Council housing, council house advice ?

[Depressedgirl]

Hi I was kicked out from my mums 5 months ago and have been staying in temporary accommodation (a hotel) for the past 5 months my relief duty ended (band E) I’m now band D however under the homeless act now but main housing duty so I’m band d but I’m under the homeless act I’ve recently found out I’m 11 weeks pregnant. I don’t have a cooker or anything like that just a fridge and microwave and the hotel I’m staying in has bug infestation obviously the hotel is for temporary accommodation people through council so they are aware and don’t really care I thought I’d move up a band but I haven’t and I thought I’d get a flat by now also haven’t? Or a two bed now I’m aware I’m having a baby. I feel so shit all the time I’m always over twenty on the housing rank one come out today and for the first time I’m 11-20 but I doubt I’ll get it as my housing officer said I will most likely be housed from being nominated a house or flat not through home choice ? She’s also said recently I may be moving to a lodge for pregnant people and families but you can go there if you don’t have Children or you’re not pregnant. I’m just wondering if any one relates or has and can guide me how long it’ll be I am itching to settle down somewhere now I don’t have any family other then my babydad and that’s not going to well atm I feel so depressed just want my own place and have no clue when I will or how much longer it’ll be and band D is so low but I know I’m not 20 weeks or anything so don’t think I’d move up a band until then and even then don’t know advice please anyone:( x

When you agreed to quit how did you envision funding yourself and the baby?

Although making someone pregnant quit is dodgy grounds in itself.

@Singleandproud im not going to have an abortion my friends mum was nearly forced to abort her and didn’t and she’s 40 and has never been able to have another child she’s had a still born and she has complications with her ovaries etc so had she of listened to everyone she would have no child ever so I’m not going to just because I can’t see the unforeseeable. I know it’s a shit situation but looking at the positives it’ll make me a strong person in the long run and I’ll one day be in a better place and can look back at this and respect myself for sticking it out. Also I’m excited to have my baby? And what’s meant to be will be . I didn’t want advice about my child only advice about housing and if anyone has been in the same situation and has advice. Also yes the iv drip helps but only for a day or two at most. And yeah my housing officer said she didn’t want to pay me sick pay so suggested me quitting but I did quit so not much I can do now :(

@pinkdelight Thankyou yes I was thinking about childminding but once i am settled I’d deffo be able to do that as work! And yeah I didn’t realise what she done was illegal at the time I just felt embarrassed and I was throwing up a lot from about 5 weeks tbh so I don’t entirely blame her. If I get anti sickness that works I’ll definitely get a new job in the meantime but just need one that works. Does workinf help me get houses faster also? And yeah not sure what he’s supposed to do though as when we was together he tried private renting and was told he doesn’t earn nearly enough

@booktokbear wasn’t thinking into it too much was just embarrassed and felt so unwell I just quit and hoped it the sickness would go and was just early sickness I now know it’ll be the whole pregnancy

Working helps you pay rent for your own housing. It isn't all about getting up the list. This is what I mean about your fatalism. A certain amount of accepting the situation is okay but this kind of thing -

she didn’t want to pay me sick pay so suggested me quitting but I did quit so not much I can do now

Shows how you've made bad decisions by going along with things, so shouldn't continue to do so and hope for the best. You've already learnt things don't work out that way so often, so don't leave your fate (and your babies) up to other people.

15 years ago my banding didn't change untill DD arrived and took another 11 months before I was able to move in to a property. Depending on the area it could take significantly longer than that now

Completely discount the child's father right now, he isn't particularly jn a place to be relied on, as soon as baby arrives go through CMS and they will work out a fair amount for him to contribute removing the emotion out of the situation and work out contact then too

You have a lot of things in your life that you can't control right now so make a list of the biggest things that are bothering you and do what you can to fix them. Make sure you are on any 'free' websites, trawling charity shops to put house and baby bits away for when you can move.
What type of bug infestation? Something easy to treat yourself?

Look at retraining whilst you have some time, even if it's something online as you see to have internet access there are many free courses or look at what is offered at your local library or skills Hub learn how to use Excel properly etc so that you have a wider choice of jobs when you go back to work

In terms of space even a hotel room will be ok until baby is mobile, it'll be rubbish for you but make no difference to baby. It sounds like you want a strong and stable future and you can have that it just depends on your decisions from this point on really.

You mention you were kicked out and sound generally very vulnerable have a look at what other support and charities are available in your area who might be able to assist you too. If you are under 25 a young mum's refuge maybe an option.

Your post asking if working will help you get a council house quicker is frustrating. Working will help you pay for your own.

You’re in a vulnerable position but seem to want someone else to pay for it all.

Go back to the GP, explain you need more help, then try and get some form of work. Even if it’s just babysitting at this stage. People appreciate people with experience as babysitters more these days.

Having a baby in your own is hard even when you own your own property and earn a decent salary of £35 k a year. Having a baby on benefits AND in emergency agonising is going to be absolutely horrific. Considering the shortages of housing, you could be waiting years and there are plenty of children that are already here, living in misery that are a higher priority than your unborn baby. I would strongly suggest that you look at how little money you will get on UC and then look at the cost of nappies, formula, second hand votes and equipment and also have a very real look at how expensive food and electricity gas and water is every month in a C property of your own. How are you going to carpet a flat? Do you know how expensive curtains are? How eye wateringly expensive it is to set up home even with everything second hand?

By all means go into this thinking you will master the best of this but the simple reality is that you are bringing a baby into the world to live in emergency accommodation that isn't suitable for adults never mind a baby. They often are infested with insects and are hideous places to live and there are lots of Pele ahead of you in the line. The simple reality is that you are going to be bringing your child into the what possible circumstances with two separate parents and barely any money or reassurances. Your life is going to be pretty miserable unless you fight tooth and nail to retain ASAP and totally dedicate yourself to bettering yourself but right now you just seem focused on getting a flat so I just can't see it happening. I feel incredibly sorry for you when realise the long term implications of raising a child in poverty. It's brutally soul destroying.