Would you hire a male escort?

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Have you ever considered hiring a male escort...? If you want uncomplicated, no strings attached fun? Surely it's safer than seeking a one night stand in a club or bar somewhere?

Shouldn't this rather grim question belong in the <ahem!> grim area of mn????

Love this!

No I am solvent, slim and reasonably attractive, in the event of DH's demise there are at least 3 single men I know who I would approach for occasional no strings sex.

Christ, no.

I can't imagine anything more tragic.

paying for sex is not consent.

No. You can't buy Consent.

I’d buy a selection of sex toys instead. No need for chit chat.

The thing is.. how do previous posters know that they would find all these men who would have sex with them for free? I'm youngish, not bad looking and have been single for a while, no one has bashed down my door declaring undying lust. I don't think it's as easy as many women who have been in relationships a long time imagine. I don't know any men who I both fancy and would be up for no strings attached sex even if I was after it? Then there's a high likelihood it would be crap or awkward. Meaning maybe escorts are a less time consuming 'reliable' way of meeting needs? I'm undecided about the ethics of it but for some reason I feel a lot more comfortable that they're not being coerced or forced into it like women are.

Ew

Never in a million years! I just don’t view men and sex that way. I like mine cos he’s funny and kind and he puts the bins out and he can drive the kids about. I’m emotionally needy, I’m all about the companionship and camaraderie and all that stuff. I couldn’t exploit a bloke and I don’t crave sex like that.
mice had a couple of accidentally one night stands , but I was pissed and thought I was in love at the time . Ive not been single much though, 3 long term relationships since I was 16 with fairly short gaps. They were all fairly reliable in the bedroom department. Even if that wasn’t the case , paying for it would make me feel very unwanted indeed.

No, I'd get too emotionally attached and I'm not that rich and I think sex workers who work in person and with "agencies" are pretty likely to be being exploited in modern slavery

Question for the ‘you can’t buy consent’ posters: I genuinely don’t understand this. How is shagging for money any less consensual than shagging for free?

I agree. He doesn't "offer services". He just gets to shag as many women as he wants to, and dresses it up by pretending to provide a service. He is just a regular Tinder user.

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@Nellynoowhoareyou

If someone shags for free then they choose to

If someone shags for money because they have no other choice for getting that money then they don't choose to shag, they are forced.

how do previous posters know that they would find all these men who would have sex with them for free?

Spent a year on OLD. If all you want is NSA sex, there's a whole Internet of men available, and if you're just up for a shag, you don't have to spend enough time with them to discover their bad politics/music/habits/etc, you can just go on looks/age/locality. All you need is condoms and a bed. (If you're actually wanting a relationship, it's a whole different matter.)

No

But @dancinginthesky surely there is a large ‘grey area’ in which somebody charges for sex as a choice?

God, if only I was attracted to 1 in 4 people I met on OLD. More like 1 in 400.

I suppose it was never an issue before ? My first love from primary school is single, I am sure he would do it, then there's the bloke I nearly went out with ten years ago, also single and one of his mates I've always wondered about. After that I'd join a running club.

No, sex work is often exploitative and many who do it are vulnerable.

I once went to an all inclusive resort and found out due to having a friend who was related to one of the resort staff that women would hire a male escort (one of the staff) for the duration of their stay. Most of the men needed the money due to poverty and poor pay for their families so they did it.

The same scheme was likely in place for women - I only heard about my friend's relative's experience and he was male.

No. Horrible.
Tinder man has given me the ick

@Nellynoowhoareyou as an example, lots of girls are groomed - they believe they are choosing to have older boyfriends at the time because they are unaware that they don't have the ability to consent

I know that's a totally different topic to sex work, my point is people can often believe that they are "choosing" to do things that actually they are not able to make that choice freely without coercion and pressure

Could be a million reasons why and a million examples, in person sex work is a highly dangerous profession that rarely does someone stay in/choose without being exploited. There may be the odd situation where it can be a genuine consenting choice but I'm struggling to think what that would be - if a person doesn't have the education they need or want to do another profession and does sex work to get the money to - it's exploitation, every reason I go to I can think of why it could be exploitation

For no altruistic reason, it's not like other professions who risk their lives daily such as police or paramedics or fire fighters who do risk lives but have support, debriefing, insurance and death in service benefits etc...sex workers risk their lives meeting in person and risk criminal prosecution too depending on where and how they conduct business

That is the difference 😂

I wouldn’t contribute to a sex trade that routinely traffics young vulnerable people.