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Any other new mumsnetters on the block

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bubbly · 31/03/2003 20:27

I may get thrown out on my ear for this but I hope it will not be taken the wrong way.I've been doing this for a couple of weeks now. I admit I lurked for a bit and that was the difficult bit - 1) I wasnt sure what I could contribute and 2) I wasnt sure there would be much point. Does it feel to any other new bods as if there is a core group of people who only talk to each other. I like what I read but are there other lurkers new people made reluctant by the seeming exclusivity of it?

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mands1 · 31/03/2003 20:33

Hi bubbly
I've only been around 2/3 wks and i know what u mean but once u get up the courage to add something then everyone helps out.

I think it was my first post & I got the chance to exchange e-mails with someone who really helps me out.Lets me bend their ear.

My only problem is i can never think of anything worthwhile to say.

Keep on with it and join in become clicky!!!

SoupDragon · 31/03/2003 20:41

I think it's just that there's a core group of people with nothing better to do than talk to whoever's there

Me? I'll talk to anyone if I think I've got something to say. And sometimes even if I haven't...

OldieMum · 31/03/2003 20:47

Hi Bubbly,
I joined a few months ago but then went very quiet after my baby was born in January. This was mainly due to lack of time, but also because people do seem to know one another already. I was also intimidated by a long thread about public breastfeeding, which generated a lot of heat. At the time, I was desperately trying to keep breastfeeding my baby, who lost a lot of weight after the birth and then did not regain it for several weeks. Some people seemed to have a 'line' on breastfeeding and this was far from my own experience of trying so hard to keep it going and not managing to. It would have helped to have people to discuss it all with through Mumsnet, but I was afraid of being lectured. Having said that, most of the contributions are much more positive and many of them have been very useful.

Jimjams · 31/03/2003 20:53

I only started contributing about 8 weeks or so ago- not long ago anyway. Now I'm a bit addicted......

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bubbly · 31/03/2003 21:00

It is addictive I agree but also a little scary too. I've read some posts where people have literally left, adn some where people get quite aggressive. So far I'm sticking to the non confrontational issues.

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robyn3 · 31/03/2003 21:06

don't worry about it bubbly even the clicky ones had to start somewhere. i'm also new but if i feel i've got something worth saying i'll say it.perhaps we should start our own 'new moms clicky group'

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bubbly · 31/03/2003 21:08

COOL!!!

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robyn3 · 31/03/2003 21:10

i think our messages just crossed but your are right it is VERY addictive

snickers · 31/03/2003 21:17

Isn't that funny jimjams - I have only been posting since the beginning of the year - but I thought you were an all round veteran on the block - not a novice!

I was a bit scared about posting the first time. Sometimes when you have a baby, and you read these toddler threads and suchlike, you feel like you have no business posting a response cause "what would you know?" but the main thing (I think) is I love reading all the replies anyway (I love to log on and see if anyone's responded to anything I have to say!!!)

Although I AM a rambler... And how... Probably bored everyone to tears now.

(And like someone else posted recently - I thought I was the only conversation stopper!)

ninja · 31/03/2003 21:38

I've only been here a bit and I agree it IS scary at first and addictive - I guess some people are stuck at home more so maybe more reliant on computers. Everyone was new to it at first I guess.

It makes me feel all enthusiastic reading some of the things and when I did ask a question everyone was so supportive. Saying that I originally had my first name and I changed that for anonimity (sp?)

I agree with robyn3 - we're now our own clique.

Bubbly are you a new mum, I'm expectant (5 weeks) so it all feels like a new club anyway.

Gilli · 31/03/2003 21:41

Hi - new too, and only posted a couple of times: agree lots of people seem to know each other but hey! - now we know each other too......

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 21:44

exactly

Slinky · 31/03/2003 21:46

I've just joined today, so still finding my way around

sobernow · 31/03/2003 21:47

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Jimjams · 31/03/2003 22:01

lol@sobernow

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 22:05

oh dear sobernow (great name by the way) was your comment that bad?

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 22:09

by the way ninja did you mean you're 5 weeks or 5 weeks to go. (sorry to sound dumb)

crystaltips · 31/03/2003 22:11

About a year ago - I was lurking for a long time and then decided to post - and did so quite a bit. Then for one reason and another I couldn't post for about 3 months - Don't think I was missed really - which was a bit of a shame !!
I think that if you are lucky enough to go to the Mumsnet meet-ups then you DO get to meet the usernames ( IYKWIM ) ... but the rest of us - just trying to have a chat and look for advice
It's all constructive stuff and I couldn't be without it!

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 22:16

i know it's great. and by the way when i first joined i tried to be crystaltips (do you remember the tv programme - as in alistair - i do and i feel old!)

crystaltips · 31/03/2003 22:18

LOL robyn3

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 22:19

wasn't she the one with the very bad hair day every day?

Chinchilla · 31/03/2003 22:21

Don't worry about posting whatever you feel. I sometimes get a bit het up about various comments, but I think that once the thread is over we all move on. I can't even remember people who have offended me or my principles in the past, and I would be really sad if they bore a grudge against me for any of my views. I think that the great thing about this site is the variety. You can have a chat about something totally non-mum orientated, or a really serious chat about miscarriage.

I have been here for about a year, although I started with a different name. I don't feel that I 'know' anyone better because I have been here a while. Obviously there are always going to be some posters whose views you would always agree with, and some you would always disagree with. The former are probably people that you would like in real life. You won't always agree with every comment made, but don't let that stop you posting.

I feel sad that people are prevented from posting because they feel out of a clique. Those people might be able to help me with a problem one day. So welcome to you all, and sorry if anything I might have posted has put any of you off!

Tinker · 31/03/2003 22:21

I think it is quite easy to feel a bit intimidated at first but once you get a response to a post (well, a kind response!) it does make you feel a lot more comfortable adding your own (mostly inane, in my case) comments. Was very taken aback at how shocked I felt when someone first disagreed with me! Disagree? With me? But, am a lot more thick-skinned now and actually really enjoy the heated threads now. I often read a post where I think 'Oh f off!' but wouldn't actually write that! Possibly, if you have met someone it does temper your response a bit but the anonymity (sp?) make sit very easy to rant - bit like road rage, you'd never scream 'You stupid t' a someone who cut you up on the pavement.

Sorry, just typing random thoughts now!

soyabean · 31/03/2003 22:30

Definitely addictive. I am supposed to be doing a VAT return but keep coming back to Mumsnet. I have been looking at it and occasionally contributing for maybe 4 months but have tried to give it up about 3 times because it uses up so much of my time. I am goggle eyed by the end of the evening. And I feel I waffle too much and have nothing useful to say.
Its funny tho how you can get the idea that someone is an old pro (IYKWIM), then discover they are also new. (Jimjams, you have obviously been active in your 8 weeks, I feel like I've seen yr name everywhere. (Maybe it is longer than 8 weeks but the time is flying due to you having such fun here?) It is nice when you make a connection with someone, tho, as you can then relate to them nect time they post. This has only happened to me once,when I found out my Mum lived near a new poster (how are you Lorne?!)
Has anyone found a way of still using Mumsnet but restricting the amount of time they spend? Would love to know

robyn3 · 31/03/2003 22:37

can't really help you there soyabean -now that i'm hooked my ironing pile is creeping half way up my wall