Single parents how do you or did you get a place to live for you and your child

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Just interested to find out how people done it. It might just be myself and son living together, we are currently staying at my parents having been evicted, nothing bad just for overcrowding, yes that's right. Me and sons Dad were in a house share, we had our son whilst there, and did not manage to secure suitable accommodation before time ran out, I had been to the council for assistance and they had originally said they couldn't help until we were evicted, but in the interim they made me a final offer, it is 3 hrs away from where I have always lived and for one reason another a few others, I had to turn it down, as I only got 3 and a half days to decide. My sons father also did not want to move there, and as he is on a visa here and exempt from other things, I think he had every right to tell the council to get lost, the way I saw it was they do not have a right to tell you where to live when you are exempt from other help. Anyway the eviction went ahead, it was private by the way. My parents took us in but not my sons father, not disputing that at all, just mentioning, so he had to go and rent a room near by. For one reason and another we might continue on as we are, i.e me and son, but need to find somewhere to live, not expecting things on a plate, but as you all know it is hard, if I work all week I will spend my salary on childcare, a friend said other women manage it, and have a one bed fat etc for example, but how? Unless you are in a very well paid job, a months salary would be gone on just the rent for a one bed flat in London, and there would be no money after childcare, as it's about £350 a week here. So how do others pay that, then their rent bills food, and other costs, it doesn't Dads up?! Thank you all in advance!

Sorry for wrong spelling the phone changed certain words to what it preferred 😂

So you expect the taxpayer to front you a flat in London because you had a child knowing you can't support it? Dream on! There are people whose homes burned in Grenfell who are still in temp accommodation. You and your child's father need to step up and provide for your child.

You move to a much cheaper area, so you can afford to live.
I moved from London to Sheffield to afford a home.

Are you in a relationship with the father? Does he work?

How much is the feather contributing. If you can not afford to live in your area you will need to move.
You come across as quite confrontational. I'd relax a bit. Look at the disruption in hand.
What is best for your child? What are the living arrangements like in your parents? Research cheaper areas. How much is child care in these areas. What are your job prospects and potential career path.

You had a child knowing you didn’t have a suitable place for it to live.
You think you can just pick and choose where the council offer you houses?

You’re on cloud cuckoo and people like you are a big problem in society.

You and your partner turned down the offer from the council and you felt he was entitled to tell them to get lost. So now you are left to your own resources. Why not stay living with your parents until your future is more stable?

I became a single mum when my kids were 3 and 6. No financial support from ex-husband at all. Worked ft and privately rented a tiny (damp) two-bed for five years. All slept in one bed for six months until could afford a bunk bed and turned down the heating. We got by. Just.

If you worked you would get universal credit to top up your single person salary and allow you to rent somewhere. That’s how single parents find somewhere to live.

However; it doesn’t sound like you are a single parent. Why can’t you and your partner private rent somewhere?

@Fruitcakeofhate Sorry which part of my post did I say that I expected the taxpayers to pay out for me? I have been one since I left school thanks, I find that very rude. Why do you think all those who live in or are in Council accommodation wanted it, aside from other reasons, is because the rent is cheap! No one is paying anything for me, so don't you dare talk to me like that. I lived in a privately rented house share, I had been registered with the council for many years, just like most who put their name down on the list, I was told to go back to them when I had my son, I tried exhaustively to get accommodation here, when people say they had to move out of London or up North for cheaper accommodation, did you move all that way for a rented flat?
That means the thousands in just this borough who are in emergency accommodation aren't taking account for their own children then, or those in temporary accommodation either. As they are all in one room too, where do you think they came from that they ended up where they are?!
When I went to the council on the day of the eviction there was a Turkish couple who drop their kids off at school every day and go to the council office to try to nag them to give them a house for them and their 3 kids which they want to be given in this borough, neither work so are on full benefits, meaning that the emergency accommodation they are in which costs a fortune anyway to the state, their rent etc is being paid by the taxpayers too. And I am merely asking how others juggle it all, to get some ideas, I have no issue with working full time, as I always have, but just because my weekly salary would go on childcare, meaning nothing left for anything else, that somehow makes me a ponce?! Please explain

TheWinterCaillech My partner did not tell them to get lost himself, I am the main applicant. If you knew the area I would not bring a rat up there. They done it to get me out of the borough.

CFlemingSmith How many people have a child and have to move, tons, I have read just as many posts about similar subjects on here. Or people asking about council. A room in a house share is not unusual these days, and many in temporary accommodation live in a room, does that mean you are condemning all of them too, as they are in emergency or temporary as they went to the council to assist them instead of finding their own place. Excluding Grenfell which was awful, but raises its own questions. It seems many are not bothered about all those who are having most of their lives paid for by benefits. If I told you how many women from my partners country come over here claim single asylum so as not to get the partner in trouble, who is already illegal, they have kids all for free in hospitals here, then get housing or find a private place and benefits pay it for them, you would not believe it.
My partner works yes, he is not, not providing at all, but there have been financial difficulties, and he had to get a room as he needed somewhere to live, and no point in staying in hotels until we found somewhere as it costs a fortune. He could not stay with us, and so as a matter of it being an emergency he had to find somewhere. It means he is paying out rent but wherever you live you will pay that, and it's a means to an end until something can be sorted out.

If the area is three hours away from where you have always lived, how well do you know it?
No, I moved to buy a house with a monthly mortgage that was over £100 pounds less than my flat rental in London.
Stay with your parents.

Stop focusing on other hypothetical people and focus on your own problems.

Where to start - you sound incredibly entitled op.

You are frothing about immigrants exploiting the system whilst asking for government support and council help having been knocked up by one?

Can you both work opposite shifts as such so while one is working the other is looking after the child?

but just because my weekly salary would go on childcare, meaning nothing left for anything else

But if he moves in and is working then you'll have his salary.

They done it to get me out of the borough.

They did it because they don't have anything else to offer. Stop focusing on others and People from your child's father's country, they're nothing to do with you. You come across as very entitled. You juggle it by working FT, staying with your folks, then paying for a place to live or you move to where you can afford to live. That's how it works.

Have you posted about this before?

Im a single parent. I was lucky enough to find a private rent where the landlady would accept housing benefit.

I'm working now but still need UC to top me up.

TheWinterCaillech Do you mean where we live now, or the area that the offer was made in?

I am not frothing about immigrants ha ha, I asked for a bit of assistance and it's a hanging offence, but all of that is really going on, yes I asked for help, they don't the ones I am referring to, what they are doing is fraud, as they are lying that they are a single parent, and claiming false rights to be here, and to obtain money by, and all the while enjoying their partner's wages which are tax free as the partners have no right to be in the UK.
Knocked up? I find that a little rude and arrogant, My partner has a visa to be here and pays tax, and we were in a long relationship before I was 'knocked up'

Fruitcakeofhate It was private and not their flat 😂 they didn't give anything away, it was not for free.

PorpentinaScamander No not that I remember this is the first proper time.

Okay sounds good, yes but I have been told there are single parents who are doing it all claiming nothing and so it is my fault if I can't do that. There is no way, without a very good salary, that there is a single parent working full time whose salary per week is the same as the childcare fees, who pays for that, their rent, their bills and everything else all from one salary and no benefits, it's impossible!

Christ, confrontational much. In fact I would go as far as saying to are bordering on being incredibly prejudiced about those from other countries; you seem to have a big issue with other nationalities.
The council aren’t just trying to get you out of the borough, what a downright ridiculous view to take.
It’s really quite simple, you either stay with your parents or go where the council choose. Until your income is sufficient to be picky, you can’t be

Well, please let us know when you find the support, cash and accommodation you and your partner are hoping for, because there must be thousands of other couples that could benefit from the same help.
Although with the current Tory majority, I can only see the situation for impoverished single parents, immigrants and those who rely on landlords accepting benefits getting tougher.