Police and social services

[Rosiebennett]

Can anyone help so last night we went to a firework display with friends and there kids had some food and drinks great night came home got baby to sleep I came upstairs and as my partner was trying to get into his wardrobe he’s trapped my foot in the door as it is right next to the door to the bedroom total accident but I screamed out in pain and my toe was cut and extremely sore anyways ten minutes later a police car is outside my house and someone had reported screaming from my house I was in absolute shock I’ve asked the neighbours all deny calling the police so I can only presume a passer by has presumed something bad had happend ! I explained this to the police while the interrogated me it was clear to see what had happened to my toe ! They said they where happy and left but I’m terrified they will envolve social services thinking there has been some domestic that I’m just not confessing too which honestly was not the case am I being dramatic in thinking this ? My partner was quite verbal to the officers as they woke our baby it’s really stressed me out can anyone help should I be worrying ?or am I just an over dramatic mum that’s watched too many tiktoks I’m kind of laughing about the fact it’s all over a trapped toe but at the same time I need to no if even though all was fine they don’t just report any old thing even if they said they where happy with the situation many thanks and sorry if I sound crazy x

@Ollifer I think she meant she called her partner an idiot. The lack of punctuation makes it harder to read.

OP Why are you so overly concerned about SS being contacted? If nothing happened then you've nothing to worry about. If they do contact you, you can just explain it to them and show them it was all a misunderstanding.

Also that the police turned up in 10 mins for a squashed toe? How much were you screaming and for how long?!
We had a patient rampaging in ED and they took ages.

well Tbh I wasn’t watching my clock it could of been 20 minutes later it felt quick that’s the only time noise was made though hense why I think it could just be some malicious call from someone with a grudge a grumpy neighbour a nasty ex who knows I wish I did cos I’m as baffled as you are and not one of my neighbours heard anything so they say so your guess is as good as mine !

I’m asking if the police where satisfied all was ok does it still get referred I feel like no one is listening

I’ve posted already but I’ll repeat it… the police should put on a report for a “child coming to notice” regardless of whether they were satisfied with your explanation. This report is sent to SS. Of course if they’re lazy or otherwise occupied they may not put the report on. Whether SS do anything with it will depend on all the other circumstances of your situation but it may well be screened out and no further action taken.

Also this happened on Sunday not yesterday I posted it on an existing thread as I’m new here and didn’t no how to post my own thread eventually figured it out and copied and pasted the thread so I’m guessing if they where concerned they would of been in touch perhaps by now and for those asking if all was ok why am I concerned it’s because I’ve felt the happiest ever since my son was born and the thought of anyone ruining that is awful the same for my relationship as seen on her tonight people twist things assume things I don’t no how the police work in these circumstances I merely asked for advice if they where happy is that the end of it basically thanks anyways for those that have helped without judgement

I'm reading the replies and I can't get over how judgemental ppl are on here.
Of course you're going to scream you caught your toe in the door, I did something similar last week and I screamed cause it bladdy hurts. Don't listen to all these unhelpful comments, it's clear you are worried and SS may call to see if all is well at home, they have to follow up any concerns it's their duty. Too many times they've missed actual children in need of safeguarding. If they do call just cooperate with them, no need to be worried they wont take your children away. I hope your toe has healed xxx

I wouldn't have gone round the neighbours like that, if it was them who called then they did the right thing and were looking out for you. I've called the police on my old neighbours when I heard screaming because I was worried he'd hit her.. turns out he had. No way in hell would I admit that I was the one who rang though.

You'll just need to wait and see but if the police were satisfied that all was OK between you then they may not refer. Even if they did refer a sw would likely come out and talk to you about the impact of dv on children and leave it at that. So either way it's nothing to panic about if it was just an accident. I'd be glad to know my neighbours cared enough to ring though.

he had a few choice words that he isn’t proud of now

Why won't you tell us what the words were?

Absolutely they did the right thing in checking on us totally agree ! I just wondered how far they take things or if they even do once they say they are satisfied all Is good and I guess like u say even if they call me as long as I explain things should be ok no harm was done other than a sore toe it’s not exactly headline news and I will probably laugh about it one day it was just the protective mum in me making me anxious as I’m a new mum I hoped people would understand there’s enough pressures being a new mum without someone thinking I were here carrying on like idiots

I have ADHD, but the difference is I don’t use it as an excuse for being a twat.

If they were going to just let it go before his outburst, there’s a chance his behaviour will raise a few flags now.
He needs to not ‘reflect’ but actually think of actions vs consequences in the heat of the moment.
Absolutely sod all use being sorry after the event.

I didn’t go round the neighbours I text her I have all my neighbours numbers as we all get along also if they come and talk to me about domestic violence why when there was none that’s why I asked if that would be the end of it I’m not sure ur getting what I’m saying there was no argument there was no violence there was one scream and I called my boyfriend a bloody idiot for not watching what he was doing I’m just leaving it there going round in circles

Hearing a scream in the night and then maybe a bit of shouting is what domestic violence can sound like through a wall. Your neighbours won't know the difference. So they've maybe rang to be on the safe side. They might not refer to social services but if they do come round they'll just give you information to be on the safe side, because that's their job.

The snubbed toe in question featuring the built in wardrobe door that my partner was stood behind when I tried to open the door and it went over my toe there u go folks goodnight

You need to get that looked at at a walk in centre. That is not just a stubbed toe! It's an open wound! It needs to be properly cleaned and dressed!

Your partner certainly did not help with his shitty attitude.

It’s a lot better once cleaned thanks for your concern though here’s another lovely toe picture it hasn’t fallen off 😂

Yes we no thanks for repeating really helpful

It must of been a loud scream especially with the noise from fireworks it was probably a passer by that reported it. I think the police would of believed you as it was your toe and they did not come to you with marks on your face. They have to ask questions it is there job but I can understand how your partner felt. It would of been a shock to have police at the door but I cannot see social services been contacted.

The explanation sounds reasonable- it will really depend on how big a dick he was to the police. They were doing their job, and if he's known to them for being a sick- that may mean they out in the referral. He needs to learn not to mouth of to them.

Your toe looks very sore, and no wonder you screamed!

I live near our local fireworks display, and the streets are full of people walking back home after, and it's perfectly understandable that a passerby could hear you and report it. And also that there would be a patrol car nearby.

I don't know if this is nationwide, but if the police attend a house where there are children, the school is automatically notified next day so that the teachers are aware. It's a safeguarding procedure to give context to anything the child might say.

Ss and school will be sent a report.

Whether ss open an assessment of your family will depend on context. The police left because they saw no immediate danger in your property. Ss are more concerned about ongoing risks of harm.

If ss do open an assessment, the way you and dh present is vital. If he presents as aggressive, they will be concerned.

Ss are not a risk in themselves. They assess risk in families and most cases are closed with no further action.

Op, you’re getting annoyed at the wrong thing. I should imagine it WAS a neighbour who called the police, and thank goodness they did. They were not to know why you were screaming were they? They did the right thing - but they’re not going to admit it to you are they?
The police had a duty to investigate the reason why you were screaming - they came to make sure everyone was OK. So no, they weren’t ‘interrogating’ you. They were checking what you told them to make sure it was plausible. Believe it or not, many women do lie about how they got injured because they’re afraid of the person who caused the injury. So yes, the police would have needed to check on any children in the house to make sure they were safe. Your DP arguing with them would have raised more alarm bells, especially if he’s already known to them.
in my area, this incident may well lead to an Encompass report being made, whereby a duty social worker and any body linked to your baby such as health visitor, nursery etc will be notified of the incident. But the whole point of this is to ensure both your and your baby’s safety, not to take children away from their parents.

The purpose of the call is to make sure that you and the child are ok. The police usually will want to speak to you on your own and check on the wellbeing of any children in the house. If they were able to do that then the case might be closed. You said your partner refused to allow them to have a look around, I think that because of this and him having a few choice words for the police means that they do have to do a referral to social services. They may just put it on file or you might get a call from your health visitor as you have a baby but they will legally have to do something with the information.

If your partner did give them the opportunity to check on you and the baby then they might not need to take it any further.