I?m not referring to how much you give to charity or give of your time to charities/school/church etc. I mean in your behaviour towards others. If, for example, you were contemplating having an affair with an attached man (or woman), what would stop you, assuming anything would of course. A sense of morality, altruism towards the innocent party (ie the other partner and DCs), or simply a fear of the consequences? Would you have to build yourself a justifying argument; he's not happy with his wife, it's his job to care about her not mine etc. Do we fool ourselves when we think we act or hold back from acting in consideration of others?