Police and social services

[Rosiebennett]

Can anyone help so last night we went to a firework display with friends and there kids had some food and drinks great night came home got baby to sleep I came upstairs and as my partner was trying to get into his wardrobe he’s trapped my foot in the door as it is right next to the door to the bedroom total accident but I screamed out in pain and my toe was cut and extremely sore anyways ten minutes later a police car is outside my house and someone had reported screaming from my house I was in absolute shock I’ve asked the neighbours all deny calling the police so I can only presume a passer by has presumed something bad had happend ! I explained this to the police while the interrogated me it was clear to see what had happened to my toe ! They said they where happy and left but I’m terrified they will envolve social services thinking there has been some domestic that I’m just not confessing too which honestly was not the case am I being dramatic in thinking this ? My partner was quite verbal to the officers as they woke our baby it’s really stressed me out can anyone help should I be worrying ?or am I just an over dramatic mum that’s watched too many tiktoks I’m kind of laughing about the fact it’s all over a trapped toe but at the same time I need to no if even though all was fine they don’t just report any old thing even if they said they where happy with the situation many thanks and sorry if I sound crazy x

Get out of jail free card who said anything about jail for what ? This is actually ridiculous il take down the thread no one is helping again jumping to presumptions when I have explained a situation

I suspect you may get a visit.

If they believe what you said you will be fine but if not then brace yourself for a visit .my ex reported a false allegations because we were doin ok without her ,it was fine though they seen right thru it don't stress an you will be fine TonyB

The police are likely to send the report to SS as kids were in the house and your partners behaviour.

Have you had a SW involved previously? If not it's unlike they will do anything with the report.

I'd be more concerned about having a partner who is anything other than polite, calm and charming to a police officer than I would about whether SS will be in touch.

You screamed (whatever the reason)
A neighbour/passerby concerned enough to call the police
Your DH was arsy to the police
You had an injured toe
The baby was crying

It would be reasonable for the circumstances to be reported to MASH as a potential tial safeguarding incident and to be followed up by SS.

I am sorry for your circumstances.

Why are you screaming for a trapped toe that didn't even need any medical attention? You were both pissed, he's got a criminal record, he was aggressive with police. I'd expect a visit from SS

If your partner is shouting at the police the neighbours may be scared of him and wouldn’t tell you if it was them anyway.

for someone to call the police it must of been more than an oh fuck you’ve hurt my toe scream.

something doesn’t add up with your story , sorry. For the police to come to your adress for a scream I wonder if your partner has previous for dv and they were concerned.

i really hope you are ok x

The baby did not cry once the officers thought he was extremely cute no body mentioned him having previous for domestic violence I said he has had runnings with the police in the past when he was younger ! He woke up as people knocked and looked around our home obviously unsure of what was happening but he was fine unfazed

i would have thought there would be no
more input tbh.
Saying that depends how much your dh got their back up . They may be worried if he sounded angry.
If so ss will call for a chat or visit .
If everything is genuinely ok at home then don’t worry yourself .

You are getting a lot of grief . Just listen to the advice instead .

I’d scream for a sore toe !
Toes and elbows are the worst to bang.
Letting out some sound helps distract from the pain .

Sorry if my post came across as giving you grief it really wasn’t meant to.

where I live police don’t come for a single scream.

i just wondered if his records show something maybe you don’t know about and they were overly concerned for your welfare.

The police should be reporting it as a “ child coming to notice” - which means the information will be shared with SS. Whether the incident meets the threshold for SS intervention will depend on a number of factors. Swearing at police only ever increases the risk assessment - you must see that? SS might phone, turn up unannounced or file it away and do nothing. If there have been any DV incidences by either of you in the past I’d expect them to get involved.

They asked to look around and he told them to go away with a few choice words

Which words?

It sounds like you were screaming vs let out a scream? In which case, I understand why a passer-by reported you.

Your partner is an idiot for getting mouthy and you may get a welfare visit thanks to him. I doubt it’ll be much further but next time, he should be more careful!

No one was pissed ? And yes I screamed and shouted u idiot cos he closed the door on my toe by accident I thought it was broken ! Have u never stumped your toe really bad and yelped out I don’t even believe the scream could of been heard that loudly it’s the only thing I can think of that has made someone call the police as we where settling down for the night unless it was just malicious or as some have said maybe the next door neighbour was pissed off who nos maybe we sound like a heard of elephants on a daily basis and she’s used any excuse to call the cops but generally I get along really well with my neighbour I’ve came on here looking for advice and got presumptions and not much help at all which has made me even more anxious about a ridiculous situation that even my family have said nothing will happen about but I wanted an outside opinion guess I won’t be doing that again

I just knew it wasn't simply a loud pitched yelp/scream and that you'd have been screaming the place down.

Hows the toe today? Did you get medical attention for it?

This.

No I wrapped it up like they’d do in the hospital and got on with it although I can’t wear a shoe as it’s a bit swollen I will live it just has a cut where the wood caught the end of the toe the toe is the least of my worries xx all I wanted was some advice as to if the police where happy and satisfied everything was ok which they said on leaving .would there still be a report for concern as I don’t want anyone thinking my partner knocks ten bails of shit out of me when he doesn’t he’s a great dad and partner may be it he had a few choice words that he isn’t proud of now but he felt threatened I guess this is our home and it spoiled our evening and he got over protective

I mean, can you see why someone was worried? What if he’d been beating you to death and your baby was in the house?

I think whoever reported you was genuinely concerned and it was not malicious.

I understand you were shocked but ongoing screaming is very alarming.
Better safe than sorry!

A report of ongoing screaming and then the police being confronted by a male who had “choice words” will likely to be passed on to children’s care. They will triage it and you may not even be contacted.

im not disputing this I’d do the same if I was concerned about anyone read my messages but as there was no incident I’m asking if the police where satisfied all was ok does it still get referred I feel like no one is listening 🙄

Also there was no ongoing screaming

Don't call me an idiot mate, you're the ones who have got yourselves in the shit with the police/social services. Don't want opinions don't post on an online forum

Haha no I called my boyfriend an idiot for goodness sakes !