yes, ds was in a state that week we did the door shut, but he aint' gonna cross that boundary, our bed is our bed, plllllllesae!
i think whatever you do, be consistent, firm, the important is not to shout, speak with a voice that you are serious and she will stop. ds is a stubborn little thing and he finally got the picture, and he truly blossomed and started loving his independence, to be in his room alone, etc. ididn't feel a bit of guilt, was exhausted by the screaming, as long as you show her lots of interest, and love, blah blah during the day, it is ok. It might be stressfull for her if you keep changing your strategy, sit down with her and explain what you will do and tell her you love her. The thing is if kids sleep badly they are in a bad mood, more tantrumy, they get on your nerves more, they behave even worse because they can feel you are fed up with the crap behaviour and then it turns into a vicious circle.