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First Holy Communion dresses - aka little girls pretending to be brides - can I have your opinions please?

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2sugars · 01/02/2008 06:16

www.firstholycommunionday.co.uk/communiondresses/4517179846

Anna, April or Beatrix ((boak at names of dresses))

I really like April, but my mum thinks it's too grown up and looks like a ballgown. I think that's why I like it.

Any thoughts?

TIA

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Tommy · 01/02/2008 10:02

you can start a thread on anything you like, 2sugars and I can post comments on them - that's what MN is all about.

I do keep my bugbear in check in RL so I think I should be allowed to let it out when I am anonymous

MaryAnnSingleton · 01/02/2008 10:04

my mum made my dress, it was sooo pretty, just white with a satin sash and I had daisies in my hair,white gloves and pristine white shoes...loved it !
The dresses on the website look very grown up though - don't think it's appropriate..they should be short and simple.

Unfitmother · 01/02/2008 10:09

I think they are all ridiculous!
I was horrified when ds received his FHC to see the way some of the girls were tarted up, (usually the ones you never saw at mass again). They spent the service fiddling with their dresses, bags, veils etc.

Quite agree that little girls should be made to feel special, DD,(who is a real girly princess) makes hers next yaer and I will make her feel special but I won't be dressing her up like the fairy on the Christmas Tree in order to do it as I know that will distract from what the sacrament is all about.

seeker · 01/02/2008 10:10

Tommy, feed you bugbear (he's obviously hungry) by looking at the boys outfits I commend Sebastian particularly to your attention!

goingfor3 · 01/02/2008 10:15

Jonh lewis have some dresses that could be used and they are really pretty.

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2sugars · 01/02/2008 10:20

And if, Tommy, you were unfortunate enough - as your post suggests,to have a girl - and have to buy one, you would get yours from where?

Thanks gf3. My mum says they have some in JL, but they don't have any on their website and the nearest shop is in London.

Unfitmother, in what way is the dress I suggested anything like the fairy on the Christmas tree?

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notjustmom · 01/02/2008 10:23

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Tommy · 01/02/2008 10:34

lol seeker - thanks . Hmmm I can just imagine DS3 in that

2sugars, in a hypothetical world where I had a daughter, I have no idea where I would buy a dress for her First Communion, as it really has never entered my head (it being full of other, more important stuff obviously)

I don't understand why you are so cross about someone, who you don't even know, not liking your choice of dress

MrsMattie · 01/02/2008 10:37

All completely OTT imo.

Unfitmother · 01/02/2008 10:48

2sugars, seeing as you asked - The dress you asked for an opinion on looks like the fairy on the christmas tree as it looks very similar to the dress on the christmas tree fairy from my childhood. Though on reflection, I don't think that was quite so ostentasious.

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2sugars · 01/02/2008 10:52

No, Tommy, it was your implication that our religion is secondary to the dress. I frankly don't give a beggar's cuss now about what you think about it, but I do take exception to your questioning of my beliefs. In any case, what you appear to be saying is a gross generalisation.

And as for the handbag, satin shoes, headress - she's having none of that, so where on earth did that come from?

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Nemoandthefishes · 01/02/2008 10:54

cgi.ebay.co.uk/Beautiful-Embroidered-First-Holy-Communion-Dress-BNWT_W0QQitemZ320213690737QQi hZ011QQcategoryZ131443QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

mine was something like this AFAIK remember

Tommy · 01/02/2008 10:57

I didn't question your religious beliefs 2sugars - I was talking generally and from my own experience as I pointed out.

You have, however, told us that you are already thinking about a dress (for an 8 year old which costs over £100 ) which she needs to wear in 6 months time - which suggests, to me at least, that the dress is obviously an extremely important part of the day.

I can honestly say that 6 months before my children's first communion, I will not be worrying about what they are going to wear.

hermionegrangerat34 · 01/02/2008 11:05

My ds took communion for the first time last year with some other boys and girls from Sunday school who'd all been prepared together. They wore teh same random trousers/tops/jumpers/shoes that they would have been hustled into at 5 to 10 on any other Sunday morning.
I don't dress up specially for communion (except when I'm presiding lol!), so why should they? I do think that expecting girls to wear £100 ballgowns is ridiculous. And I feel very sorry for any girl whose parents can't afford that and so feels left out because others have chosen to feed this commercialism; and for any parents who feel socially pressured into going into debt over it (just as I think weddings are OTT and no-one should go into debt for a dress and a party).

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2sugars · 01/02/2008 11:21

So, are all Communion dresses hideous then, by virtue of them being white and fitting an 8 year old? My mum made dd1's two years ago - we'd left it till the beginning of May and there were only merigues left. In fact, that particular website says as much.

You are making invalid assumptions. Yes, the dress is £100, but I am quite sure if I looked hard enough I would find some that are more than double that. So what? That makes me less of a RC than you, in your eyes, does it?

And no, you wouldn't be looking 6 months in advance, because you have boys, whom I image are a lot easier to dress appropriately. I am talking about a girl who hasn't worn a dress or skirt since she was three.

After you last post, I am still more uncertain as to whether your problem is with where my religion comes into the pecking order, or the dress. Yes, it's £100. So what - I didn't ask you for your opinions on that.

Would it make a difference if it was £15 and I was ordering it the week before? Would that have any difference to how you perceive the religious importance I place on the event? I hope not.

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Unfitmother · 01/02/2008 11:22

notjustmom - Presumably, (unless you belong to some obscure cult ) you got married as an adult, not an 8yr old child. That is the difference between wedding and FHC dresses.

Totally agree with hermionie above.

Tommy · 01/02/2008 11:26

chill out 2sugars!

Smithagain · 01/02/2008 11:28

Am pretty sure that when Jesus said "do this in remembrance of me" he didn't have white ballgowns in mind. But maybe that's why I'm a Methodist, not a Catholic!

Of the ones you asked about, Anna looks most like a little girl's dress. So that's the one I'd go for.

MaryAnnSingleton · 01/02/2008 11:32

why not get a pretty white dress from Monsoon, which could be worn again afterwards ? much nicer for a little girl to look like a little girl and not a pseudo bride. Will attach a pic of me on my communion day if I can find it...

mosschops30 · 01/02/2008 11:36

i bought dd's off a woman who runs an ebay shop. It was considerably cheaper than these type of websites, was beautifully made and was great service. Will try and find link

mosschops30 · 01/02/2008 11:41

here if youre interested.

Think I paid about £45 for dd's and was lovely

MrsBadger · 01/02/2008 11:55

Just Dresses]] has some nice things - I like this one

(in my heart of hearts I think this is nicer though)

marialuisa · 01/02/2008 12:06

Which does your DD like?

juuule · 01/02/2008 13:12

Some lovely ones on Debenhams website. It's the bridesmaids section.
There's one reduced to £22 on last page, I think.

Ubergeekian · 01/02/2008 13:19

2sugars: "Why on earth shouldn't they look/feel special on their special day?"

If they need a tacky dress to "feel good" the first time they take communion then all those classes have been rather a waste of time, haven't they?

In some parts of the West of Scotland wee girls have started arriving at their first communion in open horse-drawn carriages with page boys in attendance. It goes without saying, of course, that these are not the more affluent parts of the West of Scotland...

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