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WTF?

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 19:28

Well that was my response - what do you think?

A couple of friends of mine are going on a girls night out tonight with a group of Mums from their child's nursery (not mine so I'm not going) - one of the mothers, also one of my friends, has a 9 week old dd and is breastfeeding so she is taking her with her

Please - who would take their 2 month old baby on a girls night out to a posh restaurant?? And it's not about the fact that she'd be bfing her in a restaurant btw, but what about the other mums in the group and all the other diners who have gone for a night out only to find a baby in the place?!

Madness and tbh if I was going I'd be pretty peed off.

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 20:09

I'm sure my babies would have slept too as they slept (and still do) for England (lucky me!) but that's not the point - you are going out at night to be away from babies and I be rather put out if someone brought theirs along.

And what about the smoke? People are bound to be smoking in the restaurant so is it really a place for a baby anyway? I know this restaurant, it's full of trendy youngish things (Cheshire footballer belt) - babies are definitely not on the agenda there!

And whether un-pc or not, I don't care, no - I don't want to go out on my night out that are few and far between to be sitting opposite someone bfing their baby. FGS - can't adults have any break from babies/children??

BTW, I'm not opposed to people bfing their babies in public - we had a kids party at the house this weekend and she was here bfing and of course that's absolutely fine but tonight is 'adult time'.

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 20:10

Yes Enid - when you are meeting up with friends in the day or when kids are there anyway! Not on a 'girls night out' that happen rarely!

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Enid · 14/04/2005 20:14

but there's quite a few reasons to suggest why she might be bringing her 9 week old. I can't imagine she just feels like it.

tamum · 14/04/2005 20:15

Absolutely Enid- I can't imagine why anyone would even think this was odd? I wouldn't be that thrilled if someone was planning on bringing a couple of toddlers along for a night out, but a 9 week old baby? The mother would presumably not sit it out grimly if the baby screamed throughout, she probably knows it will be quiet. God, I'd be really depressed if I had friends who minded about a little thing like this.

bundle · 14/04/2005 20:16

gdg, are you a bit peeved you're not going? i mean surely it's up to the mums who are going out together..

Enid · 14/04/2005 20:17

sure you're not pissed off cos you haven't been invited GBG

Enid · 14/04/2005 20:17
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morningpaper · 14/04/2005 20:18

GDG: It sounds like a bloody awful smoky restaurant full of yobs - I think you've had a narrow escape!

bundle · 14/04/2005 20:21

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 20:24

Enid and bundle - not at all, it's just that when our NCT group met up today (with said friend not there) and one friend told us about it we all thought it was rather bizarre so I'm quite surprised everyone here thinks it's no big deal! Actually, no I'm not.

I get my fair share of nights out and I don't know these women anyway (only the 2 that happen to be in my NCT group).

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JoolsToo · 14/04/2005 20:26

WHAT? - you think that some MNers don't think its a big deal? can't believe that

SenoraPostrophe · 14/04/2005 20:32

Good on her!

In Spain no-one would think twice about taking an 8 week old to a restaurant. I did. they sleep mostly anyway.

nailpolish · 14/04/2005 20:41

its a restaurant fgs not a pub or a nightclub

the poor woman is maybe worried about giving her baby a bottle, i know it would have been a nightmare for my dh giving dd a bottle at 9 wks - he would have been phoning me begging me to go home with my boobs to feed a screaming baby

leave her alone, shes not doing anyone any harm and should walk in with her baby with her head held high

what a fine example IMO

PuffTheMagicDragon · 14/04/2005 20:45

TBH, if I were in the group, I'd think it was fine. One of my friends brought her 8 week old to a noisy birthday do at a restaurant. Poor girl was desperate for a night out, and the baby wouldn't settle for her dh, or take expressed milk in any type of bottle. Baby slept throughout and woke for a feed during coffees. Lots of cooing over baby from people of all ages in the restaurant despite her being tucked half way under a table in her carseat.

Enid · 14/04/2005 20:46

I took dd2 to a noisy, crowded, smoke filled Vietnamese restaurant when she was about 7 weeks, we were treated like royalty it was great

WideWebWitch · 14/04/2005 20:46

This wouldn't bother me at all either, 9week olds sleep a lot. Lol at not exactly Ibiza! Don't see why it should bother the other mums either, it's not as if they'll have to look after the baby!

WideWebWitch · 14/04/2005 20:47

Ahh, I'd quite like to see a 9 week old baby! I'd be cooing at it too and asking if I could hold it.

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 20:49

Do some of you never want to go out and get pissed without the kids??

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Enid · 14/04/2005 20:49
Enid · 14/04/2005 20:50

yes of course I do now but not when I had a 9 week old baby

nailpolish · 14/04/2005 20:50

tayside will be no smoking by autumn for pubs etc and im moving there in may

im a smoker and im delighted, cos i dont have to worry about people tutting at me if i take dd's into the local pub for a sunday lunch

IMO this is why teenagers binge drink when they reach a certain age - because they dont think pubs, restaurants etc are normal everyday places and they go mad when they are 'allowed' in

although this is irrelevant to a 9 wk old

morningpaper · 14/04/2005 20:52

Yes it's nice to go and get pissed without the kids, but I don't want to go out and get pissed without my mates - so if they come with baby, that's ok!

nailpolish · 14/04/2005 20:52

yes we do gdg but someone like me who never gets a babysitter gets desperate at times, and why should we who have no family close by to babysit never go out???

WideWebWitch · 14/04/2005 20:54

yes, I do go out and get drunk sometimes but if a friend had a 9wk old it wouldn't stop me getting drunk and/or having a good time, would it? I wouldn't have been up for it when I had a 9wk old though, too knackered!

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Gobbledigook · 14/04/2005 20:56

Well I think if you have babies, in terms of adult nights out, you either have a babysitter or you don't go - you don't take the kids with you!! Obviously other people think differently but I've never seen a baby out at this kind of thing before.

Children in these places during the day and early evening (tea time) is, imho, fine but this is a pub/restaurant and at nighttime is for adults - it's a glammed up, drinking and dancing type of restaurant.

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