Dh on holiday!

[Chinchilla]

Well, dh left at 3am yesterday (Wed 5th), and I am fine. I have booked things to do every day, except one, until he comes home on the 16th. Mum and Dad are also going to have ds the day before dh returns, so I can have some time to myself, and I am going to go to the cinema ON MY OWN (never done that before!) to watch 'Two Weeks Notice'. I plucked up the courage to ask one of the mums from my M & T group over for coffee, and she will be here in 1/2 an hour!

I am amazed that I haven't missed dh yet. Last year it was awful when he was away for 9 days, as ds had bad eczema, and was still not going through the night. Ds is much easier to work out this year, and is so much more interactive. It also helps that he is mostly in a routine.

I may not be so positive this time next week, so I may need all of you to make me feel better...watch this space.

I feel the same, when he is at work I miss him as I don't see him for a few days, but when he is at home he annoys me as he cannot seem to be capable of doing what I and all us other mums do i.e, keep house tidy, laundry done, washing up done and away and the kids happy. i'm forever running round after him tidying away things he's left out, I find myself longing for him to go back to work but counting the minutes till he comes home, men, we can't live with em BUT the thing is we CAN live without em (I too have a glass of Wild Pig)

Chinchilla, have you tried telling him he makes you feel inadequate or his obsessive behaviour towards housework? I know it must be hard - most men don't want to talk. If I've ever mentioned a problem to my DH, he just clams up and sulks.
I don't really know what to say, just that I'm thinking about you and hope that everything is better soon. I guess the time you have on Sunday together might help; I always find it nice if the 2 of us can get away for an afternoon or evening on our own.
I know there have been times when I've not felt love for my husband and I could say I even hated him. I can't say we really 'worked' through it -more like a 'muddle' through. I guess we just go through phases when everything is fine and other phases when we can't really stand each other but somehow we get through. I suppose we realise that we both go through these phases. Talking to friends, I've realised that other couples seem to go through ups and downs as well.
Don't be too harsh on yourself about not feeling affectionate at the moment - you can't be affectionate all the time, especially if you are made to feel inadequate in some way.

Thanks, and sorry for feeling so sorry for myself! I have been a bit blue today, but am feeling better this evening, after a large glass of wine. I have decided to try to be affectionate towards him, and hope that it is returned. I started being happier during dinner, and it seems to have been noticed, so we'll see. I am working in the basis that these feelings are self-perpetuating, and that I need to break the cycle.