The All New Zappata Thread

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Just setting this up in good time so we can link to it before we lose each other...

Fred - that is just pants about the venue/marquee, I second Squonk's suggestion of the zappatas all ringing them but failing that maybe you should ring them and try the tears option?

Had a nice lunch and mooch around at M&S but felt quite sad again as we could not avoid looking at all the baby clothes, such pretty things for little girls .

Egg - I would say pop in for a cup of tea after legoland on Monday but we are probably going to the cinema (with MIL ) to see that new pre-historic film (can't remember name). Hope you have a great time, I am looking forward to dd being old enough to enjoy it and send me a text if you are free at all. Glad the nursery session for dts went well.

Hope everyone has a good weekend despite the weather, I will pop on here from time to time and wibble to myself .

I'm getting a surprising amount of MNing time so far (so I may not have to leave for the holidays after all )

Tis dd2's party today - we have her dress all ironed and ready to wear, and she's very excited

Tis snowing though. It's about two inches thick right now, have checked weather forecast and it seems to think it has stopped snowing now until tomorrow, which is good - if it snows much more she won't be able to get to party (and I won't be able to get to pick up dd1 who has been at her friend's house since Thursday) And there is a severe weather warning for tomorrow so we may not be able to get to Cumbria after all... see how it goes.

How is everyone else's Easter going so far? egg - how are you getting on with parents but without dh and ds1?

Squonk - make sure you take some pics for us. hope you don't get snowed in, we have had flurries this morning and it is freeeeeezing cold.

I took some piccies.

I sent pics to egg and fred, but I don't have mobile numbers for you other two.

Both egg and fred replied to my piccie texts, but I managed to delete them both without reading them (not a particularly techy person, me ) so I have no idea what they said to me, or if they require a response. (sorry guys, not being ignorant, I promise )

She had a fab time, but was disappointed that they didn't give her any birthday cake. I told her that the birthday cake is normally in the party bag (and it was ) so I was sorry that I hadn't mentioned that to her before she went.

Supposed to be going to Cumbria tomorrow, so we'll see what the weather's like. It stopped snowing almost straight away and it's rained so whatever snow was there has gone

How is everyone else doing? Having a fab Easter weekend?

egg - how are you coping without the older boys of the house?

fred - have they changed their minds yet?

Squonk - I will email you my mobile number through FB. Glad the party went well and there was cake after all .

Fridya night at SILs was sad but a small step. SIL has got a picture printed onto canvas with them in black & white and Eris in colour, is heartbreaking but lovely. I went round there today and just sat and talked about inane things.

Went out for tapas and wine with my dsis for the first time last night, was another strange evening, with a very late going to bed and many tears on her part (man trouble).

RANT ALERT : I am feeling very pissed off with dh, he rang me at 10:30am this morning in a strop because I wasn't home and has continued to niggle all day. He gave dd choc at 5:30 (before dinner) and wondered why I was annoyed . Then he invited his db, wife and connor for dinner on tues (they are staying at ILs due to decorating work and needed to escape for a little while). This is not a great night as I am at work (he did ask me which night but I am busy rest of week) so I wanted to do an easy dinner and also as I plan our dinners when we go shopping on friday I need to use the food I have bought, he then rejected the 2 meals I offered as he would have to do more mash (we are having mash tonight) then abandoned dd's bedtime and proceeded to make the mash so I had to finish bottle and do teeth while simultaneously trying to start rest of dinner, cue more snide comments about me abandoning dd in bathroom. Have decided not to talk to him for rest of night if possible, Grrrrr . RANT OVER

Happy Easter everyone

marmite - grrr on your behalf! On Thursday evening, dh came home and went to bed! Left me to feed, bath, do teeth and put both the littlies to bed on my own! Tis very irritating when they are being... men!

yes, please do email me your number (you too phono if you want)

the pic of Eris sounds lovely - heartbreaking but a fab idea.

Hi girls....bck from snowy Lincolnshire after morning of sledging!!!

Squonk, I said that dd2 looked gorgeous!!!!

Marmite - sounds like jealousy from him...maybe he's missed you ....or he's an arse...your choice!!

Morning all and belated happy easter. Did not go to legoland today as decided it was too much for both DS1 and myself who have both had busy weekends. Am shattered........

Marmite your Friday night sounds like it went well and the picture of Eris and her parents sounds so lovely .

As for your DH, I think squonk summed it up nicely! My DH and I sometimes have fallings out and it is, of course, always his fault. Actually I normally start it and always when I am massively overtired and it is always because of his inability to help out without being asked. When I see what some other DPs and DHs are like though I know I have a good'un!

Fred - SLEDGING!!! Can't remember the last time I went sledging. Was it fab? I would love to take DS1 sledging but never enough snow. Perhaps I need to move further north.

Squonk my reply to your pic of DD2 was that she looked gorgeous, soooo pretty and that you must have been very proud. I showed my parents too as my mum had just been saying how nice it was when girls used to dress up for parties in pretty dresses and I said "look at DS1's girlfriend here then"!!! We thought she looked really grown up too. Suppose she is coming up for FOUR now though, so is very grown up.

Anyone seen Phono lately? I think she did say she would not be around much this weekend.

Was lovely having my parents here and some relative peace without DS1. I did miss him and DH though, and when I spoke to DS1 on the phone I had a few tears as he was saying "mummeeeeeeeee" with a bit of a wobbly voice. He had a great time though. The only prob I had was that as DH was not here I had to do 10:30ish feeds for babies and then get up again for night feed and up first thing in morning. My mum did keep offering but I would not want to let her, age 73, to be up at night with my babies. So we shared the evening feeds and did one each which made it easier anyway, and then I got up at 3am ish. Was glad to go to bed at 9pm last night tho.

Right, DH and DS1 have gone into town, I have fed babies who are now (for the moment) asleep in bed. Am trying v hard to get them used to having a long sleep at lunch and it is going ok, but it fell apart yesterday as had sis and family here and babies never went up until they were so overtired they cried every 5 mins between snoozing.

Off to eat ridiculous amounts of choc.

Sorry, it was FRED who summed up marmite's DH nicely (jealousy / missed you / an arse...) not squonk .

And I spoke too soon. DD is crying .

Morning ladies,
more arsiness from dh yesterday, maybe he's having a period .

have got the matchsticks out this morning after a bad night with dd. I have got my first german lesson since beign back at work at lunchtime today, really, really not looking forward to it.

10,000 BC was ok but Nandos and red wine after was very nice .

Have just realised that I won't be able to join in the book club discussion tonight as BIL/SIL are round for dinner .

Phono, sorry to hear your DP is being a lazy git...

I have spent a good amount of time at the weekend trying to look for alternative wedding venues...
We haven't had a firm no from them yet ( but only because Mr Fred refused to accept one last Thursday!!) He will be calling them later today.

We may have to postpone until later in the year or even next summer

TBH Phono, itwould make everything more simple if thr wedding was in Surrey or at least closer, but we did really like the first venue

about your wedding plans, Fred.

Phono - I think yours and my dh must have been at the same party although mine isn't being lazy just not very nice. I did wonder if he is struggling to grieve and not talking about it. I know he doesn't understand why I am still feeling so upset.

Quick Q from me before I try to do some work : I am not sure whether to take dd for her 12 month jabs tomorrow as she is definately not 100% atm, problem is if I cancel it will prob be another month before I can get a 3pm appointment, any advice welcome please.

Well, it looks like we have cancelled our wedding....

BUT..we may have found another, een better venue!!

Check out the marquee!!!

No...we have had to change the date...need to speak to a registrar first to ensure they have availability for that date!!

Oh my god Fred, cancelled the wedding . But that new place does look so fantastic. Have you enquired about dates? Whereabouts is it? Near to you?

Phono I was almost as at your DP's behaviour as at Fred cancelling the wedding. To sleep in til 1pm is ok if you have no children but not if you do, except in extreme circumstances. I did let my DH have a lie in the other day, until 8:30! Even when we just had DS1 I think the latest either of us would ever get to sleep was 10am and that was kind of with prior agreement from the other party as we both need a lot of sleep. To miss an engagement from oversleeping is just plain rude though. Sorry to badmouth your DP but it's really not on.

Marmite I too was late with jabs as DS1 was ill. It is better to wait a month than get DD jabbed when she is unwell.

Good point about your DH, I keep forgetting that he has also lost a niece and it must be hard for him too. Not that it means he can be unkind to you but would give him a reason for his mood. Think you need to drink some wine and have a chat maybe.

Have been having a crappy day here as am having a rare day when by myself all day with all three DCs and DS1 is being a bit challenging. It started well but went pear shaped. Got to try to get to Early Learning Centre later with all of them as I accidentally promised DS1. Urgh.

Off to catch the end of Neighbours...

Not permanently gone but not here today. She is normally here on any day I have all three with no visitors planned so I am not used to it. Makes me realise what the rest of the year will be like! Thank god for nursery days!

Do your DH's meds make him sleepier? If I took night nurse, for example, at midnight, I would not be able to get out of bed at all until late morning. If I ever used to take it I had to get it in by 8pm to be able to be up for work. Is his similar, in that if he only took it earlier it would be better?