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If your Godchild is a twin...

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 14:52

Do you give presents to both of them? My close friend recently asked me to be Godmother to one of her twins. When they were born I gave to both, at the christening I gave to both, but now with Christmas approaching and shortly after their 1st birthday, what do i do?

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AhoyMrBeaver · 23/12/2019 14:56

A small gift for each of them would be kind. Presumably you have a relationship with both of them ie you only ever see them together.

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 15:05

Thanks for your reply ahoymrbeaver yeah I always see them together and that probably is the easiest option.. so 2 equal priced gifts? Grin my next dilema

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GreenTulips · 23/12/2019 15:06

I’m a godparent to one nephew
He’s treated the same as the others

Why wouldn’t you?

GetUpAgain · 23/12/2019 15:07

What does the other twins godparent do? Because if you give to both and they only give to 'theirs', this means 'yours' ends up missing out kind of...

jelly79 · 23/12/2019 15:08

I'm a godparent to one twin and treat them both equally! Same as my nieces and I'm god mother to one of them :)

TheNamesBond · 23/12/2019 15:12

Has the other twin got no godparents at all then?

Contact them and make an arrangement.

No need to double up presents. They’re twins, not clones.

Just buy your godchild a present and let the other godparents look after their godchild too. It’s a bit insulting to assume they’ll drop the ball and you have to buy for both.

Maybe arrange some activity type presents with other godparent, so they can go together, and collaborate every year so meaningful presents are given to both.

Don’t buy for the other twin- they have their own godparent who will.

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 15:12

why wouldn't you? because only one of them is my godchild.... neither of them are my nephews. It's my friend's kids. They also have a sister- what do i do about her? Most of my friends have kids now, so I'm just not sure how to afford it all.

Getupagain I'm not sure what the other Godparent does, I don't really know her

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Dauphinois · 23/12/2019 15:13

I've got twins and their own godparents buy for them and only them.

What would you do if they were normal siblings, not twins?

GreenTulips · 23/12/2019 15:14

Then buy a family gift of a game or tin of sweets, you can’t leave the sister out.

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 15:15

Thenamesbond yes this was part of my reasoning, except I've only met the other godparent a couple of times and she lives in a different country. Anyway, it's no big deal. I just don't want to either make one feel left out, or insinuate as you said that the other mightn't get anything (hadn't even thought of that)

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 23/12/2019 15:17

We teach our godchildren and their siblings the same- their parents are also one of our children's god children and they do the same. Al the kids call us Auntie and Uncle. The eldest is currently 7 so this may change in later years of course.

VanyaHargreeves · 23/12/2019 15:17

My godchild is not a twin has a older sibling and they both receive the exact same. I wouldn't dream of doing otherwise. Confused

RachelEllenR · 23/12/2019 15:18

I'd just buy for one. I have three godchildren - one is a niece and is treated the same as the others, one is a cousin's child (and twin) and I only buy for her - and the other is a friend's child and I only buy for him and not his siblings.

My children's godparents (mainly cousins and friends) just buy for one child and not the other, would get out of control otherwise!

OceanSunFish · 23/12/2019 15:20

Assuming the other twin has their own godparents, I'd only buy for my own godchild. I'm not a godmother to a twin, but my godchildren do have siblings and I'm not sure why that's different?

Maybe check with the parents if you're unsure.

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 15:29

Thanks everyone. So it seems for most people if the godchild is your niece/nephew then you'd treat them the same which is fair enough and obviously I do this anyway with all my nieces and nephews.
And in my case, as my godchild is my friend's kid (as opposed to a niece/nephew), they wouldn't expect me to buy for the twin as well, and also their older sister... because otherwise where would it end with all my close friends and all their kids.

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Dollymixture22 · 23/12/2019 15:39

It seems odd that you godparent to a child who you wouldn’t otherwise buy a birthday of Christmas present for.

Being a godparent is fairly meaningless - it’s really just about one day. I don’t think I could buy a gift for one child in a house and ignore two more.

I think you should buy for all three, it doesn’t mean you have to buy for every child in your wonder friendship circle.

Muddypup · 23/12/2019 15:47

I’m a twin and my Godmother bought presents for me and my brother as she’s our Aunty. My brother’s Godmother only bought for him. It always hurt my feelings a bit and as a small child the “but she’s not your Godmother” reasoning didn’t mean much to me. She was a family friend. Why did she not also want to buy me a present? (I do understand why now of course)!
I’d say buy for them both.

HildaSnibbs · 23/12/2019 16:26

I acquired my first godchild last year - having never had a godparent myself I'm winging it, but I only buy presents for her, not her brother. I know he also has godparents so assume they buy just for him (All are family friends, not relatives).

HildaSnibbs · 23/12/2019 16:30

Oops! Mine isn't a twin - not sure how I missed that in the OP Grin

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WhatchaTalkinBoutWilis · 23/12/2019 17:11

muddypup aww ok I'd never want to do that to a little child... you have me convincedSmile.

The day we meet up there'll be a few of us there plus all their kids (my 'wonder' circle as dollymixture put itConfused), so I guess I'll just buy for all of them.

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Dollymixture22 · 23/12/2019 18:43

Oops - wider😊. But I am sure it’s a wonder🤣.

Could you hand over a bag of gifts from one car boot to another?

Dollymixture22 · 23/12/2019 18:49

Are you religious, did your friends set out any expectations when they asked you to take on this role?

In the movies the god parents are always taking the older god children out to dinner, or visiting them at university. Expensive gift for 21st that sort of thing.

Not sure if it really happens in real life.

PlayingWithFirez · 23/12/2019 19:38

Yeah my Godfather used to do that Smile. I've lovely memories of going to the wax museum and then mcdonalds with him (massive treat back then), and he came to my 21st birthday. I probably will do the same, they're still only less than a year old. Not massively religious, but that's a whole different conversation Grin

RachelEllenR · 23/12/2019 23:46

My 4 year old's present arrived in the post today and my 6 year old saw the parcel opened and asked who it was for - I said her sister as it was from her sister's godmother and she was totally accepting without batting an eyelid. It didn't upset me either as a child when my brother received from people I didn't - we accepted the reasoning easily. I wouldn't get into buying for loads of the children just because you're godmother to one.

SourAndSnippy · 24/12/2019 10:40

I'd give a family present. A good board game or something. It would be sill buying for all three of the kids and mean not too. One family gift sorts that.

If the kids are little you have years and years of this to come. Do you really want to be tying yourself into having to buy three gifts every Xmas for the next 20 years.....

Plus, what about birthdays?