my DHs friends baby has just died:(

[mieow]

He has shot out the door, and left me here, I don't know what to do!! I didn't know the little boy but am very shaken by this

Oh Mieow, what awful, awful news. The poor woman on top of everything else she is dealing with. And what a shock for you and dh too.

I have supported my friend through this 3 year ago, and thought that once was enough, hopefully we will never have to deal with another babies death, twice is quite enough.
Dh came home and hugged our kids tight, he said it really made him think about what he had

I am quite hardened to death now, as have had a lot of adult deaths in the last 5 years, but still can't believe a tiny baby could die like that.......

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we are fine thanks, I think Dh is feeling it more, seen him cuddling our kids tight and looking at them with such love... then he will go into his own little world for a while....
MIL is getting to him too, as BIL also knew the girl in question, so I phoned them yesterday to tell him that he had died, she has only met the girl once, she then started crying straight away, and said she should go round to the grandmothers house, I said she shouldn't as she would be in the way, and she doesn't know them that well. and she then started saying that she knew all the youngests round there, and that she really should, she said "I have to go" and I said "don't go there!!" and she shouted at me "I'M NOT GOING TO" and then phoned up DH on his mobile saying that I had had a go at her, DH was being questioned by the police at this time, had the grandmother and boyfriend crying on his shoulders, and din't need her having a go at her. I was just thinking about the Grandmother and BF when I told her not to go there, as I felt she didn't know them that well......
MIl has been on the phone this morning as well, I think I will be in her bad books for ages now

glad to see you are ok today mieow. It was on my mind all through the night. People always act differently and sometimes irrationally when grief is involved as you probably well know. I think you were right to say for her not to go there but when you get news like that your first instinct is to help. Your DH sounds like one in a million.

DH said I did the right thing, HIs mother is an attention-seeking woman, and she has only met X and her kids briefly once, so had no right to be there, same for me.

Dh has also said to the grandmother that we will look after the three boys when the furnel comes, I have never met these boys but my girls have so they should get on well.

I bet that offer will mean the world to them - it's going to be such a hard day anyway, will be good for them to know they'll be looked after by such good friends

just a shame I didn't get to know the baby before, DH and her were saying that she must come and meet me and let the kids play together soon

just last week

meiow,

I've just caught up with this thread. I'm sooo sorry

It sounds like the family is very lucky to have you and your DH there for support. Hugs to you!

Dh has just phoned up the grandmother and the kids have been taken into care, He thinks that her ex has said something as yesterday he was blaming her

Oh mieow thats not good. Those poor kids - as if losing their brother isnt enough.

why have they taken the other children into care mieow?

No idea, that poor girl!

the reason for death was natural causes, cot death,

Mieow, I'm desperately sorry to hear of what has happened. So sorry for the poor baby boy, his mum and those poor children. My thoughts are with them, you and your DH and his friend. I can't begin to imagine what you are each going through.
xx

I met the young girl today, she is so lovely, and coping ok, the furnel is next week. I had to drop her off at the family centre so she could see her kids, as her bf and DH were too engrossed in the PS2!! She is fighting to get her kids back as SS haven't told her why they took them and the baby died of natural causes.