ever feel as if you have run out of things to do?

[dejags]

sometimes I worry that now I have had a lovely wedding (7 years ago) and had my 2 beautiful DS's that there isn't much to look forward to in life (i.e. no more big and exciting life changes).

Is this really strange or does anybody else feel like this.

PS: this isn't meant to be a really serious thread - more of a poll re. what everybody else thinks.

come on then suzy, throw away the pills we can join dino?

Dejags, the hardest thing is that inevitably I can't give each of them as much of my attention as I would like to.

However I think (hope!) that this is at least partly balanced out by how much they get from each other. DS1 and DS2 are the best of friends (with the occasional fight, naturally!) and play together a lot. Not only that, they talk to each other a lot - they're really sweet. And DS1 in particular really adores DS3 and it is entirely reciprocated - he can cheer up DS3 even if no-one else can!

In terms of the practicalities, I can honestly say that going from two to three was easier for me than going from one to two.

oh do you want another one too?

Pills have nothing to do with it I'm afraid, it's finding time and energy, dh is not keen and I'm ovluating today so that's why it's foremost in my mind. Sorry TMI

sorry Suzy I didn't know. I'd love another but like you DH isn't that keen - besides DS2 is only 6 months old.

I think I could persuade DH - how about you?

FWIW, I never thought I would be able to persuade DH to go for no3 - but look what happened

thanks Dinosaur, good to get another more experienced persons' perspective.

sorry posts crossed - I was referring to your post about the difficult and good bits of having 3 children.

I'm one of three children myself, which is at least partly, I think, why I never felt my family was complete at two children.

Now I really do feel it is complete. And I certainly could never contemplate the thought of going through childbirth again!

so do you reckon that this feeling of "unfinished business" might just be about really wanting another child and that it would leave me feeling complete?

I don't know, dejags. Probably good to spend a while thinking about what else you might want out of life, as well as whether you want another baby. I have a three year age gap between DS2 and DS3, and am finding that a lot easier than the two year age gap between DS1 and DS2 was.

No, I really don't feel this way. But maybe that's just blind hope that the best is yet to come!

I'm going to start a new career this year and get another degree. Hopefully at some point I will fall in love again and have a relationship that works, and a home of my own at last. I have so much ahead with ds growing up and who knows, maybe even another baby one day (unlikely though)? I still have lots of ambitions to fulfill, don't I?!

of course Snafu!

be back later
dejags
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I am the opposite I find the prospect of a whole adult life ahead of me terrifying. I know it will be fine, but the idea of actually owning a home/working full time/having a husband freaks me out!!

Its hard enough getting my life sorted now and I do nothing!