Living separately relationships

[crazylady121]

I have a good ,solid relationship but due to circumstances we cannot live together.I spend at least 4 days at my partner's place per week.Do any of you have similar circumstances and how do you make it work.Both families get on but just can't make that commitment.We've been together two years.

Thank you all.Can't deny I am upset but I know I'll be ok.Lots of people around me to get me through.Just disappointed as I have given my 100% .

I can imagine. Of course you are upset. But if 100% wasn't good enough for him just because you wouldn't give in to whatever he demanded, then good riddance!!

You should be really proud of yourself for sticking to your boundaries and not giving in to his blatant emotional manipulation, OP.

Thank you for your kind messages.

How are you doing today @crazylady121 ? I hope you have managed to get out in some sunshine to lift your spirits a little at least.

I'm alright.Catching up on chores that I haven't had time to do.Always a positive in a negative.....I'll have more time on my hands.Friends have been checking in on me too.Have a lot of good people around me.Thank you for asking😊

Ahhh that's good. Friends are the rocks you need at times like this.

We now have separate houses having been married for 25 years - I asked him to leave 3 years ago (several reasons, plus bereavement) After a few "fractious" months, where a lot of the issues were sorted, DH has been trying to come back, but I'm too risk-averse after two decades of "stuff" that wasn't right (not all his fault, but mostly...)

We do almost everything together - holidays/looking after DGC's/sleeping etc - but i'm just keeping "some" distance for now.

I'm not good at "letting things go" (there were some terrible "things" imo) & neither is he - but mostly, we rub along ok/we support each other emotionally & practically & the relationship has become much more "fulfilling" (albeit still a few hiccups)

I feel so much pressure has been lifted off me.Am quite enjoying just getting on with things and time is my own,not watching clock because I have to go live my 2nd life.I sacrificed so much to be with him ,now I realise how much of my energy he was stealing.Love myself now.Been decorating to Miley Cyrus 'Flowers'.😊