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[MaryAnnSingleton]

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Sleepless night fretting about T and loos and lunches at big school - how neurotic am I ?!

We have heat! In every radiator! He charged £125 and still need power flushing at about £400, but much much cheaper than whole new system!

Right, off to get B.

fantastic !!!!!!!!

Fantastic news about the plumbing!! Hurray for your plumber, he sounds great and honest

E adn J had a lovely afternoon involving drawing, sticker making, clay modelling, running around giggeling, eating tea, and a spot of balloon modelling with dh before J's mum came to collect her.
J is an absolutely delightful, lovely little girl and she can come again anytime
I nearly did not have tea on the table on time, and I could not get the gravy to work, but other than that I think it went well

Right, better go and supervise bedtime...

so glad that E and J had a lovely afternoon !
Have just spoken to T's tutor and she is going to see what she can do - she might try to get him a library pass to use at breaks - his friend P has one and is often there (is given to those children who cannot cope with the hurly burly of outside !) - anyway, hope this has spurred her into action that end..

oh MAS, what has happened with T? Have I missed something?

J and E were indeed fab. Today E is going home with C, the friend she made on her first day at school, who is in a different Y1 class.

Is T okay?

Oh MAS, what's happening with T? Is he OK? Are you?

Hippi - fantastic news about E's playdate(yuck!) yesterday. It sounds like they had a lovely time together. FWIW, I never manage to feed visiting children on time...I've had to ring mums before now and ask them to come a bit later In fact, I quite often offer to take them home so there isn't so much pressure.

I'm having such a nice day today. Firstly, hadn't noticed the plumber had reset the heating controls, so the heating was on all night and it was too hot Never thought I'd be saying that!!! Secondly B has been home today as school was closed. She came with me to a friend's fro coffee, then she had her photo taken in town, a play at the park and we're off swimming soon.

I love ahving her at home during the week

Ah fab day Hurray for heating

Am a bit worried about E now... sigh...
As I was waiting outside the junior school for O, E and C passed me, with C's mum. I said hi to the mum and offered to take E's bags home with me. C's mum said that E had come out of school crying saying that everyone in her class had been mean to her.
I asked E if she was okay, she pulled a bit of a face, then said she was fine adn proceeded to tell me about the firealarm which had gone off.
So, what to do? Question her tonight? I always go overboard on these things and therefore risk making it into a bigger deal than it was, OR ignoring it unless E mentions it?
I am fully aware that 'everyone' being meant to her probably means 'two people laughed at me when I dropped my bag' or something like that....

There is always something to [fret] about isn't there?? Am ready to be committed soon [worried]

hooray for lovely heating !
and hippi, I'd leave it to E to say if something is wrong,
though you might guide her gently to saying something !

I forget what I've said on threads about things, so prob didn;t say that I had rung T's tutor to have a word about this friendship thing...she rang back this morning and I explained it all and she said that he was certainly not the only one like that..she has got him a library pass so he can join P there and generally have somewhere to go/something to do at break..I'm hoping she might involve him more in things at tutor time..anyway, she knows the situation and hope we can work on it !
T said he spoke to a boy he likes in IT or DT (I forget which is which !) No hockey for him after all as they had enough people for teams - good job I came home from library and town as he was home at usual time instead of 4.30 as he'd planned.
Thanks both of you for your concern - didn't mean to alarm you

Hurray for T's tutor The library was my saving grace at secondary school.
And T was meant to do hockey? An after school club thing? I really must read these threads better, I appear to be missing so much?

ha ! no, it was in inter-tutor group tournament - T said he thought he'd put his name down but it wasn't on the list,so he thinks they hadn't heard him/noticed him and they didn't need him for a team - he wasn't too bothered (though he asked whether he'd be thought a wimp for not doing it ! - argh ) he quite likes hockey,out of all the sporty things on offer,think it was preferable to basketball or football.

Oh poor T. It is very hard being the quiet one in a big secondary school. But he will get there. And it is always the quiet ones who turn out to be the most interesting. His time will come

aw, thanks hippi

Argh, major issues with E

Apparently she burt into tears at C's house yesterday and started pulling her hair out.
Luckily C's mum dealt brilliantly with the situation.
Then at home she said that a girl in her class had said she did not like E and that the whole class had joined in. The teacher had come in and told them off.
Later the story changed to just E, and the teacher did not know.
When I asked the teacher this morning she said E had been crying in class because her daddy was away. Dh is very much not away (but is due to to away for 3 weeks the week after next but will be home at the weekends)
E is telling me no-one lets her play, her best friend S is asking me why E won't play with her anymore.
E is telling me she is happy that S has another friend.
S is tellign her mum that E thinks she is not her friend anymore now that S is friends with M.

Sooo, lots of conflicting stories. And E keeps bursting into tears. And her nervous tics have come back big time. She is noserubbing, hairrubbing, hairpulling, finger rubbing, t-shirt rubbing, button counting, nail biting and cuticle biting. Almost non-stop.

The teacher said she will have a little chat with E and see if she can work out what is going on.

Am so stressed out I feel sick.

Argh!

oh hippi - huge hugs of comfort - I wonder what brought this all on, surely not dh going away ? That sounds a bit like E saying something in order to try to explain her tears-what can be worrying her ? sorry,that's not helpful at all,but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. Do you think the swimming thing might all be part and parcel of this ?

Oh Hippi I'm so so sorry you're going through this. Poor E, she must be so worried about something. I agree with MAS, it sounds like it could be more than dh going away. Oh bless. I think that children can be incredibly cruel and insensitive, and it sounds like E is on the receiving end, possibly unintentionally??? Sorry, am not helping, but am sending loads of love to all of you. xx

I have no idea what is upsetting her. She is not an easy little person. Quite set in her ways and quick to strop. So I am not expecting her to be little miss popular all the time.
I think the dh thing was just to explain her tears.
The fact she changed her story when questioned makes me think she is misinterpreting what is going on and then adding/removing bits. The teacher was not aware that the girl whose name begins with E aswell had been picking on my E. And when the teacher asked why (my) E was upset she did not mention the picking and came out with this daddy story.
Whenever I see (my) E with little S and S's new friend M they all seem to get on well. But I do know that M is one of the very dominant queen bees in the class, so it is entirely possible E is feeling a bit sidelined or threatened.
But I don't understand why E is telling me no-one wants to play with her, when S is telling her mum E does not want to play with her.

Girls! They are sooo bloody complicated!!!

I do think the swimming was part and parcel of all this. Because it is so very out of character for E not to want to swim. Also, the other day we were practising E's spelling words. She got one wrong (alphabet) and promptly burst into tears saying she did not want to do spelling anymore. Now this is the girl who asks for endless spelling words, does handwriting for fun and is currently writing a book!

I dont' fully understand. I do know that this term the work is meant to be harder. But E being a clever bunny I thought she would thrive on harder work. I also thought she was fine at school regarding friendships, but now obviously things are worrying her.
Nothing at home has changed. So I cannot really think of anything.

Anyway, I have to go to the Junior School for Toe by Toe and then collect O and E and take O swimming.

Back later

children are complicated, it must be a week for trauma ! Am sure you will all come out of it ok,these things generally unravel themselves, but it's so hard being the parent isn't it..chin up hippi - I send you a virtual cup of tea and a cookie (am thinking the giant chewy ones in Sainsb. with pecan and toffee bits) xxx (and one for hotcross too)

Thanks for the tea and the cookie, just what I needed

E came out of school happy, teacher reported she was fine. E tells me she was upset because she was hoping me or daddy were picking her up from school yesterday adn instead it was C's mum. Not sure I believe her, but have decided to let the whole thing rest.
She is now up in her room playing with her doll's house and singing to herself

O did fantastic swimming yet again. It is like someone has flipped a switch and instead of fighting through the water he now makes it look effortless

E's lesson is tomorrow, dh is taking her.

Right, dinner is nearly ready, am going to lay the table.

Have a good weekend, and thanks for the kind words.
xx

Was T okay today?

Thanks for the tea and the cookie, just what I needed

E came out of school happy, teacher reported she was fine. E tells me she was upset because she was hoping me or daddy were picking her up from school yesterday adn instead it was C's mum. Not sure I believe her, but have decided to let the whole thing rest.
She is now up in her room playing with her doll's house and singing to herself

O did fantastic swimming yet again. It is like someone has flipped a switch and instead of fighting through the water he now makes it look effortless

E's lesson is tomorrow, dh is taking her.

Right, dinner is nearly ready, am going to lay the table.

Have a good weekend, and thanks for the kind words.
xx

Was T okay today?

oh I'm glad that E has had a good day and seems happier - I'd just keep an ear and eye on her, see how she gets on and well done O for fab swimming
T is ok and said he chatted to a boy C in his tutor group after school today, but it was rather spoiled by some other boy calling T 'gay' - grrr but I gather that those insults are fairly common generally - silly boy though.

She is definately not her old bouncy self though...
But a few early nights may do the trick. Trouble is she does not sleep at night, it takes her ages to actually fall asleep.

Sorry to hear about T's namecalling. That sort of thing never really stops does it. It makes me very cross!

Anyway, bedtime for the urchins

Do you know I'm coming to the conclusion, animals are actually a lot nicer than children Glad to hear E had a better day, although not as happy as she should be. Well done O for fab swimming again!

Sorry T is having to put up with namecalling, MAS. Have never been able to work out how to solve that one...

I've had the most exhausting playdate tonight. One of B's wee friends is such hard work, and seems to bring out the worst in B. Had hoped it would be good, as they are such good friends at school, but E is a selfconfident little soul who demands things, and B finds it quite intense. E told B she wanted to be alone and then told me the guest should choose everything they do... I told her she was partially right, but it was also up to the guest to make sure that the invitee would want to invite her back!!! Things improved after that But I ended up havingto monitor everything they did, so didn't get a break or my ironing done! And the mum didn't pick her up until 6:30

Am off to collapse with a glass of wine! Need to pick your brains,but might have to be tomorrow...

at B's little friend and well done for managing until 6.30 ! yes, you're right,animals much nicer (your dcs excepted !)

urgh, B's little friend sounds exhausting!!

I often lament to dh 'in my next live I am only having dogs' when the children are giving me stress and worry...

Pick our brains tomorrow hotcross, that's what we are here for

yes, do that hotcross - today,I mean ! only just noticed the end of your post