Has anyone noticed the bulling going on here?

[pinatainoaxaca]

It seems there are some people who don't have anything better to do. There is some nasty bullying on this site, by a certain group of individuals. They stick together like glue and make idiotic and rude remarks. I am disgusted by these people and quite frankly, have had enough.

They must have so very big issures if they can insult people like they do and not realise that its hurtful and very respectful to others.

Speaking of bullying tmmj - any suggestions for how I explain to DH that I have bought this for DS on the say so of my "imaginary friends??!!

ffs

He's gullible tmmj (he married me after all!) but not that gullible!!!)

That might work!

(Actually DS won't get it on Xmas Day - too big to carry back from Ireland via UK so we will leave it here for him)

I will fess up. He'll be fine. Will just raise his eyebrows in a quizzical fashion and sigh.

Right am off to make a cake for the Xmas Bazaar tomorrow and sort out my washing.

psh jumper shopping sounds good. As does "paying attention to my dh !!!! Enjoy!

Hi,

I posted a thread about the divide about newbies and regulars recently - although I have been on here for about 7 months now - I could see a "divide" and my thread encouraged a few MN to take the slight p which made me quite cross but after having a good think and reflect about it I now understand you need a thick skin and accept the fact there are going to be all sorts of characters replying on your thread, some nice, some ok and some quite blunt, but then this is what it is like in real life.

I now post a lot more on all of the threads on here rather than sticking to just a couple and I am prepared to get my opinions challenged and/or praised - don't take it to heart.... I did a little but it isn't worth it and now I just shrug my shoulders and move on to the the next thread!

i always think people who go on about bullying on mn have never experienced it in rl. to call a few people taking the piss and disagreeing with you bulling is tragic.
I once had a thread that went terribly wrong. but not once did I consider it bullying. it was just a disagreement. unpleasant for people concerned but never bulling.
if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen.

Maybe bullying wasn't the right word but yes, there's unnecessary nastiness on here. It comes and goes but we get so many threads like this one that I think there must be some truth in it. MN is not all sweetness and light. All you can do is avoid certain topics/withdraw from threads when they're going bad or steer away from certain posters. I think it just takes a bit of time to get a feeling for the place.

3missy
I think we all go through this to begin with.

You discover MN and find it fun and interesting and then you take the plunge and post a couple of times. Often you are ignored. Not because noone likes a newbie, just because some posters are more well known and are more likely to be commented on.

After a while, you get your first flaming. You take it to heart and decide to stay away from MN for a while.

You drift back, lurking for a while.

You start posting again. After a while you don't care if anyone answers you all the time and you take any rough comments with a pinch of salt.

MN can be fun, it can be helpful, it is often heartwarming, sad and sometimes downright hysterical. (read the cube of poo story last night for the first time and had tears running down my face)

Bulling is when cows are in season and in need of a bull for marital purposes. I really wouldn't like to express an opinion as to whether that could refer to anyone on here...oh no!

I agree... I wouldn't say bullying goes on here (although I haven't viewed all the threads!) but we all have different personalities, views and opinions so likewise, withdraw from threads and try to forget about it.

One of the things I like about mumsnet is that you are likely to get a more robust reply to some questions than you would in real life. But it does take adjusting to.

I posted a thread asking for opinions on an action I had taken with my son, and a couple of people said quite frankly (not at all rudely or unhelpfully) that they thought I had acted wrongly.

For a few moments I felt attacked. But then I realised that it was terrific to get an honest assessment. My real-life social circle is so bloodless that people will always politely endorse you and you can never ask for genuine criticism.

The critical answers on my thread were extremely helpful. The danger lay in my initial (unfounded) defensiveness. When people post in that defensive state (feeling attacked by what is in fact constructive criticism), that is when things can start to get prickly.

Totally agree Drspeck.... Feel I have had my "breaking in" thread and now ready for the the rest of what MN has to offer! lol!

I think that there comes a problem when people post in an emotional state because they have a rl problem. Others reply with advice to the problem but disregard the emotional state of the OP. And therein lies upset and general awfulness.

Hmm, just been adressed as DrSpeck for the first time since choosing my Muppet name. Maybe should have thought that one out more carefully.

DrSpeck means DrFlab in German.

Back to weightwatchers soon

Oh dear sorry about that but was to lazy to address your full name! lol!