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WTF?

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 19:28

Well that was my response - what do you think?

A couple of friends of mine are going on a girls night out tonight with a group of Mums from their child's nursery (not mine so I'm not going) - one of the mothers, also one of my friends, has a 9 week old dd and is breastfeeding so she is taking her with her

Please - who would take their 2 month old baby on a girls night out to a posh restaurant?? And it's not about the fact that she'd be bfing her in a restaurant btw, but what about the other mums in the group and all the other diners who have gone for a night out only to find a baby in the place?!

Madness and tbh if I was going I'd be pretty peed off.

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Bearess · 15/04/2005 11:41

I am a believer in routines etc - but can a nine-week-old honestly be said to have a routine? I seem to remember ds at this age sleeping maj of evening before a late feed 11ish - and IMO being asleep and in his car seat wouldn't have hurt at all. The smoke is an issue though,but without knowing the restaurant can't comment, although I think GdG said quite a trendy place inhabited by bright young single things?

lockets · 15/04/2005 11:46

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JoolsToo · 15/04/2005 11:47

hows the bf going? any more comfortable?

have a cuppa

lockets · 15/04/2005 11:51

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JoolsToo · 15/04/2005 11:57

aw - poor you! you're a little soldier

good old froggy - what a lovely family

NomDePlume · 15/04/2005 12:06

IF it was a restaurant affair then I don't think I'd be all that bothered. As others have said, 9 weekers are rarely any trouble, and so other diners shouldn't be inconvenienced by her presence. Personally I wouldn't take my DD at that age (or any age really) on a girls night out, mainly because I'd be worried about the smoke and her general comfort. I'd express and leave her in the very capable hands of my DH. But when all said and done, it's down to the mother herself to decide the best course of action, and down to those in her group to let her know if bringing the baby to the meal will cause problems. As you are neither the mother in question nor part of this particular outing, I wouldn't bother my arse thinking about it, TBH.

Obviously if it was bars/clubs etc I'd have a bit more to say on the matter !

triceratops · 15/04/2005 12:49

I took ds to a restaurant for new year when he was exactly 8 weeks. He slept in his pram at the end of the table. I don't think it bothered anyone else, I had a nice night out and a good dance at midnight. ds was an angel and fed fine when he woke. He was a lot better behaved than he ever was at home. Babies seem to like busy, noisy environments.

I would have left if I felt he was disturbing the other diners but not if they were just disturbed by his physical presence.

NomDePlume · 15/04/2005 12:51

Apparently it's very noisy in the womb - lots of rushing, whooshing blood noises and of course the heart beat which is huegely loud in the womb. New/young babies are comforted by louder constant noise

lockets · 15/04/2005 13:00

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WideWebWitch · 15/04/2005 13:00

Basketcase, I agree with whoever said they don't always have much of a routine, they're mainly getting used to being out in the world at that point. Ah well, that's mumsnet for you, you don't always get the response you expected!

emkana · 15/04/2005 13:23

I think to a nine week old baby it's more important to be close to Mummy than to be in his/her own bedroom. And I don't know about your babies, but mine always were more settled with me than with dh, even though he tried his very best. So I wouldn't leave a nine week old with dh where he/she might cry all night when he/she could be with me, happily sleeping in a sling and not disturbing anyone.

Blu · 15/04/2005 13:24

This is still going? Must be Friday

Jimjams · 15/04/2005 14:09

I'm with Enid.

All this me me me time. god If me time is so important to you why have kids? I fail to see how a sleeping baby could interfere with "me" time anyway. Surely if the baby started screaming the place down the mother would leave.

I'm going for a day out next Saturday- I'm taking my 14 week old as he will still be content to sit - probably the last time I can do it. Advantage to us is that my dad will have ds2 which means that ds1 can go out with dh. If dh had ds3 as well then he wouldn't be able to take ds1 out.

Hope people aren't bitching aboout me for doing this!

cod · 15/04/2005 14:10

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cod · 15/04/2005 14:11

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Blu · 15/04/2005 14:15

JimJams, Cod wants to know whether you will wear a thong on your day out....

I think we should be told. I might even start a thread on it.

"WTF!: A couple of MN-er are going for a day out. One has a 14 week baby and she's thinking of wearing a thong! Madness!"

tamum · 15/04/2005 14:17

I think we'd all like to know actually Jimjams (Blu certainly wants to, she's just hiding behind coddy)

Enid · 15/04/2005 14:18

cod you are prob right but so what, that restaurant sounds minging

Blu · 15/04/2005 14:19

Look, all I'm saying is that I haven't been able to wear a thing since Ds was born, and I don't want to go for a girls night out and find that other people have their full whale tail on display. That's just the way I feel.

Blu · 15/04/2005 14:20

Thong, I mean. Not 'thing'

Enid · 15/04/2005 14:21

whale tail lol

tamum · 15/04/2005 14:21

What, not a thing?

BluMa · 15/04/2005 14:23

Quite right Blu! Can't she leave her thong things behind to be washed by her dh while she's out, give her a bit of 'me time'? That's what I used to do when Blu was a baby!

Jimjams · 15/04/2005 14:25

Me in a thong would put people off their food more than a 9 week old baby.

Blu · 15/04/2005 14:25
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