating you and the chances of him actually doing anything to you is minimal.
I really hate that you wont leave your house how dare he make you feel like this. dont forget to log the incident about bins and parcel delivery down, adding that you couldn't take dd to school as you was so fearful.

I forgot to ask this before, is there a way you can get one of those safety buttons in your home, as a carrer I thonk you can have one fitted. May make you feel safer too.

champs · 07/06/2005 14:11

grrrr is about apeman not you btw.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 14:16

you all properbly think I am a real wimp don't you, that I am letting it all get to me too much... sorry.....

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champs · 07/06/2005 14:20

dont be silly!! you're not a wimp at all infact i think the complete opposite, you are being very brave. You are doing something about this and not letting apeman get away with this. you have shown strengh and resiliance all the way thru, be proud of yourself hun, we are!

KBear · 07/06/2005 14:20

sparkly of course we don't, we would all feel the same. We all want to come up and duff him up but that's not the answer. Personally speaking I am livid that this is taking so long for you to get sorted - I would like to ring whoever necessary myself and tell them to get you and your family out of there PDQ. It's obviously making you ill and no wonder.

Hang in there, we are rooting for you and no one thinks you are being anything but brave.

KBear · 07/06/2005 14:21

I didn't mean you've been taking a long time to get it sorted, I mean "they" are! I know you know that but thought I'd better clarify.

champs · 07/06/2005 14:22
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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 14:28

why us, what did we do to deserve this? I mind my own business, I don't gossip about neighbours, I keep myslef to myself. I have enough on my plate without all this..... just want to pack all my stuff into storage and go to Bolton and live with SIL till they can find us a house.......

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nutcracker · 07/06/2005 14:29

You are not a wimp and have nothing to apologise for.
Not many people know this as I didn't tell anyone, but when it was happeneing to us I wanted to chuck myself off the roof. It got to the point where didn't want to get up cos I knew there would be some prob with them during the day, and i didn'tr want to go to bed cos I knew they wouldn't let me sleep.

I almost fell apart, dp got threatened with the sack because he would go to work and I would ring him hysterical, screaming and crying saying I couldn't cope and he would have to come home, and that was the days when I let him leave in the first place. Several times he came home to find me lying in bed with a pillow over my head, crying.

Don't feel you have to be strong and keep it all in, if you wanna scream and shout then do.

You will win in the end, your neighbours will get what they deserve and you will get to live in peace. I know it's hard to believe but you have to or else they have won, they have achieved their aim.

spacecadet · 07/06/2005 14:52

YOU ARE NOT A WIMP!!!!, anybody in the same circumstances would feel exactly as you do, it must be bloody awaful to be too scared to step out of your own house, im gkad that the gp has been out, take the ads but letsface it, if you didnt have nightmare neighbours from hell you wouldnt be like this would you..GGGRRRRRRRR, too at your pathetic, %$£%&(( of a %$$^&( neighbour

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 15:43

Just noticed that our old bin cupboard that we knocked out and boarded up and put our huge fridge freezer in front off, the door has been opened. We nailed it shut tight......

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 16:02

NC how did you get moved in the end...?? I just want out now..... I need to feel peaceful IYKWIM. I don't feel at ease at all..... doctor that came out is the one that knows the family well, and I think he was shocked to see me like this, last time he saw me like this was when I had PND and had just found out I was pregnant again with dd2, and she is nearly 4 now, so a long time ago. He was very understanding and is going to write to the council about my mental state.

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hub2dee · 07/06/2005 16:09

Well done on the GP, sparkly. I know that took a lot of guts for you. Hope the visit was useful. What did you think of them / their comments / advice ?

I really hope the letter they will write for you will help everything click into place.