Hi, I hope someone can give me some advice on a major problem I am having.
In dec last year I was called into my 2 Yr olds nursery for a discussion.
I was told over the phone that it was nothing too much to worry about, I went in the next day and two members of staff took me to the upstairs office and informed me that a member of staff had reported over-hearing another member of staff saying she wanted to flush my sons head down the toilet.
After many shed tears i left having to go to work...I was far too upset to be at work and my boos was very understanding and said I should do whatever i needed to do.
So i went back to the Nursery to collect my son.
on the way out I was given a number to call for Social Services.
When i arrived home I called social services, I was advised of everything that was going to happen re a full investigation etc..
I asked if the threat had been made directly to my child or to another person about him she said what have they told you? So i relayed the story and she told me it was made to him.
Five minutes later she called me and asked me for my address she needed to come to see me.
She came round to my parents house and then began to tell me that she had been informed the threat had actually taken place, the girl was seen by another member of staff holding my son by the ankles head first into a flushing tiolet.
i was told that the police were giong to see this girl with the social worker later that day or early the next morning, this never happend.
I was also told by the area manger for the nursery in question that one person had seen the incident and three others heard the comotion,
she also had the cheek to ask if I would be taking my son the christmas party! She also told me they would be taking written statements from these witnesses and they would be given to the police.
She wanted to keep the lines of communication open between us and was going to keep me informed on the situation.
I didnt hear from her again.
I reported all of this to the police and a log wasnt created until I reported it!
I was informed by a member of the child protection team that he wanted to speak to this member if staff and was going to try for a criminal prosecution.
It wasnt until after New Year that he called me to let me know what was happening, he told me that she had recieved a warning but she had denied everything.
He said he was satisfied that she didntdo it and didnt have any witness statements to suggest otherwise.
I had been informed by an old school friend that her friend was the person who saw it happen and that she had been told by the nursery not to talk to anyone about it.
I now am expected to believe that the social worker was not told that there was a witness
who had seen it but had come to that conclusion herself!
I have spoken to a girl that worked at the nursery who heard this girl say to her mum(who works in the kitchen at nursery) that she did it, yet the police dont seem to be interested in this information..
I would appreciate any advice you have on this as I am at my wits end.