My neighbours are ar**holes...... had to call the police

[sparklymieow]

went to my mum's to sort out their internet and got a call from my DH, very shaken and he said that the neighbours had been round and threaten him and were standing outside and not to come home I phoned the police from my mums and came straight home, I leaped out and told my neighbour that he had no right to threaten anyone and to make them feel like this, he called me a thing and that I should just get into my 'dirty' house.... my mum got out and said to him that she was sorry for shouting over the fence on sunday and that the arguement was with her and not us.... he told us to get off 'his' garden (not his its his parents house) and started to push me, at which point my dad jumped between us, and he said that he would flatten my dad!!! I said the plice were on their way, and he said that if they did come I wouldn't be living here much longer....... I went into the house and phoned the council and said that I want to make a complaint about the neighbours. The police turned up then and spoke to us, they had already been next door, and he said that they had missed out lots of information, I went and got the kids from scool whil the police were next door and broke down in the office...... I jus want a quiet life, wh is it that wherever I go, there is trouble

his boys... because he is scared to do anything himself.

Stay out of his way for your own safety though.

FWIW, I think he has a very poor line in cussing.

What could you think to call him ?

my SIL is in Bolton (200 miles awa) and they have a different way of allocating houses and I might be able to get moved up there.....

My mum sad 'well you'll be back inside before long anyway'

Nice to have friends like that, sparkly.

(I'd keep a small tight circle)...

Go on, post some clever nasty cusses, *?! as appropriate, so if he says something, next time you'll be armed with a collection of fantastic one-liners...

Maybe something about (your) and (his) height difference ?

Do post...

like what... At least I have repect for people!!!

I told him he was f*ckng outta order thinking he could intimadate people and he has no right to be like this.....

I'm so timid normally....... but he came round with his boys threatening my DH while my Dd2 was in the house.......

If I'm small and thin, how come it takes a man 100 pounds heavier than me and a foot taller to try and intimidate me ?

Do you think you're very big picking on someone half your weight, and a foot shorter ? Is that why you need to work out so much ?

(My cusses are as bad as his I fear).

Something open ended - with a 'thinking question' instead of closed with a 'yes / no' answer is what we need....

"Can I ask how long you plan on staying 'outside' ? Cos if you carry on like this you'll be inside before you know it, skinny boy."

lol... Am going to phone the council again..... so pissed off, jst got our DD1's shared care sorted out and met the lady yesterday (she's lovely) and now all this has happened......

he said that I should go into my 'dirty' house..... well my house might not be tidy but its is clean. cheeky bastard....

Never underestimate the lioness, sparkly...

If this sort of crap is set to continue for a while, you might find it useful to enrol in a good quality self-defence / assertion course. Although you sound like you're doing a good job of holding your own, having practice at breathing, standing tall, expecting aggression, staying calm etc. might all be positive experiences you can integrate into your head.

Some classes are regular, some are one-off events which just give you core knowledge...

I'm not suggesting this to encourage a fight, that is always NOT the desired outcome, but it might help you feel strong on the inside, and it's good practice if anything physical does happen. Take dh too, this kind of thing is very scary for men, and as we're conditioned by society to be 'the tough one' we can feel even more disappointed at ourselves IYSWIM...

he told the police that I got out the car and started shouting at him, forgetting to tell them that they had just threaten DH.......

Yeah, if you can do what you can to keep your side as calm and nice as possible, you'll come out top.

He'll dig his own grave in his own time and in his own style.

he started on a lady up the road because she asked them to be quiet, he was calling her rasist names and she didn't complain.....

he shot an airgun through someone's window too.....

Sounds like 50% of your battle will be talking to these people and saying, here, phone this number anonymously, or even calling from your mobile with them etc.

If the police / HA etc. start getting complaints from all over, it becomes more relvant / pressing / worthwhile to press charges on these various things I'd imagine.

but the airgun hing was into our socalled 'friend's mum house and the other lad lives nextdoor to the soalled friend too, so if he see me going into her house they will know...

lad=lady

Send them a letter.

mmmmm thats a good idea... not sure of her address, but they seem to be leaving her alone, so I hope they wil move on to someone else and thn they can complain too..

it feels that they think the can do what they like 'because they have lived for 27 years' we have been here 5 years, and not had a problem before,

Perhaps you will bump into the people you need to speak with in the next week or so just walking around / shopping etc ? Have the numbers you need to call in your head or your mobile (pref. head) !

Also, make sure you go to any resident's / HA meetings etc.

One final idea which might work v. well is to find out when your local councillors / MPs etc. have their regular 'advice surgeries' (phone the council to ask)... you can go along, explain your situation, that you're upset at the bureaucracy / money wasting involved in rehoming 'the innocent' when the ar**holes are left free, your kids, etc. etc. and with a teensy bit of luck, they might take an interest in your case and pull some strings to get this situation sorted...