Are you friends with your DH/DP's significant ex?

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We see the ex a fair bit, and I'm pretty fond of her. I really can't imagine them as a couple: they are both so chronically indecisive, it's amazing they ever got it together or, for that matter, decided to call it a day. Guess it helps that they'd broken up a few years before I slouched onto the scene.
But I do feel frightfully modern when we all meet up for lunch (she has recently married). I'd happily go for a drink with her on our own.

I'm friends with MOST of my exes ...

Although one runs away terrified every time I try to talk to him, to lock up his bunny I think.

I am good friends with the one-who-is-now-gay-who-vomited-on-me-during-at-attempt-at-heterosexual-sex. He is now dd's godfather.

My ex-husband had a sex change and we go out for lunch a few times a year (sometimes with her mad lesbian partner) which is nice but a bit unusual.

Do you mean ex boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives?

No, neither of us see my ex-boyfriend because he died 5 years ago.

We don't see his ex-girlfriend because she lives in Essex and we live in Cheshire - not likely to bump into each other!

MP lol at vomiting, that must have been flattering at the time!

Haha yes it wasn't much of an ego boost, I can tell you.

Although at least DP doesn't mind me staying overnight with said ex-boyfriend; much hysterical laughter all round at the thought of anything inappropriate occuring (poor boy actually turns slightly green if you joke about it).

I don't think either of us have got any significant exes. But I am very much in touch with a university ex. Have often found myself sitting having a drink /meal with a crowd of us, including dh, ex and ex's dw thinking, blimey, I've had sex with you. It's most amusing. However one time they came over for dinner and ex let slip some past misdemeanour that his dw didn't know about and I did - (that ex had got "back" with me and another of his exs on consecutive nights, me and her (friends at the time snd still now) sussed and both dumped him immediately). I think she was quite shocked and felt a bit out out taht there was a piece of his history that I knew and she didn't.

oh yes - we're all very modern here in Dot and Juno land... my dp (Juno) is v. good friends with her ex (girlfriend) who's now married to another long standing friend (male) and has 2 kids similar ages to ours! They get together once a week with all the kids and the 4 of us get together fairly often and are all v. good friends indeed! I don't feel at all worried/jealous as it was a long time ago - at least 15 years or so - and life's moved on so much for us all.

No way. Dh's ex had a Phd in chemical engineering, represented Scotland at judo and ran marathons for fun. I don't think we'd have much in common

I'd rather stick pins in my eyes

God, no. She told me she hoped my baby would be born deformed.

Dh gets on really well with one of my ex's help that we split up because it felt odd like dating your brother or something we go down to bristol to see him and his family about three times a year and they come up to brum to see us, i get on really well with his wife and our kids love to play together.

I used to be really good friends with his ex before they split up, she had introduced me to a new fella, he and i split up, they split up and we managed to mary each others ex's in the end all kind of odd. We see each other at social functions arranged by mutual friends and are allways polite with each other but I cannot ever see us all being the friendly foursome we used to be, to many nasty things were said.

Think it depends if you mean the ones he/I was married to or not - his ex-girlfriends no problem, but his ex-wife would rather kill me than talk to me !

Dh's ex girlfriend before me, is part of the in crowd that my Dh knows from college, I never used to like her as she always flirted with DH, but they actually had only gone out for 3 months, never slept together and were/are more like brother & sister than they were BF & GF.

I speak to her now and occasionally go out for a drink just me & her, we arent best mates, but its someone different to go out with.

I never tell her anything important.

I didnt really have a choice as she was/is at every do we go to, so cant avoid her.

But I know Dh certainly doesnt fancy her anymore, she has really changed over the last 14 years the better for me

No problem whatsoever, I think that DH and I were always very consistent with our tastes so I have lots in common with previous Xs, and he definitively could be good friends with mine, but we moved to England and everybody, including Xs are now too far, though we sometimes meet when visiting our respective countries and I believe that if we were nearer we would be very good friends. However, if the new gf/partner/wife of the X doesn't look too happy with it we just disapear from the scene unless they contact us.

Obviously DH & his exW had 2 boys together so I have more to do with exW than I would otherwise. I wouldn't say we are friends but we do get on ok, we share custody of the boys 50/50 so it's pretty essential that we aren't at each others throats.

I used to feel quite inferior compared to his ex. She was very beautiful, very well educated and quite well off. I was a college drop out,part time barmaid in the local rockers pub! But boyfriends family made me feel very welcome, we got engaged, he moved in with me, we have two beautiful children and have been together 7 years. So, i think we can all see that he made the right choice to dump her and go out with me! She doesn't live close by any more, but if i did see her, i'd have to look the other way, just to avoid any self esteem bashing!