Jury service

[mooki]

Hi, I've got jury service is a few weeks time. Now that I've been summoned anyone know how likely I am to actually serve? I mean do they get more people than they need and then not use all of them? And/or if I am used, is it usually full time for the whole period?

Ordinarily I'd love to do it but I've only just gone back to work and am really busy. Two weeks out is going to be a complete arse -I'm likely to have to work the weekend in the middle as it is.

I was originally called for when DD would have been about 12 weeks old so I deferred and said I would do it after she was 1 (thinking I probably would have stopped breastfeeding by then - hah!) they've called me when she will be 13 months, so they are being fairly pedantic.

thanks

no doubt it has BUT remember our lo's are so stong and resilient (sp..?)..
You have to be strong yourself and to reasure them esp at times when they may be frightened etc.
Im sure and hope your dd will be fine, you have noticed there is a problem and have quickly make plans to get it looked into and sorted. Most doctors/medical professionals don't mess around iykiwm and sometimes will refer on for a 2nd opinion just to make sure..sometimes as a parent this worries us BUT its a positive.

When ds was admitted to hospital at 3 days old my head was so far up my bum following the trauma of birth and of having a new baby along with having an 18month old that tbh I went along with what I was being told and that ds was fine, it was actually dh who pushed things further and I am so grateful to him for that..from there on it was the professionals who took over.

I didn't want to get attached to ds for fear of loosing him and for a while I would look at him and think,I made you, I gave birth to you and now I will lose you..I love you but I can't show it, I can't get attached BUT each day I made myself spend hours and hours with him in hospital and I knew he needed me...dh would persuade me to have "skin to skin" with ds, "he needs to smell you he would tell me" .

BUT then they diagnosed what he had and I fell down another level and taking him aged 6 weeks for his operation was heartbreaking BUT I knew that as his mother I was doing the right thing...The hours I spent in hospital crying while watching him sleep, or holding him while we both slept but now aged 18 months he is like a different baby.
I feel bad at times for how I initially felt, but as a mum we can't walk away can we..?

Remember,you are her mum and you will get her sorted. DD makes us smile now when she talks to ds about how "mummy and daddy got your fixed". These things are sent to try us.
Keep positive, nothing has been confirmed atm so don't think the worse (although its hard not to) and most of all..remember "mum knows best". If you doubt anything then ask questions and be heard.

Didn't mean to type such a big post..sorry . xx

thanks shh, your words are very comforting. Can I ask what was wrong with your DS? Atleast we are seeing the right person to tell us the full picture. Will keep you updated and im glad your LO is now fit and well.

glad its given you some kind of support..I know how it can be when you are in limbo. I remember coming on mn and trying to find out others in the same situation and even googling ds's illness which was the worse thing I could have ever done. Things I read were so much worse as usual and I was petrified...

I guess I also just wanted the comfort of knowing what was wrong and how it would be fixed.I wanted to wish away time tbh.

even being in hospital made me think.."ds is very ill yet there are so many other babies/lo's around him who were so much more iller iykwim" . Made me sad yet lucky that ds was fighting.

Ds had hirschsprungs disease. The nerves were missing from the lower part of his bowel. These are needed as they tell you and allow you to poo. The lack of poo meant it was building up in his tummy so causing feeding issues and projective vomiting with the little milk he was having. Usually diagnosed at birth due to no passing of merconium BUT ds was unusual in that he passed a small amount...

He was also bringing up bile which is not good, this condition if left undiagnosed/treated would lead to a perforated bowel....etc

Ds had a corrective op initially but he developed an infection and this led to a stoma being fitted (colostomy bag)...
Must admit this was one of my saddest times ever..

BUT you know what, we looked on the bright side, this was only temporary and it was keeping ds alive iykiwm. He has it reversed/removed around 9 months old. We are still having pooing issues BUT at least he can poo. . We won't now the full extent of his condition until he needs to be potty trained (no rush for that!) but you know what, he's my little boy and im proud of him. Hes a fighter and so strong and so adorable. . He may be a typical boy and want attention 24/7 and still need bottles during the night but hey ho .

I hope you find all you deal with in hospital brill,they become a bit immune to it but if you ask questions and tell them how you feel...they will help you.
Let me know how your dd gets on and please don't hesitate to CAT me if you want to chat further.

I can't help you with your direct concerns BUT I can help support you etc. xx