Police and social services

[Rosiebennett]

Can anyone help so last night we went to a firework display with friends and there kids had some food and drinks great night came home got baby to sleep I came upstairs and as my partner was trying to get into his wardrobe he’s trapped my foot in the door as it is right next to the door to the bedroom total accident but I screamed out in pain and my toe was cut and extremely sore anyways ten minutes later a police car is outside my house and someone had reported screaming from my house I was in absolute shock I’ve asked the neighbours all deny calling the police so I can only presume a passer by has presumed something bad had happend ! I explained this to the police while the interrogated me it was clear to see what had happened to my toe ! They said they where happy and left but I’m terrified they will envolve social services thinking there has been some domestic that I’m just not confessing too which honestly was not the case am I being dramatic in thinking this ? My partner was quite verbal to the officers as they woke our baby it’s really stressed me out can anyone help should I be worrying ?or am I just an over dramatic mum that’s watched too many tiktoks I’m kind of laughing about the fact it’s all over a trapped toe but at the same time I need to no if even though all was fine they don’t just report any old thing even if they said they where happy with the situation many thanks and sorry if I sound crazy x

What did your partner say to the officers?

They asked to look around and he told them to go away with a few choice words as they woke the baby obviously they didn’t go away I was quite happy to let them look around I new they where just doing there job

I think your partner's behaviour was unacceptable. That will have raised a red flag. Does he usually swear at police?

I very much doubt the police will involve social services.

In the VERY VERY unlikely circumstances SS do call in for a safety check, they'll chat, have a look round and find no cause for concern and close the file.

Do you have an anxiety problem generally?

He has had run ins in the past so he got his back up this is not my point though I don’t condone being funny with the police but he felt like it was unnecessary on reflection he did say he should of remained calmer

It might not be your point but it will have affected how you are judged by the police.

It is possible that an automatic referral to social services might happen but it is unlikely to progress.
Your DP did the worst possible thing in the circumstances.

Yes I have an anxiety disorder any little thing can make me worry and even more so since having my son I worry constantly but I guess that’s normal ? Who doesn’t worry that there kids are safe or if something happens to you who will take care of your kids that kind of thing

I agree but I can’t change that he has adhd he doesn’t handle as rationally as some may

Was it late? Were you both very drunk and noisy? Not judging just asking. Might have woken the neighbours up and pissed them off.

It just sounds so unbelievably coincidental that a passer by walked past just as you let out one scream of pain from an injured toe and thought they better call the police because it sounded like you were being murdered. No, I think you've pissed off the neighbours.

So someone was concerned enough to call the Police because they heard you screaming, they attended to check on your safety and received a load of verbal abuse from your partner!!! Nice 🙄

I have ADHD it’s not an excuse!!

If your partner swears and shouts a lot then I can understand why a neighbour called the police when they heard you screaming. They're probably worried for your welfare.

Ok, what's done is done.

But shouting loud enough for someone to call the police and the presence of someone who has had previous run ins with the police may rise concerns.

Just be honest if you are contacted. And be honest with yourself, was their concern warranted?

My DH has ADHD and my DS it isn't an excuse for swearing at the police.

Hope your foot is healing. It seems odd your screaming didn’t wake your baby but the police did. No idea about social services but the only times I’ve called the police about anyone screaming I was properly fearing for their lives.

I do not no maybe it was the neighbour but when I asked she said it wasn’t her we get on well and no no one was drunk I had two glasses of Prosecco and my partner had approx three cans of beer between 5pm and 8pm as our friends arranged the fireworks and food get together do a few family’s and our children we walked home at half eight put baby to bed that happend around half nine as we were getting sorted to go to sleep

Bonkers isn’t it, it just creates further misunderstanding/lack of understanding for us. I’m pleased to see it being challenged.

Why are u so judgemental I’ve already said he didn’t handle the situation very well and upon reflection he said he should have remained calmer !

He has had run ins in the past

So he is known to the police?

You'll most likely just get a phone call from childrens services, if anything.

Yes I no this and I’m not saying I don’t appreciate there concern it’s still not answering my question nor helpful

Being aggressive to the Police will have done neither of you any favours. Talk about making a bad situation worse.

As pp said ADHD in itself isn't an excuse for being rude or abusive.

Speaking for the Force I work for they'd submit a report which will be accessible by SW whether its followed up is down to them. Hopefully if they do contact you your husband will manage to be polite & co-operative

Omg ur not getting it I trapped my toe in the door leading into my bedroom but he was entering his built in wardrobe and I trapped my toe he didn’t injure me ! The bottom of the door trapped my toe !!!!!