Has anyone noticed the bulling going on here?

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It seems there are some people who don't have anything better to do. There is some nasty bullying on this site, by a certain group of individuals. They stick together like glue and make idiotic and rude remarks. I am disgusted by these people and quite frankly, have had enough.

They must have so very big issures if they can insult people like they do and not realise that its hurtful and very respectful to others.

well i have noticed differing opinions and some nastyiness and name calling but i wouldn't stretch to calling it bullying.

No, it really is bulling. As I just said, cows jumping on each other. As I didn't say before , because they are sexually frustrated ,.

the apopropriate threads..well im afraid i post on any old threads...lol

I've never noticed any bullying and I've been here yonks.

If bullying is to mean squashing or disrespecting people's opinions then, yes, that does happen and it isn't pretty when it happens en masse. Someone has mentioned that it is like RL in this respect, that is true, but not necessarily good.

Zippi - I mean, if you want lighthearted, that's great, but obviously respect where you are posting, not all issues on MN are lighthearted and some people really pour their heart out here. Which of course is to the credit of the site.

lol at emsmum

yes santasmissyontheside - all well this end now, decided to take the rough with the smooth and enjoy the rest of MN and it's banter.

I think there is only very very occasionally any bullying.
There are strident opinions all over the place, though, which isn't the same thing. IMO most people (there are a couple of exceptions) are delighted to have strident posts challenged equally stridently if it's a proper debate.
Over the past couple of years there has been a lot more 'if you don't like my opinion you can just fuck off, it's my opinion and I'm entitled to it', which isn't bullying, but it really just boring and unintelligent.

Yes - yawn at "I'm entitled to my opinion"... really unhelpful. MN has so much diversity to offer beyond RL for most people, it's got to be good on balance.

I have been told that if someone feels bullied, you are bullying them.

Which I don't agree with. I have a responsibility (which I don't always live up to) to maintain reasonable and civil behavior - I don't have a responsibility to avoid upsetting someone at all costs. Some people are so easily upset that a mere 'Good morning' with the wrontg tone or with the wrong face on is an insult.

3missyshohoho Glad to hear it! its a whole new world of madness!! lol

I don't think that bullying is really possible on an internet board, but sometimes people are just plain nasty which is a pity. On other occassionas things get a little out of hand (I was a participant in a Vaunda thread once, which although fun at the time was later said to be rather mean) and it is always worth reflecting on your behaviour if it really upsets someone else. I know someone who has been accused of bullying by several of their subordinates, and I do think it's a lack of insite that this person will not even think maybe they are doing something wrong. Certainly when I was in that position it made me think long and hard about how I came across. However on the whole I think that Mumsnet is more supportive than denigrating (after all most of us come back again and again!)

I've seen some atrocious bullying - but it's actually very rare. It's only happened on emotive topics, where people feel an entitlement to their belief and their belief is RIGHT. When you get a few people behaving like that, ganging up, then it is clearly bullying.

Mumsnet are good about things like that though. Where there are personal attacks, they delete the comments, and also the thread. You have to report them though.

I haven't read the thread in its entirety.

But Colditz is quite right. Some people have an infinite capacity for taking offence. I don't mind if they take offence on a personal matter.

But 9/10, they're taking offence on behalf of someone they don't even know.

That's very dull.

sorry but have the people who talk about bulling on mn ever been bullied in rl or watched their child go through. I can't believe people can compare what goes on here to that

I'm bullied regularly.

Mainly by Desi.

Tnog - you're back again - how you doing?

He he he!

Ahem.

It's interesting, the idea of what bullying is.
I know someone in RL who was a terrible bully - the worst kind, he isolated people, made them beholden to him, then abused them into believing that they didn't come up to the standards he had expected of them. Only when some other shit hit the fan did they all talk to each other and realise what he was doing, complained, and there was an official enquiry.
He was genuinely shocked - and I believe him that it was a revelation for him that his behaviour was seen as bullying.
He thought he was a strong leader and ended up feeling that he was bullied into leaving the job (er, no).
But is it bullying if you don't mean it to be?

2Shoes .. to be serious for a moment, I would agree with you.

I've a very feisty three year old with a very silly surname. He's going to have to be very tough to get through school.

This has 145 posts, I can't read them all, who is being accused of bullying exactly? Has the OP named names or is it just the usual low level non specific whinging?

one persons teasing and stuff is someone else's being bullied i guess...if u r popular confident and feel liked then u respond differently..from someone who is feeling lonely sad and unloved

IMO if what you read on an internet forum starts to affect you personally then it is time to walk away.

And we all have the ability to walk away.

WWW no names just the usual debate

and as the op hasn't returned one can only assume she's felt bullied into not doing so