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would you do this?

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nappyaddict · 04/02/2008 11:34

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

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ChristmasShinySnowflakes · 05/02/2008 20:36

That's really appalling and very unlike the areas I work in where anybody is welcome regardless of where they live. If there isn't a children's centre near you for EG, then you would be welcome to access any services at the closest one to you.

LadyOfWaffle · 05/02/2008 20:36

You could do caring (in an old peoples home, my sister did that at Uni), that's quite well paid at night or supermarket? Maybe something your mum could drop you to after she gets in? Or work in a club, but I guess that would start 8/9 ish.

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 20:41

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nutcracker · 05/02/2008 20:42

I thought NA couldn't work nights cos of childcare ?

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 20:42

mum doesn't drive but not sure how i will manage getting up at 6 if i have a night job.

the only thing is sometimes i do less than 16 hours, sometimes more so not sure how income support/WTC would work. i am guessing they won't keep swapping it around each week.

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Quattrocento · 05/02/2008 20:44

Does no-one feel an obligation to work? Is it a simple calculation of "What do I get on benefits?" versus "What would I get paid and I have to balance this against how jolly inconvenient working would be"

God I think I'm going to vote Tory, really I am. You've driven me to it.

nutcracker · 05/02/2008 20:46

Would you work if it meant you were worse off Quattro ???

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 20:47

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mumzyof2 · 05/02/2008 20:50

Oh, and regards to your ds not being able to walk, so he cant climb out of his cot - my ds climbed out of his cot before he could walk. The sides on the cot were high too. It scared the life out of me, and my only explanation is that he must have stood on a teddy in his cot - but I bet theres no teddies in his cot, are there? seeing as you have always have a reason why it is a good idea.
Also, have you wondered why it is illegal? It is illegal for a reason - not just to annoy people!
If somebody told SS, you would be in a lot of trouble, but not HALF as much trouble as you would be in if something happened to your ds.

themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 20:52

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minorityrules · 05/02/2008 20:56

I think this all about playing the system and is fraud

You get a reduction on Council tax for being a single adult (25% off) If Nappy is living in the house, there would be no reduction. Sounds like they haven't declared her

All these jobs, are they cash in hand? This would be why there isn't any childcare help

Seems to be a lot of excuses

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 20:58

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nutcracker · 05/02/2008 20:59

Dependants are taken into account when assessing council tax benefit, so her mum claiming as if she were na's ds's parent would mean she got a tiny amount more in council tax benefit, but as I pointed out further down, the amount is very small.

ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 21:00

Unfortunatly Quattro when you are struggling in life to make ends meet you are going to take what will pay you that little bit more, it is the world we live in do you really think people would rather not work? i know some would but not all, sometimes it's a matter of the "have's" & money is one of them in this day & age & with the way the world is going today.

Sad but true!

nutcracker · 05/02/2008 21:01

I would rather work too, but if working doesn't make you any better off, and you are already struggling to buy food, pay bills etc, then where is the choice ???

LadyOfWaffle · 05/02/2008 21:01

Can you work from home - typing or ironing? Working one night full time would probably be a weeks wages of bar work. Does your mum work week ends? Could you sort out working one night at the weekend/one full day?

dippydeedoo · 05/02/2008 21:01

this post has become increasingly confusing .....what no-one has said yet is already NA is commiting fraud her mother is claiming benefits as if she is the only adult because apparently this is was cab advisedand NA has been working without declaring it -if you are in receipt of benefits as her mother is,then you cannot have undeclared monies coming in- all these football classes and gym classes really get my goat there are people in society who work who pay for childcare who dont get any of the financial help she and her mum are getting who simply cant afford these activities-yet these are the only things that keep NA sane?? what keeps me sane is knowing my children live in a secure happy home,there is food in my cupboards and money in my purse and for me to have these 'privileges' my husband works very hard.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:02

mumzy we have sort of moved on from that now. no he doesn't have a teddy in his cot. he has a muslin as his comforter.

quattro - i do want to work. i will go mad if i don't. it is better for my son if i work cos i am as a person am happier that way. that is why i really don't want to go on income support. i personally wouldn't be better off on income support i don't think anyway. i don't think there's much in it but i'm sure i'm better off working.

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ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 21:02

Hmm i think though the circumstances that nappy is on about were put in place for when she was at uni & her may have been sole carer of her ds, so i agree that what you are doing now is wrong because you are not at uni now & are lving with your ds so you should now be his sole carer & you should be claiming the benefits you are entitled to as his parent not your mum.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:02

who said i hadn't been declaring my working?

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themildmanneredjanitor · 05/02/2008 21:02

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dippydeedoo · 05/02/2008 21:03

the above was x posted with 'minority ules

nutcracker · 05/02/2008 21:03

Did NA say she doesn't declare her wages ? I didn't see that.

dippydeedoo · 05/02/2008 21:04

If youd been declaring your working you would have had access to the support from the jobcentre......

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 21:05

the reduction is a single parent reduction.

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