New woman in the office has a deformed arm - best to ignore or ask what happenned?

[DrNortherner]

Lots of whipsering going on in the kitchen "Have you seen her arm/Wonder what happenned? etc"

Is it best to ask her, or ignore it?

She is lovely and I so do not want to offend her, equally I don't want her catching anyone whispering about her.

Thank you

I don't think I would be very interested TBH

Riven - I love the response you give about your DD.

Don't ask - if she wants to she will volunteer the information herself.

well my ds had a droopy eye and i didnt mind folk asking
it depended HOW of course.
i codul see them wondering. and in a way i was pleased to tell them

I'd ignore it. She'll tell you if/ when she's ready and wants you to know. I'm sure this isn't the first new job she's had so she will no doubt realise people are curious and will have worked out how / when / whether or not she wants to tell them.