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WTF?

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 19:28

Well that was my response - what do you think?

A couple of friends of mine are going on a girls night out tonight with a group of Mums from their child's nursery (not mine so I'm not going) - one of the mothers, also one of my friends, has a 9 week old dd and is breastfeeding so she is taking her with her

Please - who would take their 2 month old baby on a girls night out to a posh restaurant?? And it's not about the fact that she'd be bfing her in a restaurant btw, but what about the other mums in the group and all the other diners who have gone for a night out only to find a baby in the place?!

Madness and tbh if I was going I'd be pretty peed off.

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tamum · 14/04/2005 21:28

Well, not very strange, actually. The majority of people who have posted on here feel the same.

nailpolish · 14/04/2005 21:29

glad i dont live where you live gdg, sounds scarily antichildren, and i thought the pubs/restaurants in england were more child friendly than here

we are going out for a chinese for my birthday on sunday, we have to take dd's or itll be a carry out

will i just cancel???

hunkersneakymunker · 14/04/2005 21:30

Aren't babies the latest accessory? She sounds very stylish to me, GDG

compo · 14/04/2005 21:36

Gdg - I know i'm in the minority but I agree with you. I wouldn't have felt happy taking my ds out when he was that little, so don't see why my friends would need to. My ds was very whingy at this stage and it was all about getting him into a routine. I'm surprised at the person who took the 2 year old out on a night out and told them not to speak my 2 year old neice would never have sat still like that.

PuffTheMagicDragon · 14/04/2005 21:50

If I'd arranged a night out with my friends, and one with an 8 week old rang up and said, "look, I'll have to bring him or her because of x, y, z", I know I wouldn't say, "well piss off then, you're not welcome."

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 21:51

Puff, if you read my post lower down, neither would I.

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milward · 14/04/2005 21:54

I've been to 'posh' restaurants with a baby and it's no trouble. My dds all bf just fine through the evening and other people weren't disturbed. In fact I love it when I go out & other people have their kids with them as all the fuss (if there is any) is nothing to do with me

compo · 14/04/2005 21:57

I wouldn't be too irate if they did but definitely wouldn't do it myself. But then i like to have a few drinks when I go out and not be on call all the time iyswim

suedonim · 14/04/2005 22:18

I can't see that this baby is going to cramp anyone's style, except for the mum's. It's a tiny baby, it's not going to be getting in anyone's way and if you don't want to see it feeding, look or sit elsewhere.

When we had ds1 he was the first baby amongst our group. It was also an extrememly hot summer and we took him everywhere with us, pubs, parties, the lot. He survived the experience and so did all we and all our friends. This is a fuss about nothing, imo.

juniperdewdrop · 14/04/2005 22:37

I wouldn't have done it with DS1 because he cried all the time. DS2 would have been ok but I'd have gone without him and he'd have had a bottle of expressed or formula. I wouldn't mind though if I was going to a restaurant and a friend brought her young baby as long as she felt relaxed enough? It's so true (as SenoraPostrophe said) that on the continent no-one would bat an eyelid.

Blu · 14/04/2005 23:03

Oh, GDG, J2 and Mud, I am SO-o-o-o-o pleased that none of you were in my NCT group or any of my current Mum friends!

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 23:04

Me too if you're bringing your baby on a piss up.

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GeorginaA · 14/04/2005 23:06

I'm surprised no-one has picked up on the fact this poor woman has been discussed behind her back by her so called friends on the day she didn't happen to go to the group!

God, (a) I would have been mortified that my "bizarre" practises had been discussed like that when I wasn't there and (b) desperately upset that my so called friends hadn't told me that I was that unwelcome on the night out.

On the whole, I think it does depend on the night out and the circumstances. I would have stayed at home, but then ds2 had colic and neither he nor ds1 were the types to sleep in a carseat peacefully. But if I found out that I'd been talked about so negatively like that behind my back I'd have been gutted, absolutely gutted

emkana · 14/04/2005 23:10

At nine weeks I felt very strongly that I didn't want to be parted from my babies, not even for a few hours, not even if dh was looking after them. Can't explain it, just a very very strong feeling I had. Maybe she feels that way too?
As long as the baby is quiet and not crying I don't see any problem with it whatsoever.

CountessDracula · 14/04/2005 23:12

when dd was that little we took her all over the place, the joy was that she would sleep through all the noise and partying (the downside was when we got home and flopped into bed she would be wide awake of course)

I can't see the prob.

bosscat · 14/04/2005 23:13

wouldn't be bothered as long as she didn't expect me to assume any responsibiity! If I'd left mine at home I wouldn't want to mother someone else's but I wouldn't mind if she did, not at that age. Now if she brought a stroppy tantrum throwing toddler out that would be a different matter as they can be seriously disruptive and might ruin the night!

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 23:15

I can't imagine why I'm surprised at this thread.

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CountessDracula · 14/04/2005 23:16

Why are you surprised?

CountessDracula · 14/04/2005 23:16

(sorry can't be arsed to read the answers, just posted my own!)

tamum · 14/04/2005 23:17

I noticed that too Georgina. What incredibly bitchy "friends" the poor woman has.

JoolsToo · 14/04/2005 23:18

I think the moral is - if you;re arranging a girls night out make sure its with friends who don't mind leaving their child with their dh/dp 3 hours while they have some 'me' time

JoolsToo · 14/04/2005 23:19

oh Lord, it hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way .....

MamaMaiasaura · 14/04/2005 23:19

cant see the problem tbh.. ds refused bottle full stop and would only take breast. Regarding getting pissed.. when ds was 9 weeks old i couldnt go and get 'pissed' cos then it would go through to the milk wouldnt it? I didnt even drink when pg so i wasnt going ot drink when breastfeeding (well not to excess but had occ glass of wine)

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 23:20

Excuse me. Nobody bitched about it - it was mentioned and a few of us thought it was a strange thing to do. I asked some random strangers what they thought.

I'm quite sure I'm not the first person on MN to post a thread asking what others thought of a friends/relatives actions/behaviour.

Jeez, go polish your halo will you.

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 23:22

CD I'm surprised but not sure why - I could have predicted certain posters answers, they are so bloody angelic they aren't human.

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