Separate beds - could you, would you, should you?

[Moomina]

Since splitting with xh, I've come to love sleeping alone and think that, in the unlikely event that the opportunity ever arises again , I would now really resent having to share my bed on a regular basis. I am even thinking that I might make separate rooms a condition of any future co-habitation! (Can you tell I'm beating 'em off with a sharp stick these days?)

But I'm starting to think that there is nothing as blissful as a double bed all for me, with no snoring, smelly, grunting man in it. Agree, or disagree?

Sorry DC, no sympathy from us here, but always worth a try. And you did make me laught when you said you wake DS up now too!
Good wheeze about no spare bed tho!

ooh yes two doubles
one each

god am not that inlove!!

ooh yes two doubles
one each

god am not that inlove!!

I dont knwo who thse people are who copulate allt he time - dont hey have a book to be getting on with ?

daddy cool
ds3 got in to our bed the other morning adn dh went backt o sleep, he snored...
" pig " said ds3 ( 222 months) succinctly

Coddy have you never heard of multi-tasking?

Poor DC! It's not your fault if you snore. I've already been complaining on MN about my dh but I don't blame him. I do feel like shoving a pillow over his face at night but love him again in the morning!

When I was pg, I snored too. . Ummmm, and yes, I have been known to fart on occasion!

I don't think I could do it because a) dp would be offended and b) our house isn't big enough anyway but I LOVE it when I get a lie in and get our bed all to myself, it's bliss. Yeah, Moomina, make it a condition of future cohabitation!

wwww - do you think it's a first date or second date kinda topic?

I sleep terribly when DH isn't there. Hate sleeping in an empty bed.

Am speaking to dh again - he apologised last night (just as well for him ) but the seperate beds continue! The relationship doesn't suffer in any way at all BTW - still lots of laughs, cuddles and good conversation.

i regularly sleep seperate to dh. its nice having the bed to myself but i miss him

oh dear... it's usually me who snores terribley and annoys my dh... he goes off to the spare room now and again...

when ds was born... i was so fed up with him grizzling and grumping about squawking baby (he wasn't being mean but would just exude that....poor me! i'm sooo tired cos i woke up in the middle of the night and i've got to go to work in the morning....face) i got fed up with him and he stayed in the spare room for about 3 months (NO visiting rights!!! you must be joking!!!) poor me though... got rid of farting husband... get screaming grunting nipple chomping newborn baby!

Bea, you got that wrong - YOU should have gone in the spare room every other night and left him to deal with baby.

nah! was breastfeeding... i would have done the walk to and fro anyway!!!... plus i'm much better with broken nights than woe-is-me-boy!

I would NEVER sleep separately, at least not long term. We did a bit when DS was a baby and screamed so much (now know it was ASD) and DH had to get up for work. Sleeping separately is the ultimate attention-seeking threat from either of us and we DO have books to keep up with!
We have a Kingsize bed which helps. DH snores like a pig but he's my pig! We both slept alone for years before we met, me because I lived alone and DH because his first wife was a snoring, farting cow! But never wanted to sleep separately since we met.

Davros, I'm interested in your comment about the big bed. Does it really help? We're moving soon and need to buy a new bed. Dh snores like a, well like a man with too much weight on his neck!

DH and I used to sleep apart as a rule, now we share a bed for maybe 4 nights a week. Sometimes more in the winter as its nice to have a hot water bottle. Less in the summer, too hot!

For my money Kingsize is perfect as you get enough room to yourself but you're not alone like those huge ones that are two single mattresses together. You can also have your own mattress in terms of soft/hard. DH does snore and I just have to live with it. I find it only annoys me when I'm having trouble sleeping anyway or I've had to get up to deal with a.n. child and then try to get back to sleep.

DH and I have separate rooms linked by an en suite. I get to have flowery and pink decor and he can have leather and hessian. We can have a conversation or shut the door if we want. Both my parents and my grandparents have always had separate bedrooms so it doesn't seem strange to me. Grandparents just had ruby wedding so it never did their marriage any harm either.

We have a three bed house - one each. In the rare event of a guest I have to shift.

We have always shared until birth of ds2 7 months ago. ds2 took ages to settle into a routine so we took it in turns to do the night feeds. whoever was not on shift would sleep in the spare room double bed so they got a good nights sleep. Now ds2 sleeps from 7pm through till the morning and there is no need to seperate. I suspect we both love having our own bed as neither of us is bringing up the subject. i'm really torn, I love sleeping alone, I read late, no snoring next to me, dh obviously loves it too, he listens to his ipod or watches tv. but are you more intimate if you are together more? I don't mean sexually, we still get together for the 'conjugals' but is an air of intimacy lost if you don't share a bed? I am worried about it but haven't concluded anything yet. What do you all think?

We have always shared until birth of ds2 7 months ago. ds2 took ages to settle into a routine so we took it in turns to do the night feeds. whoever was not on shift would sleep in the spare room double bed so they got a good nights sleep. Now ds2 sleeps from 7pm through till the morning and there is no need to seperate. I suspect we both love having our own bed as neither of us is bringing up the subject. i'm really torn, I love sleeping alone, I read late, no snoring next to me, dh obviously loves it too, he listens to his ipod or watches tv. but are you more intimate if you are together more? I don't mean sexually, we still get together for the 'conjugals' but is an air of intimacy lost if you don't share a bed? I am worried about it but haven't concluded anything yet. What do you all think?

Sleeping in seperate beds/rooms long term when you are in a happy marriage/co-habiting relationship strikes me as just plain odd. Sorry.

similar thing here leglebegle
only ds2 still isn't sleeping through and I am on the bottom bunk of ds2 and dh is in the big grown up bed which is in the same room as ds1.

Plus we live with MIL, god bless her, but let's just say spontaneous conjugals and quite a bit of intamacy is lost at this stage in our relationship

but we can go out whenever we like as we have a built in babysitter